My interpretation of a participating in mylot discussions.

@dpk262006 (56531)
Delhi, India
October 1, 2009 12:36am CST
Hi friends, whenever I start a new discussion, it appears to me that as I am the host and I am inviting other friends/mylotters to join me at my home for participating in the discussion and for sharing their opinion on a particular subject. I feel that whosoever comes to respond is like my honoured guest and I should treat him/her with due regards, respect and honuor and by offering my comments on my response, I should ‘thank’ him/her for joining me in my discussion. Likewise, when I participate in others’ discussions, I feel that I am stepping into their homes/territory and expressing my views for their consideration. I expect that s/he would extend the minimum courtesy towards me by acknowledging my response and by posting comments on response. This was my interpretation, as far as taking part in discussions, is concerned. What is your take on this and how do you see participation of others in your discussions? Thanks for your responses in advance.
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@oindy54 (3446)
• India
10 Oct 09
Yes I agree fully with your views.It is important to make others feel that their responses are being accepted with due credit and when we comment back,the interaction simply grows and that is the way we learn and grow.I harbour similar thoughts as you so thanks for sharing your point of view.Take care.
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
10 Oct 09
Hi oindy! You see it is dear friends like you who encourage me to move ahead by appreciating and acknowledging my point of view. I did not notice you for quite a long time, I thought you were busy somewhere else. It is an honor to entertain my guests in my discussions and I try my level best to 'treat' them well. Many thanks for stepping to my house and giving me a chance to welcome you.
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@oindy54 (3446)
• India
11 Oct 09
Hi, Yes I had not logged in for a very long time and thereafter had gone on a trip to Arunachal,Assam,Shillong so was not online too.But I hope to be active now.It is good to have friends like you who care.Many thanks.Have a great day!
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@oindy54 (3446)
• India
11 Oct 09
Since I was away from the community for a long time,I am quite baffled about this.Could you please help?When I go to the category mylot.com I get to see this: 'There are no discussions currently for this list.' Earlier I always found discussions to respond to and it is the same for other interest categories.Then what about this one?I even found your discussion through a mail notification.Do let me know please.
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• United States
1 Oct 09
You are correct. You are such a gentleman and I hope you are respected by everyone here on MyLot.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
1 Oct 09
A perfect gentleman indeed!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
Sarah and Mysdiana both! I am blushing after reading your comments. I am much thankful to you for giving me this honor. Actually, you both are equally nice and wonderful friends and you always look at the positive side. I am blessed to have two great friends like you and it is a special feeling for me to treat and entertain you in my home. Deepak
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@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I appreciate it when people respond to my answers to their discussions. I also try to respond to those who respond to mine. I can only do that for like the first 3 days after I ask the question though other wise it gets to hard to keep up. So for 3 days after I ask a question I will check to see if there are new comments and I will respond. After that I just can't do it especially because I try to ask at least 2 questions per day. But I try I really do, and after someone leaves me a comment and I respond, I always go to their account and answer one of their questions if I can.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 09
Hi dear! It is really heartening to note that you know how to reciprocate gestures and you are mind enough to respond to your friends' discussions. Thanks for being part of this discussion. I am happy to welcome you in my home.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
1 Oct 09
Hi Deepak! This guest seems to be six hours late for the party and here I have a legitimate excuse for this.My computer had crashed once again and I was unable to participate. Joking apart, it is ind of you to say these words and I feel as honoured to be writing a response as I would consider a response[I too feel very honoured that a person has been kind enough to respond to my discussion topic.] As far as the "mimimum courtesy " expectation I think this is just in a tiny corner of my mind and not in the forefront. In short, I feel honoured when someone responds.I do not hold it too much against them if they don't comment.Of course then there is not much fun in the interaction and it becomes jsut a matter of writing a few lines for a few cents.
