Children to look after parents

India
September 29, 2009 11:29pm CST
Do you feel that your children will take care of you when you get old or will you be left to fend for yourself? My opinion is our children will not look after us and we shall be cast aside when we age. Though we try to imbibe such values like parental respect and the traditional custom of looking after parents,in our Eastern societies, I do not think we have been able to actually been able to do so.The Western culture of leaving one's parents at an early age seems to be more popular these days.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
30 Sep 09
i think that we as kids have an obligation to take care of our parents as they age which we are doing now. the thing that makes it so tough is that we are raising kids of our own and we are caught in the middle because the kids need us and our parents need us as well.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
30 Sep 09
As you know I take care of my dad. I don't look at it as an obligation. It is my honor to take care of him. Not a job, but a way to show my love and respect for him is how I see it. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
At my age of 25,I am working and my parents are still active for our family business and I must admit that I don't have time enough to serve them and cook something for them in my busy schedule. But I am really intended to serve them especially when they get old because I love them so much and I always want that my parents is always with me until their last breath. My grandmother and grandpa is still alive and I really find time to visit them and bring some groceries. I treasured them all..
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I think that the family values that my husband and teach our children will influence them enough to the point where they will make an educated decision about our care as we get older. If we ever get to a point where we are not able to care for ourselves and make decisions on our own, we just want our children to do what they feel is best. I doubt that they would place us in a nursing home without the need being fully there. As young as my children all are now even, if either me or my husband is ill, they try to help us out as much as they can. I really feel this will carry over into their adult years.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
30 Sep 09
This all depends on the teachings of each child. I myself am 55 years old and my dad lives with my wife and I, and I am his caregiver after he had a few strokes and some heart surgery. It is a lot of work, but he raised me so I feel I should help him out now as well. My daughter would take care of me or my wife. My son, I know he wouldn't do it as he tends to be very lazy and likes his partying too much to have to watch an old man. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@lena12 (15)
• Mauritius
30 Sep 09
It depends a lot on values and situations. But I don't think any child would like to see his parents cast aside. Personally I've not seen any one actually abandoning their parents in my country. We have a certain respect for elders. But it's true that young people seem to want total independence from their parents and develop some degree of selfishness.
@sandymay16 (1619)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
I took care of my mom when she was sick really very sick. We were always going back to the hospital every month and every week during her lasts days on earth. But my mom was always telling us that it is unfair for children to be born just to look after the parents in their old age. It is the choice of the children if they want to or need to look after the parents. I am not married and don't intend to have children and many are saying that no one will take care of me when I am old and gray. Hmmm, there's always a way.
• United States
30 Sep 09
I think it is a personal choice for everyone. I have given my parents my word that if they become unable to care for themselves I will move in and do whatever I need to do that they live comfortable at home. I use to work in a nursing home and had a Grandmother in one and since have vowed I would never put my parents in one. I love them too much and if I am able will gladly be their caretaker. I know some cannot do the same and there are some who would not want to and that is why I say its a personal choice. I hope when I age that when I am to the point I lack being able to care for self and do not have quality of life that I will go back where I came from..Pure positive Energy.
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
30 Sep 09
Hey, I would feel really bad if I would have kids, and then they wouldn't look after me. I mean I wouldn't expect it, but I think they would at least have to check up on us from time to time and see how we are going. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@2babita (1074)
• India
30 Sep 09
Well abhikmjmdr,i think it is diffecult to say.Now you are thinking this about the children but it may change when the times come.We indians,we cannot do so and i think no children will do so.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
here in the philippines, though we are starting to have westernized values, we still make it a point to attend to our parents especially in their time of sickness. I am not married (yet) and when i do, i still feel confident that my kid(s) would be there to attend to me. it takes so much patience to attend to ailing parents. even in the middle of the night, they would ask me to please take their blood pressure as they dont feel well and i had to check up on them every 15 minutes until their blood pressure stabilizes. and to show my respect and love for them, it is the most that i can do. this has been going on often such that when i report to office, i usually puke with lack of sleep and headache. it has always been easier said than done... it would always feel heartwarming if your children will be there for you when you age.