Do you let your lover into the bathroom when your using it?

@dloveli (4369)
United States
October 8, 2009 7:16pm CST
This is one of my biggest pet peeves! I hate when I am in the bathroom and my honey knocks at the door insisting I let him in. Its my personal time. He gets mad and says"I dont care" Well I do! My friends tell me that its no big deal. I dont know how any one can do their business with someone in their watching them. Its not always an easy thing. What if you have a stomach ache? WHat if it stinks? I would be so embarassed to have someone talking to me during a bowel movement. When my friends and I have discussed this they said that they've been together for so long, had kids together, so its no big deal. To me it is. I want my man to see me at my best. Not letting go of my worst. lol what's your take on it? Do you let your loved ones in when pooping? dl
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 09
hi dloveli Nobody I mean nobody comes into the bathroom' when I am using it,nobody. I dislike being watched having a b.m. or peeing,or taking a bath. this is private time and I would get pretty teed off if a family member walked in on me.really ticked off.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I agree Hatley! I think bathroom time is private time. I have been in the shower and he has needed to pee that is okay. Just hurry, get in and out.. I get so aggitated. I just dont understand why its a big deal to SH*t when I take a shower. AINT happenin. dl
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@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I'm just like you two. My partner has never done this, and I wouldn't like it if he would. I know that it's really not a big deal, but when I'm in the comfort room I want total privacy. I don't want anyone disturbing me. I really appreciate that my partner doesn't do this. Maybe he already knows that I don't like it even though I've never told him.
@GS0093 (50)
• China
9 Oct 09
i think it is not a big ideal too , you should relax when your honey in your bathroom , i always think if a men really loves you he should love you all ,not only the best side . but if your really hate this ,just tell he , it is ok!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I am embarassed. If I am having a bowel movement and need to strain or pass gas I want to be able to do it without having someone else watching me. Just me I guess! Happy Posting. dl
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Oct 09
the bathroom doesn't have a door, but the toilet does, so I can close the toilet door, and do. But as for taking a bath, showering, putting on makeup, etc., I have to actually close the bedroom door. And he walks right on int...
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I feel exactly the same way. I dont know why but I just do. I dont get to do all my business when I have an audience. I dont think peeing is bad or going if Im in the shower or vice versa. I mind if he is sitting on the side of the tub talking to me. If I have to push or make a face or something, its embarassing. How about you? I have never heard of a door on the toilet not on the entire bathroom. THats different. If I had it like that I dont think I would mind. The door is on the toilet so it doesnt matter cause he cant see me anyways. I think I am going to renovate my bathroom to be just like yours. Thanks for the idea. dl
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Oct 09
It's on newer houses and it's a great idea for master bathrooms. In my old house, I had to wait until he was done taking his dump before I could brush my teeth, get my clothes out (you had to go thru the bathroom to get to the closet), etc. In this house I can do all those things, but the toilet functions are private.
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• Philippines
9 Oct 09
People have different views. I respect you if you say that you want to have your privacy when you are in the bathroom. I also understand, that you like to show your partner your at best all the time. But for me, it is also a no big deal. It is true that I have share a lot with my partner and I am not embarrassed with him anymore. If your partner doesn't get turn off seeing you unprepared, I don't think it should be a big deal at all.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I think its that I am shy I guess. I have been with him for five years and Its still new. I know what you're going to say five years already. I know but my kids father was an abusive man. I guess this is really why I am nervous. I know in my heart that he is a great, loving man but I am embarassed that he will laugh at me. I know its stupid. Thanks for your response dl
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
What do you mean by "your kids' father is an abusive man"? You mean your husband? The man you are with right now??? In what way he abused your kids? I am sorry but I am a bit confuse. How can he be a great and loving man if he is guilty of abusing his kids?
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
9 Oct 09
i lock the door whenever i use the bathroom. i don't mind if my partner uses the wc when i'm taking a shower. however, there is no way he can come in when i'm using the wc. there is nothing that can't wait anyway so why should he want to come in. if he needs to go urgently he can't coz i'm using the wc anyway. so NO WAY he is gonna come in when i'm peeing or pooing.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Apple what is wc? I am assuming it has to do with the toilet. I hope. I dont think anyone should come in while you do your business. Isnt anything sacred? Thanks for your response. Happy MyLotting dl
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• Singapore
10 Oct 09
hi dlovlei, wc stands for water closet. it's the thing that we sit on when doing our business.