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
HI Kala! You are always welcome to my home, later comers are also treated with due respect and regards and I feel pleasure in treating them in my home. I feel that they spared their invaluable time to share their thoughts with me. It is always sweet of my friends to post their considered responses to my discussions. I love to read their ideas, opinions and views. Thanks a lot for joining us with your nice response.
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
1 Oct 09
That is so beautiful but coming from you its not a surprise at all. I think we should create an environment of sanity and fondness so that whoever has participated could feel the halo. They should be treated well with love and caress. I try to do that myself. I feel, its my honor to have them in my small world of love and happiness and sorrows. People here are beautiful and many of them have entered into my world in MD and made it a wonderful place. O am really grateful to each one of them for their precious sharings. Thanks Deepak for being a wonderful friend.
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
Hi Mimpi! Very true that whosoever comes to our home (read discussions) should be treated with a warm welcome and should be entertained well. We should not forget that s/he has spared his/her valuable time to share his/her thoughts with us and therefore, be s/he be respected. I must also feel thankful that you are here as my friend, philosopher, guide and mentor and I will continue to draw inspiration from you. Many thanks for honouring me with your presence in my house and for a fabulous response.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Your home and guest analogy is good. It really is as simple as that and we are conversing with people and sharing our minds and thoughts. And it is more than just thinking of how much we are going to earn. People who are just after the points and the little pennies won't last anyway. Keep up the good work and happy mylotting.
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
Hi there! Many thanks for appreciating my analogy of home and guest. You are right that sharing our thoughts is more important than earnings. Earning, I suppose, comes as bonus. Thanks again for being the first one to respond.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
hello deepak! that's so nice of you! something that i can't really do with my 'guests' in some of my discussions...but anyway, i am always thankful to all those mylotters who responded to my discussions... and i think you have a very nice way of interpretation about the discussions...huh! as for me, i also see it this way but just there are times that i was not able to respond or comment back on their responses... sometimes i also treated discussions as chat room! hehe where i can chat with my friends about certain topics... have a nice day deepak! and thanks for letting me in in your 'home'
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
its always be my pleasure deepak to be in your 'home'...participating in your beautiful discussions to the best that i can... i am really guilty of not being courteous to some of my 'visitors' huh! but anyway, i am learning now little by little on how to entertain & welcome my 'guests'... and that's why i think, whenever we start a discussion...we must always be ready...ready to entertain our respective guests and friends...
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
Hi ckyera! It always feels great to see you in my discussion and reading your responses/comments. You write beautiful, as you yourself are. Yes, you are right whenever we start a discussion , we should be ready to entertain our guests and should welcome them in the best possible manner.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
oh thanks for that my good looking friend...(according to the miror!) haha yes we should always be prepared just like the boyscouts! hehe but sometimes its really not easy to be the 'host' hehe even in real life, i find it difficult to be the 'host' but i need to learn to be good in that coz in my husband's nature of work..our house needs to be always open to all kinds of visitors... its friday today...and weekend is coming over...time for you to enjoy your Sunday? hehe or try to do those things that your wife wanted you to do? happy weekend my friend! :-)
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I think that the way you see it is very admirable. It really can help to make your responses longer, kinder, and more at ease. It's also fun to visualize what a person's home may look like by the way they respond, and by what their interests are. I have wondered how a person looks when chatting online, but to my knowledge I've never visualized their home. I hope that you are doing well, and are having a great time mylotting!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
Hi dear! I am delighted to read your kind words of admiration about the discussion. Our purpose should always be to make the discussion more enjoyable and meaningful and treating others with utmost respect. I try my level best to entertain my respondents (read guests) when the visit my discussions (read homes). I have only my words with me to show my appreciation and applause for their dedicated efforts. I am doing well and hope you are also doing well. May I know, when is the D'Day for you? Have a great time during your courtship. My best wishes. Deepak
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I am a bit confused by what you mean, D'day? Please do explain so that I can answer you. I assume you mean marriage day, or something of that sort... and if so I am already married now. I hope that your having fun mylotting. I enjoy talking to you, you are a very nice person.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 09
Hi dear! Oh I am sorry, I could not make myself clear to you. By D'Day I was referring to your marriage (day). As far as I remember, few days ago only you told me that you got engaged and would get marry soon. So I thought you have yet to get marry. It is all the more good that your marriage has already taken place (I am again sorry, I did not know about it). My best wishes are with you for a very very happy married life. Thanks for your kind words about me. I also love talking to you.
