She must have a heart of gold....otherwise.....
By manong05
@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
October 8, 2009 8:45pm CST
My brother, a few years back retired from government service and received a considerably huge amount of lumpsum. After receiving the money he disappeared. The wife was worried to death only to find out later that her hubby took off with a bar girl.
Her hopes of seeing her two daughters finish college went to pieces, Fortunately she has a job of her own and and struggled to make ends meet. Two years is all she has to wait for them to graduate. Just recently, her wait ended and the eldest just graduated with flying colors.
Roughly at the same time, my brother showed up, sick and penniless. The bar girl whom he spent his life with and all the money he received dumped him just like that.
Being sick and nowhere to go, he decided to come home.
The wife and the two daughters welcomed him and were so excited with the fact that he came home after all. The neighbors couldn't believe the wife's reaction. Having witnessed her day to day difficulties, they pitied her so much, that it should have been better had she left her hubby to die in the streets.
She must have a heart of gold. I feel bad for what my brother did but I'm glad he met a woman like that.
Do the neighbors have a point?
If I were in the wife's shoes, I'm not sure I can do what she did?
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15 responses
@bettydeng5 (1822)
• China
9 Oct 09
I think she actually have a heart of gold, and her heart like the sea, clear and bright, and her bosom widely. Because her husband did the wrong thing for her, but she didn't refuse him when he return without any money,I admire her. If I were her, maybe I can't do that and won't forgive the man who once hurted my deeply. yeah. It's difficult for a woman to do that.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Oct 09
He is very fortunate to have such a good friend and wife. I am sure that I would not be so kind. I would not feel that he returned to me because he loved and missed me. I would feel that he returned only because the other woman left and he needed money and help. I would be highly insulted and used.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Oct 09
well hopefully he will appreciate her. Better yet, hopefully he will recognize that this woman must really love him very much. Not only did she welcome him home but so did the kids which shows she probably put some time into making sure they did not hold this discretion against their dad. She is a treasure. I don't think most women would welcome him home so lovingly. He is very lucky.
@frinces (433)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
May the lord bless your sister-in-law. Very few people are forgiving and forgetful like her. Maybe, she has thought that his husband has already received his punishment for his infidelity by having a sick. And maybe, she already have the reward of having her daughter graduated in flying colors. She is wise and frugal. I admire the character of your sister-in-law.
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@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
If that happened to me I would never welcome my husband again. I would never accept him again no matter how much he begs. I don't believe in unconditional love because unconditional love is just the same as indifference. If you really love someone you would want him to be the best person that he could be. Of course, I'm talking about important things in life like being responsible, loyal, etc.
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@kl_blueknight (381)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
This sounds like a movie of family and love. I came across many people who wasted their money within 2 years after getting a windfall for their retirement. In your brothers case, the wife can welcome him back but treat him the way he treated her. Don't give him money or love he needed, just food and lodging thats all. No matter how sorry he may be, its no compensation for the hardship she has to endure. Letting him stay to pity him, not taking him back and grind this fact into his thick selfish skull. Just tell him she would do the same for any beggar in the street. See how he like it.
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
Of course the neighbors do have a point. They have witnessed how difficult the wife and daughters have gone through while the husband was having pleasurable moments of his life and abandoned them in the dark. I think she did it out of pity instead of love. If your brother showed up only penniless, but healthy, do you think she would still accept him and let him stay? If yes, then, she really has a heart full of mercies and God blesses her abundantly. Please, I just hope the husband won't do the same stupid mistake again. His wife deserves better than that!
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
9 Oct 09
Hi manong,
Yes, she must be a good human being. If she closed the door infront of your brother then there will no difference in between them. Instead she accepted him that proves her love and care. If I was in place I don’t know what I will do because it depends on that situation. If I imagine the same and my feeling is, I can’t forgive. Once we lost the trust it is difficult to regain.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 09
manong yes she definitely has a heart of gold And your
'brother is so lucky she will take him back after all
'he has put her through. my goodness I do not know
whether or not I would have been that forgiving but
it shows she is one woman he should hold onto and
'love with all his heart. I hope he does right by
her now and not revert to what he did before. good
luck and God Bless.
