Do you believe "Once a cheater, always a cheater"?

United States
October 12, 2009 10:17pm CST
Everyone's heard it, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Do you agree or disagree? Why? Leave examples if you have any, just want your guys' input! :) I don't want anything to do with a cheater!
10 responses
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Not at all. Sometimes a cheater will have to learn the hard way in order for him to stop cheating. But as long as he will not be in trouble, he will continue cheating. I do have one buddy who cheats on his wife and had another woman. Not until her wife cheats also with another man, did that person knows how painful lesson it is for him. So far for now, he never again cheats on his wife even if sometimes temptation are just around the corner. He's a good boy now and often gives advices to those that are newly weds.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thank you for your input, Fulltank! I agree with you and sometimes people do learn from their mistakes and become great people! It's great to hear about your friend who learned from his actions. That's proof that once a cheater is not always a cheater! :)
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
People sometimes learn the hard way. And if experience teaches us to be a better people, when why not grab the opportunity. As I said, my friend now is a better person, and his advices usually comes from his greatest teacher, his experience. By the way, thanks for choosing my response as your best one.
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I partly agree on that. There are certain people who are fond of making lies but there are persons who just make mistakes and change too. So, I am in between agreeing and disagreeing on what you've said. Although I knew someone who is really a cheater. So, I guess, that line resembles his personality. It depends. But in most cases, I must admit you are right. Happy Mylotting!
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thanks for your opinion! You're right, I believe it just depends on the cheater. If they are genuinely sorry for what they have done I believe they could change. But some people are just natural born players, that's just how it is. Happy Mylotting!
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
In some ways yes, because when you get caught and get away with it, you get bolder and bolder every time.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thanks for your post! I agree with that completely. Once a person cheats and gets away with it, they think they are basically invincible and think they can do whatever they want.
@stephon8 (300)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I have an uncle who is a womanizer before but now he is a changed man. He doesn't cheat at her wife anymore and you can really see the big change. So i dont beleive that once a cheater, always a cheater. People do change, it is just a matter of giving them trust again.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thank you Stephon8! It's great to hear about the change your uncle has made. Proof once a cheater, isn't ALWAYS a cheater. :) Sometimes people do change for the better, and it's amazing to witness!
@shally_hh (418)
• China
13 Oct 09
hey,i am out of sympathy with this opinion,‘once a cheater,always a cheater’,sometimes people tell a lie just for a particular reason.maybe most of us have told our friends or families a white lie once.for instance,i often tell my mother my life goes well even though i have some difficulties.i told a lie just because i don't hope my families or friends always concern about me.
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thank you for posting, Shally_hh! You're completely right, people do lie just to make things easier for themselves. And also easier on other people. No matter the lie though, white lie or big lie, it's still a lie, and I don't tolerate lying in a relationship. I want someone who is going to be honest with me and someone that I can trust.
• United States
13 Oct 09
I dont really agree with that. I do believe that sometimes, people simply make mistakes but learn from it and never repeat it again. We can't always have full control of our emotions, so I would be able to understand why someone would cheat once. As long as it was only once, and they are truly remorseful, then I would have faith that they would never cheat again.
• United States
13 Oct 09
I'm with you, sometimes we lose control of our thoughts and emotions and are just confused. I'm okay with forgiving a cheater, but they would really have to prove to me that they really wanted to be with me and prove it to me. Thank you for your comment!
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I believe that a cheater will not be a cheater forever. Time will come that a person like them will realize that they get nothing from cheating. In cheating we don't cheat to other people we are just fooling our selves if we cheat. So I think there is always a room for a change just like a sinner. A sinner will not be a sinner forever if he want's to change he will not be a sinner anymore. So it depends to a person if he/she wants to change.
@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Yes i agree with that statement, if someone will cheat you once they are going to do it again.
@baybay3 (66)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Hey! In some situations I do believe that "Once and cheater, always a cheater." For instances, if you are in a relationship and the guy cheats on you and you stay with him, what is going to stop him from doing it again? He got away with it once, why not try it again. I feel like if you truly respect the person you are in relationship with, you won't cheat on them. For me, if my lover cheated on me, it would be very hard for me to get over it and I know that I wouldn't be able to look at him the same way. However, I do know that people make mistakes and that people change. I just feel like more likely than not, if a guy cheats on you,he will probably do it again. It's hard to change a person over night. With time he might learn and change his ways, but I don't believe it will happen right away. Forgive and Forget.... BUT, Re-live and Regret....
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
13 Oct 09
My mother always said that. In a relationship we always have to wonder would our partners stray? I guess it depends on the couple. If two people have enough in common and care enough about each other I don't think they would cheat. But frequently in long term relationships boredom sets in. That is one time people might cheat. If a person is not really committed to just one, they could cheat. If a person is not really mature enough to understand the ebbs and flows of a real relationship they will cheat. Sometimes they are just not ready to be exclusively with one person.