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@owlwings (39872)
• Cambridge, England
2 Oct 09
I like your analogy very much. It teaches us to have a certain respect for others, even if we disagree with them - it is, by the way, quite in order to openly disagree with someone as long as we do it with respect. Actually, it is the element of disagreement (or, perhaps, more accurately and completely, the existence of different views) which probably contributes most to a discussion. A topic on which nobody has anything to say except "I agree" cannot really become a discussion and what can you say as a comment to someone who simply says "I agree with all you say"? The Guidelines are actually a little misleading when they say: "DON'T Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings." It has been proved beyond all argument that adding substantial comments to peoples' responses DOES increase our earnings! What is meant, of course, is that merely saying "Thank you for responding" out of politeness does not contribute anything to the discussion and is bad practice in that sense. I don't have any particular animosity about people who don't comment on my responses but I tend to think of them (especially if they don't comment on ANY responses) as, perhaps, not being very interested in their own discussions! As a matter of fact, I don't always comment on every response in my discussions. In some cases it is because I would have very little different to say to them from what I have already said to others and in some cases it is because the response itself is so minimal that there is nothing useful one can add (except, perhaps, to encourage them to say more). There are all kinds of people in MyLot (as in the world). So long as people don't say anything strongly disrespectful or hurtful to me, it doesn't matter greatly to me whether people choose to comment on what I say or not. Saying nothing is not necessarily a sign of impoliteness or that one is being ignored in my culture, at least, and I don't have any notion that everything I say is necessarily always valuable and relevant to the 'discussion owner' (or to the discussion as a whole) - I hope that my responses usually are, of course!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
Hi dear! I should say that you stole the show with your wonderful wonderful response. You explained the issue in an elaborative manner and put forth your point of view effectively. I buy your arguments that comments should look like comments and it should give the impression to the respondents that their replies have been well received, acknowledged and appreciated. It always feels great when our friends comment back and say some good remarks about our responses, it boosts our morale. I always look forward to some interesting responses and comments and your response is the best one so far. I am thankful to you for sparing your invaluable time to join me and for coming to my home as my guest, it is great honor to treat and entertain you. Many thanks for such a vivid and outstanding response.
@owlwings (39872)
• Cambridge, England
2 Oct 09
dpk, I feel honoured. I promise you that I am nothing special. I am human as you are. If we were really to spend an evening together, however, I think I would enjoy the talk as much as I would the food!
@owlwings (39872)
• Cambridge, England
2 Oct 09
Having read the many other excellent responses (to which you have replied individually and with all due respect), I see that we have a 'party' or a gathering of kindred spirits rather than an intimate evening between two friends. This is what MyLot is really about. It provides the space ... we (or those of us who choose to) supply the dosas (or whatever finger food is appropriate) and the conversation.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
I think that is a wonderful view on discussions' particiaption of mylotters. Yes, in my case i feel so greateful and appreciated when my friends comment back on my responses. It is such a great interaction with friends on here and i also agree that it is a give and take process. I hope i conntributed a little on this.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 09
It was so nice of you to welcome me into your home, not only once but too many times. Thank you and have a nice day, my friend.
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
You are most welcome and the pleasure is mine, dear friend. It is an honor to be a guest to your home. Nice chatting with you, my friend, have a good day.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
It is my honour too to welcome and entertain you when you come to my 'home'.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
1 Oct 09
Hi Deepak its really a very nice imagination that you are host and inviting all of us to your home.. I totally agree with what you said .. expecting from others is what we all of us do when we respond to any discussion.. few friends comment us back and few will never do that..