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
For me, I say it's no big deal. If you know that the smell stinks, then you should warn him before letting him get inside. The decision is in him if he still wants to get inside or not. Either way, he will not come back again if he knows the true aroma of the stinky power. The more you deny him, the more he would want to get inside. Then, let him in, its his decision, you may laugh at it loudly afterwards.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I never thought about that! THe more I act as if I dont want it, the more it will make him wonder what Im hiding. My luck it wont work and he'll take me up on the offer. lol The more I think about it, the more I realize its not that important. If he loves me, he will love me know matter what I smell like or may do. Thanks friend! dl
• United States
9 Oct 09
This is funny, I always leave the door open when I pee but yeah when having a bm i do lock the door and my hubby does the same knock knock let me in lol, Thats private time for sure!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I used to do the same thing. Until..... My oldest daughter moved home and it got to the point whenever I was in the bathroom, she was there. Then I would find both girls in there. Its very hard to have a BM when you've got two kids talking to you about two entirely different subjects. I forgot to mention that I also have two boys(dogs) as well and a cat. THe cat likes to sit in the window in the bathroom so she's usually always there. The dogs go wherever I go. Then the girls.The only good thing is that My hubby wont come in when the girls are there out of respect.Last saturday was the last straw. I was in the bathroom peeing. Of course the dogs and cat were there. Here comes my oldest daughter. Then the younger one. The icing on the cake was when my best friend comes into the bathroom as well. COME ON! R U SERIOUS? This is why I am the way I am. can you blame me? dl
@nonersays (2759)
• United States
9 Oct 09
If I'm just peeing, or taking a bath I'll leave the door open and my hubby can come and go as he pleases. If I want to be ALONE in the bathroom (if I'm pooping, or just want some ME time) I shut the door and he knows to leave me alone until I come out on my own.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
10 Oct 09
That sounds cool. I think you and your hubby exhibit a great communication and respect for each other. I also think that I am not comfortable in my own skin so until I am, I shouldnt have to allow him to do this. I dont like the way I look. WHy would I want the man who loves me to see me. I am working thru things. When I am comfortable he will be called in. Until then respect my wishes. Thanks happy posting. dl
@Mickie30 (2633)
9 Oct 09
I don't really like to. I do let him when I am having a wee sometimes, but when I have a poop I do not even let my daughter in when I am having a poop. I am very funny about it and I also will not use the toilet for a poop in anyones house. I have to go home.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I dont go to the bathroom if its anything more serious than a pee pee. I feel embarassed about anything else. What if I have to strain and make a funny face? To me that is personal and should remain as such. dl
• United States
9 Oct 09
I guess I would have to say that it doesn't really happen that much in my house, we have two bathrooms so we are normally okay but I tell you I agree with your friend, we have been together so long and been through so much that a poop is no big deal. My husband and kids have been in the bathroom when I have showered and gone to the restroom. I am just as bad as the rest of my family i suppose because I will knock and go in while my husband is going potty..he doesn't like but there are times when he is in there way to long and I need in there to do something. I don't walk in on my children though, I don't think that it is a decent thing to do and I don't wnat then to think that it is alright.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
You are lucky.. I dont have a problem with it. Its just when Its that time of the month or I am not feeling well I would like to be alone. I think I should be able to without having him make a big deal. Sometimes he does sometimes he doesnt. I think their should be boundaries sometimes. If only to maintain a healthy relationship. Thanks friend and I hope you poop in peace,lol. dl
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
Hi Dloveli, So far, it never happened to me that my husband also want to use the same toilet with me when I am inside the toilet with my own business. My house has 3 toilets all together and he can simply use other toilets when I am occupied the toilet that we always use. I always make sure the toilet is clean and not smelly before I left after doing my business,it is a kinda of healthy lifestyle,I guess. I also dislike to enter a smelly toilet,so do make sure that I don't leave a smelly toilet to other people too. In my toilet, I always prefer Toilet perfume spray in case I really need it.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
You are a lucky ducky!!! If I had 3 bathrooms I would never have to wait or walk in on anybody. Thats like paradise. I would use the one that is farthest from everyone and everything. Then I would have privacy, That would be heaven ! dl
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• China
9 Oct 09
in my opinion,its not a big deal,i am sure our spouses wont get into the bathroom if they are not in a hurry,sometimes if they want to get into the bathroom, they wont just watch you have a bath, they want to have a bath together with you,its romantic.i think its good for the couples to have bath together,it can make us relaxed ,its wonderful,you may have a try.
