If your kids are sick, keep them home?

@mommyboo (13207)
United States
October 5, 2009 12:36pm CST
I'm talking about coughing, sneezing, runny noses, congestion, etc. I ask this to all and implore an honest answer. My daughter now has a cold because EVERYBODY is at school sick. This gets passed to everybody. It's getting passed to the parents too. I consider myself lucky so far because whatever I have is mild and isn't affecting me enough to call myself 'sick', but you should see and hear these kids! They may not have fevers and they may not feel miserable but 90 percent of them are coughing and hacking, have runny noses they don't wipe, they sneeze snot on each other, no wonder I sent along a bottle of hand sanitizer and a packet of kleenex in my daughter's pencil/marker box so it's on her table at school! Should people be keeping their kids home for these colds since they spread like crazy? Or do you think it's okay to send kids to school this way just because it's not a fever, a flu, or something worse? Another point - the schools try to tell you that it's SO important for your kids to be at school every day - but then this happens, cold season means one kid at school with a cold makes the whole class sick in short order. What's the answer to this? I'm not keeping my daughter home because who is she going to give the cold SHE caught to? Everybody else already has it lol.
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@dreamr802 (987)
• United States
5 Oct 09
I think it really depends on how sick the kid is and feels. I mean sometimes my mom would send us to school if we had a cold, but the minute we had a fever, we stayed home. I'm very prone to colds, so if I stayed home everytime I had a cold, I don't think I would've graduated from high school lol. But yeah colds do spread like wildfire...and there really is no way of stopping it with younger children.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I think kids get sick more often because of school - because so many kids are in close contact with each other. I don't get sick anywhere near the amount I did when I was a kid. The fever thing is usually the difference - a fever means your body is fighting an infection, and it's better to stay home then so you don't spread whatever it is to others. I think it's too bad the schools (and jobs) don't TELL people to say home when they have a cold so they don't spread it, but it seems to matter more that people dont miss school or work than it does that they might make 30 other people sick...
@Mickie30 (2636)
5 Oct 09
A little sniffle. A slight cough then I would send my child to school. If my child has cold symptoms with a fever too, then I would keep her at home. If I was in doubt, then I would call my child's doctor for advice.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I keep my daughter home if she has a fever and/or she puked and it's affecting her behavior.
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
hello mommy boo, I don't have a kid but if i ever had one or two i would surely keep them at home just to prevent them from spreading the illness towards other people. of course, if they do go to school, probably i should have them wearing mask and using hand sanitizer to keep others from getting infected. but it's better if they stay home.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I think so too, but in my case after the fact I was thinking - well WHY? I mean if there was something in place to protect parents and kids from getting in trouble for missing school so they could stay home a week and NOT spread a cold, that'd be fine, but we are too concerned about the kids missing important things from one missed day of school. Plus now that they are all sick, what's the point? LOL!
• Canada
5 Oct 09
Hey what a coincidence! I'm a highschool student, and as I'm writing this response, I'm staying at home exactly because I am sick! I don't usually stay at home for coughing or sneezing, but this time, it's really serious, and I have a fever. Our family's policy is to stay at home only when I have a fever. Also, during these days when the swine flu epidemic is going on, our school actually suggested us to stay at home if we are sick, because we don't want the potential swine flu viruses spreading around the school. So I would say... let the children go to school if it's just runny nose or sneezing and coughing occasionally, but if the coughing gets serious and they get a fever, that's when you should consider keeping them at home. This way, they get more rest at home so they can recover quickly, and they won't be spreading it to other people at school.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Oct 09
For fevers and anything that causes stomach upset or behavioral changes, I keep my kids home. Fever is one reason I'll pick them up too. I don't pick up for 'I just don't feel good', especially for a high school student lol. I look for an actual reason. The reason it isn't the same for the little kids is because they seem to make each other sick and it happens over and over and over. I wish the school would not harp about wanting people to be there all the time because if it were acceptable to stay home when you have a cold so as to not SPREAD it to the whole class, then maybe fewer kids would get sick. I think sickness, even colds, interfere with kids' ability to learn, and so this is bad for everybody. I don't think it interferes as much when you get older, but for kindergarten and first grade, it's kind of a big deal.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hey mommyboo! I don't have any kids, so I don't really know if I have the right to comment on this or not! I really don't honestly know what is right or wrong in this. As you say, once your child is already infected and isn't really sick to the point of having a fever then there isn't much point in keeping her home. Now, if she is sick and not feeling well enough to go to school that's up to you to make that call. But, it's kind of a "Catch 22". If all the mothers kept the kids home then that would be one thing, but they don't! If a child has a fever then they need to stay home! If there is a cough then I feel they should be kept at home! If there is a chance that is might be a flu, keep them home! It is a difficult call and each parent needs to make that decision and now it is more important to watch the symptoms more carefully because if there is a chance that it could be a flu then you must be fair and keep the child home until you at least take them to their physician!