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• Bangalore, India
1 Oct 09
no words to say
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
It is your greatness, when you say 'no words to say'.
• China
2 Oct 09
Your comment is correct sometimes. But it's nice when replying to someone that has the same thought like mine! Have a nice time
@mayka123 (11050)
• India
30 Dec 09
Your interpretation is very good. When I start a discussion and see the responses I feel happy that someone has participated in my joys / sorrows / thoughts / beliefs. It is nice that when I am not around my mylot friends feel my absence and express their joy / happiness at seeing me back. It shows that people here just do not respond for money but respond as friends. It feels nice that even though I do not respond to a lot of mylotters discussions they still take the trouble of responding to my discussions. Our discussions are like a home where all mylotters visit as guests and come in with their "gift" of responses. Very often we like the "gifts" that we receive but sometimes we do receive gifts that we do not like. But we quietly take those too without complaining.It has always been a pleasure visiting your "home" of discussions and receiving your "gift" of responses.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
30 Dec 09
Hi dear! Very well explained. You in fact filled up those loose points, which I might have left in the post. Yes, responses are not less than gifts and most of the times, we get to receive gifts of our choice. It always feels great to read friends' responses and it is also true that many of us do not respond for the sake of earnings only, we genuinely want to help others. Great response by you, one of the best so far. Deepak
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@mayka123 (11050)
• India
5 Jan 10
Thanks a lot....am using these smilies after a long time.....
• India
25 Oct 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, Well, you are very right in your way, but tehre is no harm if we replace 'home' with heart so that I will be more closer to venu of discussion. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
26 Oct 09
Heart is also a good replacement and in our home, we welcome others with our heart. Thanks for joining us.
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• India
26 Oct 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, So nice of you for agreeing to my way for being close in the family. May God bless You and have a good time.
@Sreekala (23738)
• India
1 Oct 09
Hi deepak, Your interpretation is so good but I am accepting the first part only where you felt as the host and treating the responders as your guest. I am also valuing them and acknowledging the acceptance sooner or later. In the second part when I respond to others discussion, I never expect the treatment as a guest. I expect the responses from close friends only otherwise I won’t think that they should acknowledge my response. But many of them are responding and resolving their discussions and only some are not bothered much or don’t know to keep the courtesy. Have a great weekend and enjoy the holidays.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
Hi sree! You are free to accept either entire discussion or a part of it, as you feel like. In any case you will always be treated as special and honored guest in my home. You always extend due courtesy and same should also be extended by us. We may not expect from others, but if they acknowledge and post comments, is not it make us more glad. Thanks for joining and sharing your wonderful opinion.
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@Sreekala (23738)
• India
2 Oct 09
Deepak, I will be really happy to get the acknowledgement of my responses and at the same time there is no disappointment too if some failed to comment back.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 09
I always accord a 'red carpet' welcome to each and everyone who come to pay their visit and avail themselves in my discussions. I treat each one as an important guest so they will not shy away from my future discussions. When they took their time to response to my discussions it is only fair that I repay their sacrifice by coming back to them to comment to make them feel comfortable and welcomed as it is not everyday that I have the chance to welcome them to my 'open house' and it is only through posting of discussions that I be able to interact with other mylotters. I assure everyone that they are not sidelined or neglected in my territory. Every response is treated with utmost importance as without them, a discussion is kept longer in the cold room and eventually becomes history, no responses mean the discussion is a failure which also means our efforts are in vain.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 09
The beauty is we are having international guests to our house everyday and this represent the world community in our beautiful home. We learn and we earn while being a good host to a multi racial community.
