does he realy love me????????

@lwethu (242)
South Africa
October 9, 2009 7:49am CST
I met him two years ago. We have our ups and down, but I am not sure if he really love me. He is a secretive man I don't what he thinks or does. I have been with him for to long but I never met his friend or family. I don't know where is he coming from. It's too bad, we don't talk much when we are together, he is always tied or busy. He claims to love me but I doubt. Does he really love me??????.
8 responses
@lixiaoyan (179)
• China
13 Oct 09
Hi,my friend ,to be honest ,I don't feel he really love you.You see ,you have been together for 2 years ,but you still don't know where he comes from and never meet his friends ,you even don't know what he busy about.Don't you think that is too strange?My friend ,you must be careful,I think this is not only about love ,maybe he is just a treat,treat your feeling ,treat your love ,even treat your money and your body. Just take care of yourself ,and you would better have a survey on him .
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@hireshd (492)
• India
13 Oct 09
Hmm he says he loves you, but you doubt does he or not? You can get this clear by asking him what his priorities are, if he loves you you would stand in his first 2 priorities because when a person loves someone the loved one is always taken into consideration irrespective of any kind of ups and down in life. Now you have also mentioned that you have not met his family, find out the reason, if its guenuien of him then its okay else you need to reconsider your love.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 09
The best thing to do is to get the answers from him. Have you tried talking to him about this yet? But honestly maybe you feel doubt for the right reasons. I mean, for the 2 years that you're together, you should have been introduced to his family or at least his friends. So go ahead and talk to him. I think it will help you understand where he is coming from.
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• China
11 Oct 09
I think he says he is very tired is because he lack of his personal space. But of course it is not your fault. I'm also this type of person if i cann't stay alone (maybe listen to music, maybe read books, but i have to be alone)for at least two hours per day then i will feel very tired even though it seems that i have rested for a long time. Maybe your boyfriend is this type of person. So i think you can tell him that you can stop meeting with each other for a while for him to have a rest and also for both of you to think through your relationship. And i think it will be good for you to write him a letter to tell him your true feelings like you may feel uncomfortable that he does not introduce you to his family and friends or other things you would like to tell him. Sometimes letters will be a very good tool to communicate, for if you communicate face to face then sometimes maybe your tone or your facial expressions will make him feel that you are complaining especially when you are talking about serious things. And a letter will provide him more time to think the answer. If he still doesn't want to have deeper communication with you then i think it will be better for you to give up this relationship for he is not serious with your relationship. The two years you have spent is ok. You can think through this relationship and next time you will be wiser. Of course ,I hope you two will solve your problems, for it's really a miracle that you two can encounter with each other in this big world. Wish you good luck.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
i don't think he really does because when a guy loves you no matter how busy you are, he'll always find a way to be with you... you've been together for 2 years but you weren't introduced by him with his family and even his friends? my gosh! that's terrible...
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• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I think you can only answer that question. You can really feel if someone loves you. But in your case, I've noticed that you are filled with doubts in mind, so I guess you are not loved because you don't feel it. How come you haven't met his family considering the time you've been together? Are you in a long distance relationship and don't see each other often. If he is tired and busy always, I think it's best to talk to him and confront him about this issue. Tell him that you are affected by his schedule and tell him he should spend some time with you too. Have an open communication because it will help a lot in any relationship. I hope you can get through this soon. Hope that the both of you can fix this. And hoping you to post an update soon that you are now sure that you are loved by that person.
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• Canada
13 Oct 09
Well, we're not the best choice to ask this. To avoid worries and distress, ask him in person. If he loves you, you can save time and cease worries, if not, why waste time on him. There are tons of other good men. He's human, and isn't worth your time if he's a jerk.
@today2009 (160)
• China
9 Oct 09
I feel love is feeling.Have feelings is love.I have a classmate he set marriage,but also divided .Is not,I think the love is difficult to refine.If he went to fight for love.Refueling!