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@23uday (2997)
• India
9 Oct 09
hi
Great ,such a nice woman infact very humane person and i also appreciate the daughters to welcome their father back .its is really tough on a woman's part to forgive a man who left them for another woman ,when their children needed their dad.
woman with such a pure gold heart is also a very great mother,brought up her daughters very well and graduated them both.hope your brother has realised his mistake.i wish all the best for that great lady and her daughters.
have a great time
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
Hi, manong
Bless your brother's wife and daughters. He is certainly very fortunate to have them.
If that were to happen to me, I would probably also accept my husband back but I would not be jumping with joy to welcome him. I would accept him and take care of him, thinking that it is my obligation to do so. I would probably be bitter and miserable. I could only hope that my husband would understand why I came to be like that and help me heal the wound and recover so that, someday, we will be happy and comfortable with each other again. After all, marriage takes a lot of effort from the husband and wife for it to work out right? If one falls, both must struggle to make everything alright again.
Cheers! 
Bless your brother's wife and daughters. He is certainly very fortunate to have them.
If that were to happen to me, I would probably also accept my husband back but I would not be jumping with joy to welcome him. I would accept him and take care of him, thinking that it is my obligation to do so. I would probably be bitter and miserable. I could only hope that my husband would understand why I came to be like that and help me heal the wound and recover so that, someday, we will be happy and comfortable with each other again. After all, marriage takes a lot of effort from the husband and wife for it to work out right? If one falls, both must struggle to make everything alright again.
Cheers! 
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
if that happens to me, i don't know if i can ever accept him, with all the sacrifices i have borne alone to care for the family that he left with his riches. i have this "iron" and unforgiving heart at times especially when a painful incident is still fresh and even think of avenging for my satisfaction but in the end, after the passage of time and after so much thought, i still find myself sympathetic to one who does me wrong. i might also take him back all because of the children and out of pity.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
Is this a real life story? I didn't know that there are still people like her, now a day.
Your brother is really lucky to have a wife and daughters like them. Even I don't know if I can forgive your brother if I am his wife. After all that he did, he will come back to us when he is sick and needed care. I don't know where he got his guts to face his family (I guess he knows very well her family, that is why). He left his family, neglected them, he doesn't even care about where his wife gets money to support his two daughters while he having fun and spending the money he got from his retirement with his mistress.
What your sister-in-law did was really a heroic act. She did raise her daugther well too, despite of the fact, they don't feel a bit bitterness to their father. Accepting their father and giving a warm welcome is really something hard for me to do.
Your brother must truly be sorry. His family doesn't deserve to be treated that way.
I cannot blame their neighbors if the think like that. What they see is how unfair and bad your brother is. They just cannot stomach what your brother did considering how understanding and good is his family to him.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
She's one in a million, some guys just have all the luck. I'm not sure if my wife would do the same (lol). A lot of people may raise eyebrows over what your sister-in-law did, but I think, she have chosen a win-win solution. Personally she's at peace since she chose to forgive than to have revenge, on the other hand the husband has a lifetime to make up for what he did. I just hope that he returned with true and honest intentions because if he did leave once there's always a chance that he'll do it again.
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@ladyella (145)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
if i were on her shoes, i wouldn't give in as easily as that. that was painful and hard and he can't expect me to smile and run to him when he comes back. but still, i'd be able to forgive in time. i love with forgiveness and i'd teach my children to do the same. the neighbors have a point though because they had been witnesses to her struggles and may have empathized with her. i'm glad that your brother found a woman like his wife because there are few hearts that could love like hers does. ^^
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
9 Oct 09
manong05,
This is just another clear and great lesson of what it means to truly love a person despite how spiteful the past had been for the couple. Your sister in law is really a remarkable person indeed and I just cannot help admiring her sense of magnanimosity, deep love for her family and most of all your brother.
I suppose this is also what it mean by being unable to fathom a person's heart because some people's love could be unfathomable as the depth of the deepest ocean. A graceful spirit which can neither be defeated nor run out of forgiveness. Ever ready to encompass a person's imperfection and faults and forgive their trespasses.
She is indeed like a rare diamond and I really hope that your brother will learn to cherish and treasure her after this.
