I feel bad when my kid's classmate makes her cry.....

@Niah1976 (733)
Philippines
September 29, 2009 11:23am CST
Hi guys! I am a mom of a 4 years old girl. She is in her Kinder. It started last July when she always tells me that this classmate of hers is doing her a lot of bad things everday. So I told her to just let her teachers know what her classmate is doing. It was last month that I saw two scratches in her arm. She said that it was this classmate of hers who did that. She did it intentionally using her straw. So I talk to the teachers. So what they did was that they made my kid sit far from that stupid kid. But this stupid kid always gets near to my kid. It was lately that she made my kid cry again. And I am really getting pissed off. But I try to be calm and I talk to her mom. But the mom is not even apologetic. She didn't even look at my kid. It seems that she's the one who is angry or something. i don't want to hate them but they are pushing me to get really angry with them. I don't know why there are people like that. They are not sensitive with others feeling. And I don't know why there are mothers who don't discipline their kids. My kid according to her teachers is well behave, responsible and attentive. So I guess, it is her daughter who has a problem. i think she has an attitude problem. Next year, I plan to transfer my kid to another school so she can rid of the stupid classmate of hers.
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5 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Hi Niah, So glad to see u on here. Haven't in for ages. There are going to be mean kids everywhere u go. U need to teach your daughter to take her for herself & quit letting that little bully get by w/being mean to her. I hate it when a kid is that way & even hate it more when the parent is a a$$hole to. I always told my sons not to start fights but not let anyone run over them. I hope things improve for your daughter. That is a shame that thing like this go on but they have as long as i can remember.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Hi there Jo! Oh yeah, I've been busy with my facebook lately. Anyways, thanks for your response. Yeah, I told my kid to take care of herself and to be alwyas alert when that kid is approaching her. I really feel bad about the situation. It's been 2 days now since I talked to her mom and I still really hate them for being both stupid. I really ask for God's forgiveness for this. Thanks again. Happy my lotting!!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
30 Sep 09
U know all that kind of stuff begins at home, the way they are raised. The child is not to blame her mother is. i am very sad that ur daughter is the blunt of these people's ignorance. HOPE things improve soon. jo
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@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Thanks a lot Jo.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
19 Oct 09
sensitive people can be touched my the gesture of being approached by a concerned parent with something negative about their kid. sensitive people would do something about it for they wouldn't want to put one of their own in a situation like that of your kid. so i say talk to the kid. if the parent reacts tell them that you're just doing what you think is the last thing you have to do: you told the teacher, you told her. still, nothing... if she sees any offense in this then she is sensitive and what you told her before was intentionally snubbed. then tell the school. schools that care for their students treasure each and every head it has. if nothing changes then transfer your kid. but be rest assured you did what you should. and i mean all of them. p.s. this happened to me. i always talk to people like their my sibling: am straight to the point but i do know etiquette. it's just that my frankness tells them right off what i think is wrong and this is often with the tone that i do care and respect him or her and that is why i wouldn't let that (particular) kid get away with anything stupid.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
The problem is that they are both insensitive. I'm always praying for my kid. I don't want her to have a problem at this early age. Good thing God is really good. He heard me. So now my kid is okay. Thanks for your response and Happy my lotting to you
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
10 Oct 09
It is a good thought, but it won't really solve the issue. There are people like that every where you go. In my experience the best way to deal with them, is stand up for yourself, and not let them push you around. Easier said then done, and it could just be my experience. Switching schools, will stop the problem for a time, maybe even a few years, but it will eventually creep up again, in my humble opinion it would be best to teach your daughter to not let them hurt her, by any way she can. When my Son is old enough, I will be entering him into Aikido classes, that is a form of Martial Arts, that is most effective only when you are being attacked. That way, when he meets these kids, he can just sit them on their bums. It solved a lot of problems for me too. Cheers.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Oh yeah, I also plan of enrolling her to martial arts when she is already capable for it. I don't want her to just cry. If I can only take revenge for my kid, I will. LOL! Thanks for the response. Happy my lotting to you
@afarrell1 (261)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Both of mine are nearly out of school now, but we did have problems like that early in their school years. At one point I had to drive back up to the school after picking up my daughter, when we got home she took her jacket off an there was a shoe print on her back!!! The school couldn't deny at that point that some bullying was going on but they seemed to not really care. I had had several conversations with her teacher, and previously with the principal about what was going on. I had reached my last straw, I told my daughter we had done everything we could to avoid it, but she has the right to defend herself and I would stand behind her all the way. Two days later the school called me, my child had been in a fight and they were going to suspend her. I went in and talked to the principal, got the circumstances of the fight - three girls cornered her in the bathroom and, well, she took care of her business. I had told the school if they had done more to address the problem initially, it wouldn't have come to a fight in the bath room and she was NOT going to be suspended. needless to say, having plenty of documented incidents where my daughter was the victim, they couldn't argue the logic and suspended the other three girls. She never had another problem again.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Hi there! Good for your kid that she never had a problem again. I wish that my kid will not let her classmate hurt her again. Actually, I am praying for that. Happy my lotting to you!!!
@turones (206)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
i'm also having the same problem with my kid's friends. she's not yet in school but she's friends with our next door neighbors' kids. i sometimes feel that they are just taking advantage of her like when it comes to toys and other kiddie stuff. but when they're done playing, they'll just leave my poor kid behind making her cry and feel so sad. this breaks my heart and i even came up to a decision that i will not let my daughter play with those kids anymore because they do that almost every time. but when i see how happy she gets when she is playing with them, i'm also having second thoughts. i get furious every time i hear my kid crying and asking them not to go and leave her.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
I just wonder why the mothers of these kind of kids allow them to behave that way. Because, when my kid did or said something wrong, I explain to her immediately that it is not right and she should not do it again. I taught her to respect everyone regardless of age. I think you should tell kid to get rid of them. I know and I understand how it feels when somebody made your kid cry.