Does going through the same problem many times make you immune to it

@hotsummer (10449)
Philippines
October 4, 2009 2:34am CST
Sometimes, i feel my life is just running in circles. My problem or situation i am in now seems to be just a repeat of what happened before. Only that different people involved. And sometimes different place, but often time it involves in same place as well. and i can see so much similarities only that it happen on different times. And the effect though is exactly the same. and i go through the same emotional circus that i once went through going through this problem. Sometimes it makes me feel fed up of the same situation over and over again though there are quite some time gap in between them but that does not make the difference. It seems like i am living the same life all over again. But i have heard that sometimes exposing ourselves to the thing that makes us feel pain and hurt us deeply, and trying to deal with it head on and face to face is the only way to get over the hurt and the sadness that we feel that this problem brings. that we should not run away from it and that we should face it until such time that this problem does not hurt us any more within us and that we can only be a strong person when we are able to conquer the problem and when the hurt and pain is not there any more.
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@hexeduser22 (5853)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
I don't know if it will really make you immune but I think the reason why you were caught in the same problem or situation over and over again is because you fail to learn from it. My advice to you is stay away from those kind of situations. You'll be really immune with the same problem if you learn to avoid and handle the problem properly. Happy Mylotting:)
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
how can i avoid falling in love, though it is not the only one problem that seems to repeat itself. just an example. sometimes we can't help it but bump into someone who we are going to fall with and seems so attracted to but the other person does not reciprocate the feeling. but the other kind of problems that seems to repeat itself, yeah i think i better avoid them.
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• Philippines
4 Oct 09
I don't think falling in love is a problem. Everyone falls in love. Don't avoid falling in love, avoid committing the same mistakes you did the last time you fell in love. Be smarter and stronger so that you'll know what and when to avoid. You must learn to handle the situation properly if it comes to a point that it really is unavoidable:)
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
it is nice to be in love. but i have no luck in love. i just don't know why. but maybe because of my attitude or personality that i had not been able to take advantage of the few opportunity life has given me on love. only few people has been interested in me throughout my life and they were mostly short lived. and didn't go to a real relationship actually. love gives a good feeling but it actually bought mostly pain as only few people did give at least some interest in me and most just ignore me. what i hated the most is i didn't able to establish a friendship with them at least with them.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 09
"History repeats itself", or "Life is a cycle" - it gets repetitive after a while. Incidents that have haunted you before, haunt you again. Having the same experience makes us not only immune to it, it makes us learn to understand (or deal with) the problem better compared to people who have never had your experience. We must never run away from problems. Like what you've mentioned, tackle it head-on rather than pretending you're ok with not doing anything about it. This is perhaps the only way to understand the problem better so that you're ready the next time it hits you.
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
you said it perfectly well. like you have described how i deal with my problem before. i used to dismiss my problem and just pretend that it does not exist but the more i ignore it the more it becomes worse and the stronger its effect on me in the long run. still i am still waiting for the time i will be able to muster the courage i have inside. still i cringe in fear to deal with this thing that is causing me pain. every time i face it head on it never fails to swell my eyes with river of tears. i just can't hardly face without crying every time i face it. that is how bad my problem. it just affected the inner most being. the deepest part of me just cry out in pain and sorrow and regret on what happened to my life. like there was no more hope for me. just typing this words just make me want to cry again and makes me remember every thing that i have been through. those nights i cry myself to sleep. like a person without a hope. and so now i made it a point if i can't put myself to face this problem that at least i will not again expose myself to this problem and cry like a river again.