@gemini_rose (16194)
6 Oct 09
I send my children to school unless they are running a temperature or really really laid up. In that I mean their nose is constantly running or I think they will have trouble concentrating at school. I am not sure about keeping all children off school just through a cold because its just that time of year that we all seem to get them. I am like you, I send them in with plenty of tissues and hand gel!
@home415 (118)
• United States
6 Oct 09
A cold can cause different things. The first reason that schools don't want kids to go to school it could make them fell even worse. Second reason so it don't spread which I see is no go movement. Third reason is because they want to make sure that the kid at school doesn't dose off and miss everything in which terms make sense you think about it. Everyone one probly doesn't have it. Peoples immune systems work really well in other words they more they catch it the less likly they are going to get it later. So here is the catch on that. Lets say if some one is sick they go to school. A kids immune system aganst it is very good. Well if you keep intruding the sick kid. The kid with the good immune system will end up catching it to.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
my kids got a cold and cough too, she got it from one of his classmates. it would be better if kids that have cough and cold be stayed from home instead of sending them to school and make other classmate sick. Children are prone to diseases like cold and cough so it would also not be good to them to be absent always because of cold and cough only. i think the better idea that we have to do as parents is just keep our children from small sickness by giving them vitamin c.
• Singapore
6 Oct 09
I totally agreed that a sick child should stay at all. But sometimes some circumstances doesn't allow us to do so. My hubby and I are working 9am - 6pm everyday and we only have 14 days leaves & 6 days childcare leave a year. Thus if it's really not serious like fever or stomach flu, my 14 months old boy still have to go to the Infantcare centre everyday
@nra091501 (176)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
I still send my kid to school when he's got runny nose. I just make sure that he's got tissues/towels and hand sanitizers with him and always reminds him to cover his mouth when he sneezes so he won't spread the virus or at least minimize its spread. But if we, the adults are the ones who got those viruses, I prefer to go to work than to stay at home to rest, so we can't spread the virus to the kids:D...
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Around here, there have been a lot of kids out of school with the flu or flu-like symptoms lately. Last week, my oldest was home two days in the beginning of the week, my 7 year old was home two days at the end of the week, and my 8 year old was home today and will be again tomorrow. My husband and I have also had to face being sick in the last week. I think that as far as school goes, it is generally okay to send a child who just has a cold, unless that sold is making the child so miserable that they just cannot concentrate. As long as their is no fever, they are not considered contagious. That doesn't mean that the germs are goen and out of the school though. By the time a child is over a fever, there are still lingering germs that another child can easily pick up, especially if the classromms and everything that the kids come in contact with are not disinfected daily. It is also important for the teachers to continually remind the kids to wash their hands, and demonstrate good hand-washing skills to the class. I won't keep my kids home unless they are running a fever, vomiting, or have to spend most of their time on the toilet. Those are three situations where my kids are at home resting. The other time I allow them to stay home is if I know that they are getting really sick. I think that it is important for kids to be as school as much as possible. I also think that it is important for teachers to teach kids how to take the proper steps to help prevent themselves from getting sick or getting others sick.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I would send my child to school if they only had a cough, maybe sneezing but if the child had a fever than I would kept my child home. Many people gets colds not just children and unless they are running a fever they go to work. These people are mother and father of the children who go to school so sometimes it is the parent passing it to their children. It is the season for colds and no matter what you do to try and not get a cold someone either at school, work or maybe at a restaurant, grocery store, gas station has one and you stop there is a possiblity you or your children may caught the cold from someone at one of these places.
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
cough and colds are easily transmitted. it is important for school administrators and teachers to give reminders to their students on what to do if they contract these, from time to time to prevent rapid spread. with fever, it would be advisable for our kids to stay home and quarantined for a few days, what with the H1N1 virus still around.
• United States
6 Oct 09
No! Do not send them to school! I'm currently a Sophmore in high school and I got sick because everyone that was sick showed up at school. I missed almost 2 straight weeks and I know they stress that you should go to school but three days home sick recovering is better than making 12 other kids go through the same thing!
@sanell (2114)
• United States
6 Oct 09
with all the flus and stuff going around I am keeping my kids home as long as I possiblhy can if they have a fever they stay home and since their immune system is weakened due to cold I try to keep them home at the worst weakness and as it builds up strength then I will send back but I just can not handle taking them to school to just have someone call me and tell me they need to be picked up when they probably should have just stayed home in the first place. Anyway that is my two cents. My oldest was home last week and now my youngest is home and i feel pretty crappy so whatever...colds are not fun and this season is not fun. Oh well it happens.
@irishidid (8147)
• United States
6 Oct 09
If my kids were sick to the point of not being about to do their work or concentrate I kept them home. What really irritated me was the parents who made their kids go to school when they should have stayed home because they wanted to brag about their kid's perfect attendance.