Does your husband wear his wedding band?

@jesssp (2712)
Canada
October 7, 2009 5:01pm CST
Does your husband always wear his ring, does he rarely put it on or does he not even know where it is? I thought that him having a wedding band would be something I would have to constantly remind him about but he has really surprised me by remembering to wear it. He can't wear it to work but whenever we go somewhere in the evenings and on weekends he almost always puts it on. I'm really glad that he does because I would hate to have to nag him about it! Does your man wear his band full time or just part time like mine? Does he remember to put it on?
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@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Hi jessp I see that you have gotten a lot of response on this discussion. Most being said that the hubby does wear his ring. Well, mine does too. He has been very good about wearing his ring. I also had bought him a KY Cluster Ring here a few years back and he wears it on the other hand. He just started a new job and had to take his rings off during work hours. At first he was putting them in his pocket and then putting them back on after work. I told him not to do that because I was afraid he would lose them doing the day. He does wear them on the weekends and if we go out of the evenings.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I was pretty surprised to hear that most husbands wear their rings, I think that's great. Mine can't wear his to work either so it just stays on the bathroom shelf until he gets home. I know that if he tried to pack it around in his pocket it would get lost in about 5 minutes!
• United States
15 Oct 09
I know where your coming from. Mine would lose his in about the same amount of time too. He is always losing stuff. I would much rather him leave it here then to lose his band.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
8 Oct 09
My ex never wore his. I scrimped and saved to buy one for him and he always refused to wear it. Now I know why. You are blessed with a husband that is proud to be married to you.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I am the type that hates jewelery myself. I wear a watch daily is it. Once in a great while I will wear the only ring I've ever owned. It's a turquoise ring I bought at a local art fair many years ago. But I wear that maybe a few times a year is all. I've never liked jewelery on myself. I've never had a wedding ring in my nearly 32 years of marriage either and don't need one really. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
That sucks, dragon. I can excuse forgetfulness or not being able to wear one but just plain refusing to is so disrespectful -- which is why he's an ex I'm sure!
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• United States
8 Oct 09
Oh yes, mine wears his all the time. At one point in time, he had a more fancy band that matches mine. But my husband is a nurse and didn't want to mess it up, so I got him a plain one and he wears the one that matches mine when we're out together. The plain one fits better when he puts on gloves.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
That's a good idea. The last thing you want is for him to be taking chunks out of people with a fancy setting!
@Jennlk84 (4206)
• United States
7 Oct 09
My husband is really good about wearing his wedding band! And we're newlyweds :-) He can't always wear it at work since he is a chemist. But if that's the case he just takes it off for a while and puts it in a safe place in his desk. I never have to nag him about wearing his band. Actually if he for some reason forgets to put it on right away in the morning, he gets annoyed! lol Just this morning he called me at home because he thought he forgot to put his ring on and here it was in his pocket!
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
7 Oct 09
That's awesome. I think it's one of those things where if they get in the habit of always wearing it early on then they just always do, it becomes an automatic thing. I know my sisters husband just didn't get into the habit at all and he lost his in about a month!
• United States
15 Oct 09
When we were first married my husband worked with metal so he would wear it but never at work because he was afraid of scratching or smashing it which I didn't blame him but about 6 years ago he started working a different job that allowed him to wear his wedding band and he has had it on every since. When he was working with metals and didn't wear his band he would forget to put it on outside of work just like your husband.
