That's what friends are for.........

@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
October 4, 2009 7:30am CST
No, I'm not quoting the lyrics of a song. I just think of my mylot friends that I have no idea how we become friends and what for? LOL. Everytime I get invitations I just keep on pressing the accept tab. After that, no more activities, they hardly respond though I intentionally look for their posts and respond to them. Perhaps they just invite so that people will respond to them. On the other hand, most of those who I am having nice interactions with and continuous response are not in the list. That's what friends are for. Are 100% of those who are in your friend's list active in interacting with you? What are friendship for? any idea?
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@picjim (3002)
• India
4 Oct 09
Friends are there to help you through thick and thin.But this is what i noticed too.Here we accept friendship respond and they reply but nothing beyond.Interaction is only on mylot there is no invitation to chat or get to know one another better.I somehow feel that there ought to be something beyond writing a few lines and getting a reply.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
4 Oct 09
I think that is a very individual thing. I agree that 'friend' has a much deeper meaning than just responding on discussions and over time I have been lucky to discover many Lotters who are the sort that youintend. There are many. It just takes time to discover them
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
I do get PM sometimes and I appreciate that. That's all is there to it. But many of those who are in the list, I don't exactly know what friendship are for other than being in the list. LOL cheers!
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
no. some of those who are in my list don't even interact when we answer their posts. i always go back to the discussions they start and check what they can say about my comment, but i am sometimes disappointed. same here, i get invitations to become friends, i just accept them after i view their profile. so, as u say, what are friends for here? lol
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Yes, anyway I enjoy interacting with those who are not in my list. What are list for? LOL Have fun.
• India
5 Oct 09
Well, its pretty sad to say, that, no, not all my friends in the list interact with me. Most of them have stopped coming to MyLot now. I also did the same mistake a few months back and stopped posting. Maybe I went pretty busy, but still I couldn't keep myself away from the place. Also that may be the reason tat the active ones do not interact with me. But recently I have made a few good friends who really keep in touch and post to all my topics that they feel like answering to. I hope I will have more friends to interact with someday soon. Take Care
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Well , what I do ,is first I go and check their profile, and see what kind of questions they have asked, and if there is nothing very drastic about their questions, I give them the benefit of the doubt, and accept them as friends! It doesn't bother me if they never correspond with me after that , that is their option! I usually do shoot them a line , just in case they may be willing to communicate with me! Some do, communicate with me, and have become some very good friends on here with me! Plus, if they do any outrageous posts, or give you trouble, you can always delete them from your friends' list anyway! I've never had to do this, most of the people on here seem to be level-headed and reasonable!
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Yes, though reluctantly, I may have to delete some. I wish I will not reach that point, it may be difficult, I hate to hurt people's feelings.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
4 Oct 09
'Friend' on myLot is a very over-used and abused word in my opinion. I would much prefer something else such as 'buddy' or 'chum'. Having lots of frineds implies that you will receive lots of responses on your discussions. That is not always the case but personally I am not concerned.Ilike to be able to contact users through Priavte Messages and to be available should they wish to contact me. That can only be done if we are on each others' lists. Of course with many of those on my list I have now developed a real friendship, even to the point where we hear each other offline. If I lived nearer we would also have met - but that could happen in many cases in the future too To sum up, a friend on the Lot is up to you what you make of it. Once they are on your list, if you are not satisfied with how things can go you can also remove them.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Yes,I agree, it doesn't really mean what it should. So loosely used. Perhaps, there are more appropriate words like the ones you suggested. It would be nice if you can get in touch with each other offline too. Cheers.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
All the members here are very friendly, they are very much willing to help in every concern of the other members.I have lots of problems in life that was solve with the help of mylot family. Just like you, i also accept friend request, even without checking the background of the person. happy mylotting!
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
If you find all of your friends helpful, that's remarkable. Good for you, I hope it will continue to be so. Have fun.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
i do accept friends here so that i can easily find their discussions when i am running out of good discussions to respond to. besides that i am not hoping to know any one personally through private messages.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Honestly, I always look forward for those mylotters who invite to be on their list because they maybe find me more interesting and worth to be friend. That is my interpretation of adding me as friend. Before I don't believe building a relationship on the net, it's a silly but now I realize that there are more people here on net really take it seriously and honestly of being a friend no matter what, I treasure it most. I have gain more friends already to different networking sites and I always look forward to gain more friends.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
I have friends in my list.we really don't communicate much... but atleast by those list you can jump to one topic to another to find what topic you find comfortable for that day...by that way your earnings increases...it's for your own advantage anyway...
5 Oct 09
Friends give advice when you are in trouble.once my friends gave me place to stay when I dont have one.Friends help us go through problems we face in life.