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I don't let my boyfriend come in to the bathroom while using it before but when sometimes he is in a hurry of something, I let him come in.I also put consideration to the situation when it is badly needed.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I do the exact same thing. If its an emergency, then its a different story. If its just a matter of privacy then he should want you to have alone time. I just think that if you're in the shower and someone needs to use the toilet than ok. Hurry up and be done with that. I just dont want anyone sitting down talking to me or keeping the door open when they're taking a dump. Maybe its just me. THanks for responding and Happy MyLotting. dl
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• Canada
9 Oct 09
Our apartment is tiny, and our bathroom could fit under a microscope. it's almost impossible to get in there and close the door while a person is in there. LOL One of us could be on the toilet, door open because we really can't close it, and another one could need to come in and take a pill, or do something else, or one of us may need to use the bathroom while the other is in the shower... whatever. LOL We're MARRIED, for goodness sake. LOL
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Good point Danish! I am not to embarassed about being in the shower while he uses the bathroom or vice versa. I just dont like him sitting in there when Im trying to go NUMBER 2! Just my insecurities dl
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
9 Oct 09
dloveli, Being constantly away from home, I can understand about personal space and habits. I just would not insist on having things my way even if it is merely taking a shower together. I would just go along with my wife's wishes and comfort level. I do not know about your lover but I am concern when he is insisting his ways despite your discomforts and need for personal space. I just feel that he should be more concern, loving and most of all more respectful towards you. I hope that time will make him realize and evolve. Take care.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
9 Oct 09
You are a sweet man! Please tell your wife how lucky she is! Its not everyday that I am touched by a response. This is a first. Thank you so much. I cant over the kindness you put forward. It didnt go unnoticed. I have told him how I feel and he has been making sure I have my privacy. He is a wonderful person. I think he just wanted to let me know he loved me no matter what I may be doing. He doesnt like to be bothered when he is in the bathroom. He has a ritual he performs every morning. I think after I told him about my feelings on this he saw that he wasnt giving me the privacy and personal time I need. THanks so much you are a very nice man. Your wife is lucky! dl
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• Singapore
10 Oct 09
dloveli, Thank you for your compliments and I'm glad feels exactly the same like you about me. I am glad that your husband realizes and respects your wishes. So, he's a good man as well and that the both of you are working things out. All the best and that the both of you will cherish each other. Take care and have a nice day.
• India
12 Oct 09
No I don’t and I wouldn’t ever! Its personal time alright and no matter how busy hubby is, he’ll have to wait. At the most if I’m brushing my teeth, I can come out and let him in for a short time. Forget it if I am using the loo…even when I’m bathing, no question of allowing anybody inside. Same goes for me…as for the stink *ugh* less said the better!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
12 Oct 09
My point exactly! Why is that we have to let them into the bathroom to show that we love them. Heck NO! I have heard all the responses. I do think i am a little uptight but its only because it such a personal things. I dont think that I want to know what he smells like. Even thinking about it its nasty. I'm with you who wants that smell on their clothes?lol Or anywhere else for that matter. I am perfectly happy smelling his cologne rather than his A*s! lmao dl
• Canada
10 Oct 09
Why not? Your lover is your intimate partner. Where is the shame in sharing a natural body function with someone you are so close to? Everybody poops and while I would not want to do it on stage in front of thousands of people, I don't have any problem with my partner using the washroom at the same time.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
11 Oct 09
I wish I had your attitude! It's funny because I am loud, out going, etc. so it's funny that I am shy about this one thing. LOL I feel embarassed. I guess Im afraid that having him in the bathroom with me will change the way he sees me. I am going to sit down and talk to him and let him know how I feel. Thanks and Happy MyLotting dl
@savypat (20246)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I do but I don't like it at all, that is my only private time and in marriage where you loose all sense of privacy I want to retain that one area. Thank goodness we have two bathrooms and locks on the doors.
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I used to feel the same way as you do but for me anymore I am pretty much like your friends, I have a child, he has a child, we have been together for a while now and tend to both stop in to chit chat with the other while using the facility. I guess it is a personal issue and we should all respect each others feelings and wishes on the issue. Have a great day.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
9 Oct 09
[b]Hello This depends solely on the individual, personally I have experience both sides my ex would come in the bathroom and I will go in when he is there, but I will not do this to with just anyone, I have seen more pop to last me a lifetime working in health care its like a pop is a pop,but some people I would not want to be in the bathroom with them, I was with someone who looked like his pop really stink so I stayed clear of the bathroom whenever he was in there lol again to each his own, if you don't like this he should respect that. Thanks for sharing.[/b]
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