@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 09
Very True Zandi! We are lucky that we get opportunity to welcome 'guests from international community' and they make our house more important and graceful. Undoubtedly, we get to learn a lot when our guests interact with us. Deepak
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Hello dpk, Your interpretation of Mylot participation is really nice. I never thought of that. But in a way you are right. Treating our responder with much respect and appreciation is good in making the discussion alive and active. I would always put this into my mind. Thanks for sharing!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
20 Oct 09
Hi red! Thanks for agreeing with me and appreciating my interpretation about mylot. I always try my level best to treat my guests respectfully and I feel honored when they spare their invaluable time to come to my house (read my discussions). Thanks for joining us with your views.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
14 Oct 09
Hello Deepak, I think everything depends on what kind of person you are. what kind of nature you have and how important are social values for you. If a person by nature is a kind of who gives equal importance to every matter, and deals it with lot of interest and enthusiasm, appreciating the respondent like a VIP GUEST...then his feelings will be very much like yours. But all are not same. Some may give importance only to earrings, some may not mind even if his/her best friend did not answer, some may just forget........some may not have time for follow up......and some may be confused for no reason ,like me....., and since I am confused, I better stop here....
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
15 Oct 09
Hi dear! It is true that lot will depend upon the 'nature' of the host and how s/he wishes to welcome his/her guests in her/his discussions. Everyone will have a different outlook to the responses and everyone may not post his comments. I for sure will welcome my respondents to my discussions and it makes me doubly glad to read and understand their responses. Thanks a lot for sparing your time and joining us to tell us your views. (Pl.don't get confused, there is nothing as such in the discussion itself).
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
4 Oct 09
even i think along similar lines,that is the reason why i feel so guilty if i dont comment to their responses in my discussions but now i genuinely dont have time(hope my friends will underwstand that)
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
5 Oct 09
Hi Riya! I know about you and your thinking and you are always particular in posting your return comments. You are such a sweet and humble person. Hope you are doing well. Deepak
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@pupupd (1521)
• India
4 Oct 09
Wow! You have made an amazing interpretation of my-lot world. A place where each discussion is a home of a member and users are invited to drop in their opinion is awesome comparison!! I too have a similar opinion. My interpretation is that my-lot is a meeting place of loads of members where one or more members come up with a topic to discuss and any one who can add his/her opinion can participate and respond to that topic. Some topics get loads of responses, some don't and some of the topics get banned by main judging team thats my-lot team here . Some get best responses and some get positive ratings or negative ones. So a complete package of discussing and posting is available here at my-lot! Have fun participating!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 09
Hi pup! It is great pleasure to welcome you in my discussion. Thanks a lot for your kind words about analogy used by me. Indeed you are correct, when you say that here on mylot there is different kind of discussions and varied responses and views. Members do not shy away from expressing themselves to the hilt and they enjoy writing their thoughts. It is a complete package and members like you make this place more enjoyable. Thanks so much for sparing your valuable time to join me in my discussion and enriching us with your own interpretation of mylot.
• Canada
2 Oct 09
What I hear from your discussions is that you have the utmost respect for what you and others do here at MyLot. I appreciate that. When I first joined MyLot I never gave to much thought about respecting anyone’s time for writing or reading my work or anyone else's for that matter. I sort of looked at it as a site people came to in hopes to make a quick buck without to much effort and I was one of them. It was kind of hard to treat it seriously actually because there appeared to be too many MyLotter’s writing one lined silly questions begging for one word silly answers. However eventually I noticed that there were some conscientious MyLotte's and through them I learnt to take the whole MyLot process very seriously. I just wish I have had more time spend here!
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@dpk262006 (56531)
• Delhi, India
2 Oct 09
Hi dear! I think we should never forget to pay our respect and regards to our dear friends, who spare their valuable time and choose our discussions to respond. I feel it is their magnanimity that they come and share their opinion with us. As you have decided to come to my home through participating in this discussion. It is always great fun to treat and entertain others and make others happy by way of posting comments. I understand you view point that it is serious mylotter, who appeals you. Thanks a lot for making this discussion more enjoyable with your response.