Tucking the tags into a dress, wearing it and then....

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
September 30, 2009 9:38am CST
Returning it!! Is this ghetto or acceptable? Have you done this? WOULD you do it? This morning on the morning show I listen to in the car, one of the dj's was talking about a wedding she has to attend. THIS Saturday! They are doing a poll on the listeners to see what people have to say about it. I think that the opinion may be split and it could differ for several reasons - gender (because I think that more women might think this is a good idea and do it), financial situation (because face it, if you're already in the red IF you pay all your bills and a pricey fancy dress wouldn't have been in the budget ANYWAY) and perhaps social status or morality - because someone who grew up always doing 'the right thing' isn't likely to change what they do just to get ahead. Would you do it anyway, even if you believe it's distasteful? What if you're messy? Would THAT deter you? (red wine, chocolate, coffee, red sauce....)
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@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
30 Sep 09
People do this more often then we all know. I personally think nothing of it. It can help people who are struggling with money in cases where they just need something for one night only. I have done this. I had my sisters wedding and bought something to wear and returned the next day. I had to though because it was expensive and i needed the money. I dont look down on it but also dont agree it should be taken advantage of.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I've never actually done it, although the thought has occurred to me. I just don't think I should buy it at all if I really can't afford it... I do know that some places will not accept returns of formal wear, and maybe that's why - they know people do this.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
1 Oct 09
...Hi there mommyboo, I heard about women doing this a long time ago. I think people have the impression that people who don't have the money to afford expensive clothing do this. But in truth, I have read that it cuts across all strata, rich people do it, middle class people do it and low income people may do it as well. I think more than not being able to afford to purchase the item, it's a game of trying to get away with something. The rich are also strange, I remember reading that Jacquline Kennedy would buy some of her things from thrift stores, high end thrift stores I guess. She would take a lot of her things to thrift stores for resale as well. You never know. By the way, I have nothing against thrift shops, I love going to flea markets. I think if you spill something on a dress, you should not be able to return it, but that's up to store policy. Have a good day.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Anybody might do this, but on the radio show, Nicole was complaining that she didn't have a dress but she couldn't afford one, not if she were going to 'shop responsibly' lol! You're probably right about the getting away with something, a lot of people actually would do something if they think they can get away with it, even people whom you think would take the moral high ground. As far as Jackie Kennedy, I don't blame her. I have talked at length with friends about how my life might change if I won say... a huge lottery, and I don't think it would change much. The only person I'd hire would be a full time housekeeper, my life would remain much the same, I'm not even sure if we'd move. I think I'd still save a buck wherever I could - simply because we don't know if the economy is going to recover. The only difference I can think of that might be huge would be to have more kids, but if we were very very financially secure, it would be fine, even though we aren't super young any more. One or both of us could go back to school too if we had that kind of money, and just take the courses for knowledge if they weren't going toward a degree. I'd still gasp about having to spend $60 on skate shoes and I'd still slowly save for Christmas and buy over time. We'd still prefer to have cars we own and no loans LOL! I love second hand stuff too - especially if it is in good shape and EXACTLY what you want and not available new any more!
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I definitely would not tuck the tag into an outfit, wear it and then return it. To me it's like cheating on something - like you're cheating on the store. There is something scammy about people who do that.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Oct 09
LOL! I like how you put that... 'something scammy'. I agree, they want something for nothing. That really makes things even worse for those of us who buy things and don't return them, doesn't it?
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I have heard of this. I also know someone that said that they have done this. I would not do this. It is messy, distasteful and dishonest. I definitely wouldn't want to buy a dress or anything else someone has worn and returned. I feel like that is used goods. I do unto others as I would like them to do unto me.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I don't think I'd want to buy something someone else wore and returned either, I mean at least if you buy secondhand, you KNOW it's secondhand, AND it's been washed lol. I mean it sounds funny but who would be able to dry clean something with a tag on it without ruining the tag?
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
30 Sep 09
I would not do this. I don't think it is morally correct. Basically people should be honest. If you cannot afford to buy a new dress wear what you have, borrow something from your sister, cousin or best friend. The alternative to this are good second hand stores where you can pick up a beautiful dress for a fraction of the cost of a new one and you can keep it and wear it many times more. I remember my son's wedding. One of my cousins who was a single mother with children, struggeling financially did not want to come because she could not afford to buy a new dress. In the end she came anyway and wore a very simple plain summer dress. She had such a good time, being out and about dancing and meeting relatives whom she had not seen for a long time. She was positively glowing and looked absolutely beautiful. Not a single person noticed her outfit. If you would ask anyone today they would not remember the style colour or type of dress she wore. I am quite an "old bird" and I know in the 60ties when people wore mink stoles to formal events people would buy one at a fancy store and return it the following day. This always shocked me. Also my mother-in-law would buy items in wellknown department stores, leave the tags on and put them away. Sometimes she would return them after 6 months and get her money back. These days stores hae very strict policies (at least here in Canada) and you could not do this any more. I have heard of people buying dresses and trying to return them the next day. I don't know how successful they would be.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I have asked some stores what their policy is on returning items before, especially if something is a gift. I rarely have to return clothing, I'm a careful shopper lol. I have actually left the tags on something before ACCIDENTALLY, not because I had any intention of returning it - and then I was accused of planning to return it by a friend who raided my closet! That was actually kind of funny because I told her I'd had the dress for at least 2 years, if it was getting returned it was going back to the factory because the store that sold it to me was out of business. There are so many cool things you can do to change and accessorize a dress you already have, even if you can't sew and aren't especially crafty. I also agree with the second hand idea, I do that as well. I think there are even places that rent clothing - like tux shops but for women. I would think places like that would make a TON if there are still any around.
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
2 Oct 09
I would not do it EVER I have returned foulty goods after I have worn them few times but I make it clear to the shop people that the clothes have been worn and the reason I return them. I would hate to wear something that someone had left their sweat all over, that is just gross.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I would not do it. It is just wrong and I am too much of a wimp to try to pull something that illegal off...i'd get caught...guaranteed. Still this is an old trick. Lots of women do it. I really don't care what others do.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Hi, mommyboo I don't think I will ever do that. I am little miss righteous when it comes to that issue. I can always find ways of finding a dress I need when I am short on the budget. I can buy something cheap and just accessorize, borrow from a friend or dig into my pile of old clothes. Besides, here in our place, stores refunding the whole amount are very rare. Usually, they will allow you to return but they will credit to you the amount of the item. Then, you have to buy something else and consume that credit. Same thing, I will still be spending the whole amount. Cheers!
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
30 Sep 09
No I have never done that and never will. I do not think it is right just to buy a dress tuck the tag wear it to a party or wedding and then take it back. I only take something back if there is something wrong a torn spot or it does not fit.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
30 Sep 09
i would not do that. i don't think that is fair to the person who comes behind me and wants to buy the dress. if it's a dress that i can not afford to have, then i don't want it at all. really that is just tacky, not ghetto just tacky