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8 Oct 09
My hubby wears his constantly out of the house, but like me takes his off to bath or cook. I do it cos mine is white gold and they tend to get scratched or damaged easily, his is titanium so he worries it will damage as tis so light. However, he has worn a wedding band since we got engaged! we both used to work in nightclubs so he would wear a wedding band to stop women coming on to him! I'm a very lucky lady!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
It certainly sounds like you are! I have really noticed that the white gold gets marked easily and the finish wears off quickly if it's worn while doing anything that rubs against it. I will have my rings re dipped when I have them sized and soldered together but I'm hesitant to do it because I hate having to send them away.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
That's a good idea, I'm so paranoid of one of us losing a ring. When we got married we actually bought 'fake' bands to use for the little ceremony because I was worried about losing the real ones when we were travelling. So I think I'll just wear that one when I send mine away.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Okay time for some revealing facts about my marriage. My wife and I have been together for 36 years and married 31, (32 in April). Back in the early 70's I got her a cheap, and I mean cheap, friendship type ring. She wore that as a wedding ring until it finally fell apart. Neither of us has had a wedding band and don't feel we need one. So that's my tale of wedding bands and my marraige. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
Rings are just a symbol, they're not what's really important in a marriage. And if the symbolism isn't important to you then what's the sense in wearing them, right?
@thuynhu (661)
• United States
26 Nov 09
my husband wears his wedding band full time. the only time he tends to take it off is when he puts lotion on or if he gotta use his hands and get dirty. because today he marinated our chicken and he didn't want to get all the gunk on his ring so he took it off. but he always remembers to put it back on. it makes me happy to see he's always wearing it and i think he's pretty happy to wear it too.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
27 Nov 09
Perfectly understandable, I can't stand the feeling of using hand lotion with rings on!
@katsmeow1213 (28719)
• United States
7 Oct 09
He wears his all the time. I can't remember the last time he took it off, probably never. He'll pull it off now and then to show that it has left a tan line, but the only time it's ever fully come off his finger has been when I've played with it. Sometimes I'll try to pull it off him, playfully. He always stops me! He feels naked without it. I'm pretty much the same way. I've had times where I've taken it off because I was mad at him... stupid of me really! It's been awhile since I've done that. Now the only time it really comes off is when I'm kneading bread or mixing meatloaf or something like that.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
7 Oct 09
That's cool, that's a great thing for a husband to do IMO. Mine can't wear his to work because it's dangerous, it could get caught in or on something and they work around things that you can't really mess around with so I don't hold that against him. He is really good about putting it on otherwise but it's also a little big so if he's dehydrated or anything like that he can't wear it. It's made of tungsten so it can't be re sized either which kinda sucks.
• United States
7 Oct 09
That's understandable. I've never heard of tungsten!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
7 Oct 09
It's quite neat, it's a super strong metal and once it heats up to your body temperature it holds the heat. I don't see how that matters but it's interesting. He just picked it because it's different, it's a dark gray with a rough sort of texture in the middle and then smooth and shiny on the edges and the inside.
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
8 Oct 09
My husband wears it part time like yours. He can't wear it at work either. If we are staying home for the evening then he usually just leaves it off, but any time we go out or have people over he's pretty good about putting it on. It makes me feel good, like he's proud to be a husband.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I agree, I love it when we go out somewhere and when I hold his hand I see that he remembered his ring. I really thought that I would be constantly reminding him but I'm happy that he took it seriously. It does make me feel like he's proud to be my husband.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 09
Hi Jesssp, My husband does not wearing our wedding band and neither do I. To us,wearing wedding band is not that important for our relationship,it is just a symbol. Trust is the most important element in a marriage.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I agree that trust is paramount. Rings are definitely just a symbol and if that symbol isn't important to you then there really isn't any point in wearing them.
• United States
11 Oct 09
My husband always wears his band. I don't know that he has taken it off over the past 5 years. I love looking at it on his hand. It is fun to get lost in the memories of why we got married in the first place and I love how there are times when all I can think about is our wonderful future together.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
That's great, I love to hear stuff like that!
11 Oct 09
I will put it this way, my husband wears his wedding band more often than I do with my band. The reason why I don't put it on is, I always take it off whenever I do chores like washing dishes and cleaning. For fear of losing it, I just wear it whenever we go out. Hubby, on the other hand, wears it nearly all the time except when we travel. In fact, he does not bring or put on any piece of jewelry when we travel or when he is away on business.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
It's a good idea to leave stuff like that behind when you travel. It would be bad enough to misplace a ring in your own home but to lose it halfway across the country (or the world) would be much, much worse!
