How old should a girl before she starts wearing make-up?

Indonesia
October 9, 2009 1:41pm CST
i sister is 4 and is preschool. she came home yesterday and said one of the other kids called her ugly. i have always known she isn't the prettiest girl in the world. but i want to help her self-esteem. i was thinking she could wear make-up or something. is she to young, though?
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I was not allowed to wear makeup until I was 14. Even that was minimal. I could wear, eyeshadow, blush and lip gloss. My mother said not to look like a clown. Some girls wear too much makeup and it does nothing for their appearance. Any girl younger than a teenager wearing makeup is asking for trouble. it's just too young to be a grownup!
• United States
9 Oct 09
I also started to wear makeup when I was fourteen as well as my sister. I think it was a good age to start and i'm actually realy happy that my parents made me wait, its too much to worry about and yeah it is just asking for trouble.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Girls today just seem to be in too big a hurry to grow up. They should stay children as long as they can. Looking older with makeup just takes girls into the adult world before they are ready.
• United States
9 Oct 09
No way should she be allowed to wear makeup four is way too young. Thats very nice of you to want to help her but you should help her by telling her shes pretty and you should get the rest of your family to tell her that she is too.
@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I totally agree, she is way too young to wear make up in this situation. I bet that her skin can't take the chemicals in the make up. I also would suggest that saying that she is beautiful can keep her self esteem up.
• United States
11 Oct 09
I feel that she is to young to wear make up. Age 14 would be great but no sooner than that. Looking at magazines and television of all this camera lighting phony made up people is making normal reality a mess. I feel be yourself regardless. I am 28 years old and I don't wear make up at all only because it may take away from my beauty I'm fine and I don't need nothing to enhance my beauty and I know your little sister is beautiful so teach her that she is just that Beautiful ....Take Care!
• Philippines
12 Oct 09
no, u shouldn't start putting make-up on her. she is too young and it is not for her skin. well, my daughter wore make-up during special occasions, like when she acted as flower girl in a cousin's wedding or some school activities. i was careful to thoroughly cleanse her face afterwards.
12 Oct 09
Oooh, she's too young to wear make-up. She's still in pre-school. It's normal for kids to tease their classmates. And maybe, you're sister just needs some grooming, not make-up. Natural beauty is still the best. And make-ups may be hazardous to her skin especially that her skin is still young.
@shilley (155)
• India
12 Oct 09
Yes..its too early to ask your sister to start wearing make up.I feel one should start wearing make up after eighteen.Everyone is pretty in their own way.Speak to your sister,make her understand she is no less beautiful.You can do some alternatives to make her look better than what she is now.Change her current hair style and go for the one which makes her look charming.Keep an eye on her diet,sometimes one look dull due to lack of proper nutrition as well.If atall your sister is still not convinced,then go for the natural products instead of cosmetics.Ask her to apply a mixture of besan and gram flour for few minutes before washing her face or for her whole body,it makes skin blemish free and glow.
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
10 Oct 09
She is WAY too young. While she may not be beauty queen material, as family, you should be encouraging self esteem in her. At age four, you would be basically agreeing with her classmates about "not being pretty" by trying to "fix it". Don't side with the 4 year children - side with your sister and teach her self esteem and values. Where I am from, girls don't really start to wear makeup until they are 13 or 14 years old. Girls younger than that are looked down on as "trashy"...and since it is typically teenage and adult men that like girls to wear makeup because of the stupid images of what beauty is in their eyes - - - there is no way in h3ll I'd let my 4 year old walk around with makeup on.....
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
10 Oct 09
that is scary. how many 4-year-olds wear makeup? i think the youngest age to start wearing makeup is in junior high, 12 or 13 years old. i started at 15 because that was when i felt like wearing makeup. most girls start in high school. but nowadays they are starting in junior high. i think elementary school is too young for makeup too.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
11 Oct 09
I'd try some other way to build her self esteem. Four is way too young for make-up. What can she do better than anyone else?
• United States
10 Oct 09
I would explain to her that external beauty is only one part of a person in this world.There are many people that are beautiful on the outside but are horrible people on the inside.There are many other more important aspects of a human being.Such as personality intellect etc..True beauty comes from the inside.Just as true happiness can only be drawn from within.A person can be beautiful in so many other ways other than their physical appearance.These other kids that called your daughter ugly are only showing there ignorance.These kids do not truly know your daughter as a person.They are only judging her on her outward appearance and their own perception of what is beautiful or ugly.Children have a tendency to harass and and or gang up on each other.The mob mentality.Just as a lot of adults will do this as well.Human nature I guess.If I were you I would have a talk with the people that are in charge of this preschool that your daughter is attending.They should not allow these kids to behave in such an insensitive manner towards each other.You may even choose to take your daughter elsewhere if this is an option.Good Luck to you and your daughter.
• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
No, do not start her too early. Vanity can be a curse if started too young. It is very expensive to keep up facial appearances. Let her take the taunts. After all she is beautiful, isn't she?
@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I really think that she is too young to wear make up. I really think that you should support her by telling her that she is just perfect the way she is. I think that you can research over the internet on how to increase a self-esteem on children. I think that it is really nice of you to help her self esteem as early as this age because I think that will be very helpful for her in the future. Have a nice day. Happy mylotting. More power.
• India
10 Oct 09
Hi freddy63, At four, using make up for sister would spoil her skin as it would contain chemicals.
• United States
10 Oct 09
A four year old does definitely NOT need to be wearing makeup. I started wearing makeup towards the end of middle school.
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I don't think it's a good idea. Because the chemicals for a make up can ruin a young skin. Just put a little powder, and fix her hair. That can do better. Also, give her self esteem in a good way like telling her how beautiful she are and it's not the physical being can justify the real meaning of beauty. We are all unique in every way. We may not have all the things in the world but as long as we feel loved by our loved ones (like family) that's the greatest gift she can ever have. She is still young and a lot of things will develop in her physical appearance. Tell her not to mind other kids because they haven't seen their faces in the mirror and it's bad to call someone ugly because we are all made to beautiful in every way.
@taraelocin (1138)
9 Oct 09
She definitively is too young. By suggesting something like this you could destroy her self confidence completely. She'd feel that she is so ugly, that she needs make up before anyone else. Instead you should rather make her understand that looks are not everything, that the character counts and that the other kids were just stupid and jealous. Make her believe in herself for her inner beauty and strength and talents, not despise herself for her looks!