Of all the people you know, who annoys you the most and why?
October 3, 2009 8:43am CST
I have a friend who says things in the moment that she has no intention of doing. When my car broke down she told me that my daughter wouldnt miss a doctors appointment because she would take her. My daughter has sickle cell. She hasnt taken us once. When I was laid off from my job we had just moved after having a fire. She had come into some money so she said she would pay to do the laundry. I told her no thank you that it was a thoughtful gesture but unnecessary. She insisted so I finally said okay and thanks so much. I also told her that it would probably cost $30-$35. SHe said No problem we'd do it first think in the a.m. The next day she didnt show up until 12p.m. and handed me $20 and asked me if that was enough. I dont mean to sound ungrateful but we went through all this. She does it all the time. We went to this clothing store and they had these T-shirts for $5. She asked me if I liked it? She insisted she wanted to buy us both one so we could where them together when we go out. She literally begged me to allow her to buy it for me. (Early in life I made it a rule that If I dont have the money I dont buy it.) after this little scene at the store I finally said okay. We continued to look around. WHen she was about to check out she looks at me and says" You wouldnt mind if I dont buy you this?" WHAT! After all that? Now she dont want to buy it! She does this with everything! I flipped. She makes these promises and then when the time comes she doesnt do it. Its not fair. She takes full advantage of all the favors and gifts I buy and others as well. I foiled and colored her hair, as well as, paid for the supplies as well. I never once bailed out as she does. I am at my wits end. I cant handle it. She has this idea that she can do alittle of the promise she made and that's good enough. SORRY friend NOT in my book! Tell me about the friend or person that annoys you the most. dl
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• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 09
hi dloveli wow with a friend like that you almost feel like' she would make a good enemy,huh? the person here at Gold Crest that annoys me most is my roommate which I am stuck with. She seems to be losing a few of her marbles as she does things without even thinking of the consequences. for example last night really earlymorn, about two thirty she got up and sat rocking in her ro cking chair.that was not what made me so furious, she rocked the thing into the middle of the room, then pulled her walker so when I came out of the bathroom, into the dark room I almost fell as she had narrowed the walking space to about ten inches. I got really mad and told her, Katherine you have to leave room for us to walk across the room or one of us is going to fall. She just kept saying, whining really, I have to rock my back hurts me, and she misses the point. Finally she did get up and moved the d ammed walker to the foot of her bed, thus making a path through the room, She will get in bed and pull her radio and her clock and CD player onto the bed with her,pull the electric cord they are on really tight, then turn over and crash all her stuff falls onto the floor. she does not seem to even begin to think about the consequences of her actions. then she tells me why doe snt my radio wo rk, what is wrong with my clock? well lady if you keep throwing them on the floor, you will break the damned things. grrrrrrrrrr.
• United States
3 Oct 09
Bless her heart! She sounds a lot like some of the people I see at the nursing home and assisted living facility where I go to perform every month! I imagine she does get on your nerves being like this so much. I wonder if any of the staff can do anything about this. Have you tried talking to some of them about it? I know she can't help the way she is, though. Kathy.
3 Oct 09
I had a friend like that .I helped her out with the kids,listened to her constant moaning about her job ,I supported her through many a crisis then when I needed help I did not see her for dust.My back was bad,my mum was dying of cancer,she took me to see her once then moaned about it on the way home.As she was such a busy person ,we then went to pick her son up from school.I was trying to hold myself together while she talked to everyone in the playground,this was after visiting my dying mother.She never once dropped in to see me while my back was bad,my other friends called to sit with me,doing cleaning ,cooking my lunch ,one friend even came in and prepared my evening meal to save my husband doing it,.My friends were brilliant and one day this friend of mine said she would take a turn and give the others a day off.She did not turn up I was left all day crawling to the loo and making a cuppa tea nearly killed me.I pretended she had turned up a few weeks after I recovered it came out that she did not bother to turn up ,the others went mad,we would have come in ,you should have rung us.boy did I get it in the neck they just needed a day off ,they had been so good to me.This friend of yours sound like she has issues which a doctor should deal with ,or she just likes to flaunt her wealth to some people money is power.Put her off and dont get to envolved .You need friends that you can rely on,especially with a sick child you have enough to deal with.Let the others know you are only giving her lip service and not to tell her anything.
3 Oct 09
Hi, I agrre, your friend can be annoying. Well, for me, the most annoying person I encountered was probably the person who always talks a lot. She could be really annoying especially when she won't let me finish talking. But still, I love her because she's my friend.
9 Oct 09
You sure can pick 'em dloveli. That's no friend mate. That person is false and shallow. She takes advantage of your good nature and pushes your buttons. Whether the button pushing is deliberate I don't know but she must know she does it. A friend is true...a friend doesn't bulldust you all the time and wind you up. A friend doesn't say what they will do to help you, they just do it.
• United States
9 Oct 09
You are absolutely right Tickle! I dont know why I didnt see this earlier. Usually I am right on top of these types of situations. I can see it right from the start. She plays this innocent role that really annoys me. I played into it when I first met her. I knew it was too good to be true. thanks for backing me up! dl
9 Oct 09
You're a good person; honest, straightforward and strong. You don't need people who bring you down like this because you are better than that. You must have befriended this person when you were at a low point in life. Aim higher and see yourself with a friend who is true.
5 Oct 09
The thing with people like that is that you need to know how to call their bluff. "you don't mind if I don't buy you this?" my response would be "I wouldn't have minded if you hadn't have offered, but offered, so now you are obliged. You offered, and would not let up until I accepted. Now we have an agreement. $35 reduced to $20, when it was known to be $35. That's when you're dishonest and tell her it'll cost $60, because then when she only hands you $35, it'll cover it! LOL I've been known to do that. Someone in my family once offered to pay my bus ticket home, and then claimed to only have a buck in his wallet. I told him "hey! They accept ALL MAJOR CREIDT CARDS HERE, you know!!!" I've gotten really good at dodging things like this.