@taraelocin (1138)
8 Oct 09
My husband was never keen on wearing his ring. I tried to get him to wear it in the beginning, but he always complained that it was uncomfortable! I love him to wear the ring, so we came to the agreement that he wears it only on the weekend around his neck! Compromises - that's what love is all about!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
That's nice, it's always good when you can reach a compromise!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
8 Oct 09
No, he doesn't. My husband's hand's tend to swell during the heavy work season so his ring is too tight to wear during those times. But even when it isn't, it just isn't a good idea for him to wear it, at least while at work, as it is dangerous to wear jewelry of any kind in the line of work that he is in. It could get caught up in something, after all. He doesn't always remember to wear it when he can, but I don't nag him about. Sure, it would be nice, be we know that we're married. A ring doesn't have to prove that. Happy mylotting!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
You're right, it's just a symbol, it isn't what's really important. Mine can't wear his to work either because it's dangerous so he's actually considering getting a tattoo on his ring finger instead.
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Oct 09
He wears it unless he's doing some kind of work where it might get in the way, get caught on something, get damaged, something like that.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
Makes sense, that's what I do with mine too.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Oct 09
My husband hasn't put on his wedding band in at least six months. He works in a machine shop so he can't wear it to work and I used to ask him to at least put in on when he got home from work. Or when we were going out and he would do it some of the time and then other times he wouldn't. I finally decided that it wasn't worth having to ask him about because he wasn't going to do it unless I nagged. Actually, at this point, he probably doesn't even know where his is, but that's okay because I've got the piece of paper that says that we are married and he does take good care of me and our two children.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
Some people just aren't ring wearers and having to nag really takes away from him wearing it in the first place. You're right, you know what you are to each other, a ring doesn't change that one way or the other.
@seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Oct 09
Hi jess, Sad to say my husband doesn't wear our wedding ring but he has his good reasons. He never wear a ring on his hand as it ruins the steering wheel of his car and besides he's an engineer and working in a construction site. He oftentimes do some manual work and the ring might be deformed when it touches something hard like metal pipes. Of course it bothered me for sometime but I realized it's not a big deal at all, he also wouldn't mind if i'm not wearing mine, fair enough... Cheers!
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
Some people are just not ring wearers. I didn't think my husband would be and I was surprised that he took to it. I also don't wear mine all the time so if he forgets then it isn't a big deal either.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hello my friend I am not married but my brother wears his faithfully it makes me so proud whenever I see him, he is a wonderful guy his wife is a lucky lady Thank you.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
7 Oct 09
That's great, I like to hear about the good guys out there!
• United States
8 Oct 09
well since i am a husband ill answer this one with a little explination. I do not wear my band..not because i dont want too..its because mine simply doesnt fit... when we first got married my ring size was an 11 then i started heavily working out and now my ring size is a 15... you probably ask well why havent i gotten a new size...well thats simple i have but we are waiting til our 5 year anniversary as we will renew our vows then and i will be wearing it then. Oh by the way not tring to be a downer or anything but a wedding ring is a chick magnet..lol...i was hit on 120% after i got married i dont know why i never understood women...I am totaly faithful, always have been on a secondary note my wife doesnt wear her band either...sice she is terrible at losing things she left it in a bathroom...well needless to say when we renew our vows it will be alot more special lol
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Oct 09
Thank you for a man's perspective! After I posted this I realized I should have asked for both. My husband's is too big as well and since it's made of tungsten it can't be re sized. If he's dehydrated or anything like that he can't wear it because it will fly right off. Now he's thinking about getting a tattoo on his ring finger which I think makes sense. Congratulations of renewing your vows, I think that's great!