can anyone help me ?i do not know what i should do to win her heart

China
October 2, 2009 9:36am CST
i fall in love with a girl secretly ,i love her so much and i think she has a favorable impression on me for we talk freely and happily always .yesterday i owned my affaction to her .i felt disappointed that she just said she need some time to think of my love .i just do not know what i should do next . should i keep confessing my love to her ? or just waiting ? everyone ,help me ,it is the first time i fall in love .i do not want to be a loser .
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@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
2 Oct 09
Girl don't like the boy express love directly, you got a free and happy talk with her, that proved she have the good impression for you, however she doesn't have the preparation after you express your lover to her, another way, girls like to confuse apparently but in her heart she wants to test you, so don't worry, she said you that she think of your love, so wait her news,if she confuse you formally that you need to consider your will continue to love her or not.Best wishes.
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@max1950 (2313)
• United States
2 Oct 09
just be yourself, it's either going to work out or not but dont be someone your not.
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• China
3 Oct 09
thank you for your advice ,i believe everything will goes well .
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
hello jack, Are sure it's love and not infatuation or admiration. i had the same feeling with the person when i meet her way back years ago, during the eye-ball event. i thought i was inlove because she approach me and all. but in the end it was a disaster. my advice is that be friended her, maybe she wants to test you for simply reject you in the end. but in any case, you should simply be friendly with her until she's comfortable enough to accept your love someday
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• China
3 Oct 09
thank you very much, it is kind of you .i will be patience and try my best to win her heart .
• India
2 Oct 09
You have said what you have to. Anyway what she said was to be expected because until now she treated you as a friend and now onwards she has to see as a lover. She needs time for that. Don't push her too much to and force her to love you. Be yourself with her. Maintain the same relation. Give her some time. Be more cooperative. Share more things with her. Try telling her that you love her but if she is feeling uncomfortable stop saying that. Don't worry she has a good impression on you. Maintain that and your love will succeed. Don't change too much to impress her. All the best
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• China
3 Oct 09
thank you for you advice !i just do not know what to say
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
3 Oct 09
Hi Jack.... i can feel your love for your girl from your words buddy... she has told that she needs some time to think and tell what she feels... she never rejected you buddy(if she doesnt like you, will she ask time to think?).... so stay chill... let her think and get you a good response... but dont hurry up... after all it deals with your life.. get her some time so that she can very well understand that its hard to live without jack... may be she can feel her love for you in your absence only... so wait buddy... happy mylotting...
• China
3 Oct 09
what you said have make me felt better,thank you very much !i will be patience .
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
3 Oct 09
Thats great to hear buddy... so cheer up... life is yours... happy posting jack
@johnryanr (311)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I would advice you to do something unique to her like forming a garden into a heart with her name on it. Surely she will be impressed and win her heart. This is effective especially when you had a rival in winning her. So gud luck try the best of luck.
• China
3 Oct 09
thank you .it is kind of you .
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
3 Oct 09
Do not keep confessing your love, you have said once and that is enough. Just be kind to her as usual and have patience and let her take time to decide. In love no one is a loser, even if you lose one friend it only means that she was not the right one for you.There is someone who has been made specially for you, so for the time being you do not get your love, then may be someone else was in your destiny.
• China
3 Oct 09
nice to receive your message ,i will keep moving .
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Like what the song says... tell me how to win your heart, for I haven't got a clue, let me start by saying I love you... Hello! You've done the first step, you have made your feelings known to her and that's good enough. It's all up to you now how to show it. Just don't do overdo it. Some girls hate men who are extremely enthusiastic, it gives them the feeling that this maybe just a flash in the pan thing that will soon die down. Act normally and try to win her friendship in a real way. Cheers. have a great day.
• China
3 Oct 09
just be active ,i will .thank you ~
• Mexico
3 Oct 09
Jack: if she ask you for time, give her some! Don't try to push her or she'll receive a bad impression of you. Some people says that times answers every question and even if she says no, that won't make you a loser. good luck
• China
3 May 13
At first,thanks!To tell you a good new:we finally get together and we go through a fantastic love journey.The most important thing is that we are very sure we are the one for each other.Anyway,thanks.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
hey jack_xie, be patient. don't give up so easily after all you said you are in love with the girl. you already confessed your feelings for her so don't stop showing her that love. a girl is a girl soemtimes we don't just jump with joy when somebody profess love to us. she is probably surprised with your confession or perhaps she is not sure if you are really in love with her. she only said she'll think about it which mean she has not rejected your love for her. so hang on there keep on loving her eventually if she feels the same way she will admit it to you. on the other hand if she tells you that she does not love you the way you do it does not mean that you are a loser. it means that she is not the right girl for you and you have to move on to find that right one for you.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Hello, she could have someone in mind already that she has to think who she wants the most. however, patient is always win... so if you love her that much then you should wait and always give her full of love that you used to have. If she deny then you should back up... sometimes it makes her realized. Give her sometime to think ok... love is take time and you can't force something to fit in you if it never wants to be.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 09
hi jack__xie just do as she asks and keep on being kind and sweet to her. ask her out, take her for dinner, just be nice to her but do not push her. If she loves' you she will find ways soon to tell you and then you can go from there. good luck and God bless.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
you have to give her space in order for her to think well. if you'll continue on pressuring her, she might decide the other way around so respect her decision. wait for the time that she'll be able to decide and if she does, whatever her decision may be, accept it... ^_^
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
Just stay being friends with her. Maybe she needs time to be sure with herself. Its enough that she knows how you feel. If you love her, you will wait for her until she is ready to commit herself to you. Do not rush love, just be true to your feelings and show her how concern you are to her. That way you will win her heart. Remember action speaks louder than voice. But never act like trying hard for she maybe irritated with you. Girls easily fall to man with good heart. You are one step forward, as you said you enjoy each others company. Keep it that way.