Do you think it's silly meeting someone online for serious relationship?

Philippines
October 13, 2009 3:19am CST
I am wondering if there are most people online meet up and begin to fall in love and have a serious relationship. I always find it silly because it takes time to gain trust to someone especially online but how can people create a serious relationship to a person they just meet online? Does it really work? You fall in love to someone you meet online?
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@littleone3 (2065)
13 Oct 09
No it is not silly at all Yes it can work. I met my partner online and we have now been together four and a half years and have a three year old son together. He is my soulmate I would not be without him nor him me. We want to spend the rest of our lives together. But it doesn't always work out for everyone I have seen my friends get badly hurt by someone they have met on the internet. The reason it worked for me and my partner is because we were honest with each other form the start we also sent photos and saw each other on webcam before we actually started going out. So we both knew what to expect.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really? Glad to hear your stories that it also had a successful result and a good relationship to others who meet online.Thanks and I appreciate your response.
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• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Some people I hear testify it work for them as not all people could have a personal date in real life as they too are busy with their work and online dating is the possible solution to this problem, Hope is not loss in online dating and if it is the way to connect with people then it really does not matter as long as they both love and understand each others. Love have no boundaries it could travel even in the ocean of times.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I got your point.There are maybe people build up relationship online for there busy schedule and they find it more passionate.Thanks and I appreciate your response.
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@SQD444 (679)
• India
13 Oct 09
welll we just cant come up to a one sided answer about this... i personally would say it is silly to meetup some one online for serious relationship....but i have seen people who are very happy together thoug they met up at 1st online...
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Maybe there are still people who take serious relationship online and take it more sincere.Anyway, I am glad and I appreciate your response.
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
13 Oct 09
Hi,irene,This discussion has the response in two directions.There is a possibility of real and genuine relationship,provided if they are honesty in expecting relation.But in many cases it is utilized and there will not be any chance for realistic approach.Have a nice time.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
You have your point. There still real and genuine relationship that creates online if you really sincere of it.Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
13 Oct 09
I don't think it is silly meeting somebody online for a serious relationship. The main point is both of you should be very sure about what you are doing. Both of you should be serious findign a partner. My husband and I met online through a matrimonial website. We contacted through emails and finally met each other. We decided to ger married afater three dates. Now, we are having a wonderful relationship.
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• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Really? Sorry for some offended statement, I just put to discussions my points of view. Well, I am very glad that I hear someone for a successfully marriage that started a relationship online.Wish you happiness and thanks for your response.
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@danitykane (3192)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Honestly, I find it a little weird but cute (and a bit romantic) at the same time. I know there are people online who meets up and fall for each other. Though its kinda weird knowing their relationship were established via the internet still you can't help but to be amazed how their love story begins. To define how they truly love each other depends on how long they're gonna be together. There are stories such as this and live their lives together successfully. In fact, most of them claim their found love as their "soulmate". It could be true because, it is indeed hard to find someone whom you share thoughts, ideas, feeling and emotion. Falling for someone you never met personally is really something. There are some who traveled a thousand miles just to see the person they knew would bring happiness to their lives and fill their heart with joy and with so much love.
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
Such a nice statement and response. I agree of it that there are some who gets seriously in love because they always find time together after meeting up and get to know each other on net. Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.
@laxmi123 (949)
• India
13 Oct 09
yeah you are correct.i have heard.but i haven't seen my online friend .i didn't meet him.i didn't hear his voice.and i didn't his face.but his my best friend in online.but some people if do friendship,they think it's love.i think it's not love.love is different.friendship is different.both are very important in ours life.what do you say.do you agree with me.if you agree with me,thank you.if you don't agree with me,no thanks.anyway your discussion is superb
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• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I agree with you that friendship online is different in loving a real person.The identity must be assured if you fall in love to someone.Thanks and I also appreciate your response.
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@ammu2811 (20)
• India
13 Oct 09
I don't believe this kind of relationship. Because we don't know other persons charactor and it's not advisable to continue such relations. I have seen couple of my friends who make serious relationship with online friends. I never share any personal information with online buddies. Online buddies are for only knowledge sharing only not for life. Let me know your thoughts on my reply.
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• Philippines
13 Oct 09
I agree with your post response. We need to set boundaries to our online friends and keep our profile private because we are not assured of their identity.Thanks and I appreciate your response.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hello irene3184, i don't think it's silly at all. for the niece of my wife met her husband online. she was working in hongkond back then and her husband went there to met her. they fall in love and got married after a few months. now, they are 6 years happily married and are now living together somewhere in the US. nothing is impossible in love. if you really are meant to each other.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really? There are already lot's of you here in mylot hear there responses that they had a very successful marriage for meeting their love one online.
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• Philippines
15 Oct 09
True. Sometimes it's hard to find someone the regular way, so online is another way.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
I agree with you that it's a different thing in meeting online.Thanks again for your response.
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@sandyck (54)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 09
I think No. We have to try every make sense way to have serious relationship. There were so many people been married begin with online dating. Meant, it is proven to have husband or wife by that way.
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I think so because there are some responses here admitted that they meet their husband or wife online and have a successful relationship. Anyway, Thanks and I appreciate your response.
• India
22 Oct 09
Irene I can tell u from my personal experience that online relationship sucks. I had been once in such a relationship and you won't believe this was the worst decision of my life. I never suggest anybody to go for such kind of relationship. Simple fact that works here is you can't trust a person whom you never met.
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
You can't simply trust someone online or someone you just meet online. I've never been in a situation that I meet someone I just know online because I can't build up trust on it.Anyway,thanks and I appreciate your response.
14 Oct 09
It is highly possible to meet someone online for a serious relationship. I have known people who began their courtship online and finally decided to meet in person. However, knowing someone in person as opposed to knowing them online are 2 different scenarios. The real test is when you begin to spend time together offline. A couple of people I know did this and it turned out fine. The majority of cases, however, failed because they did not get along fine. The online personality they expected did not exactly match the offline personality.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I got your point. In some areas of people who meet online gain a successful relationship but there are some who is not successful because there are some try to disguise being a different person. Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Actually it's not much different from the real world. Although online has its' own sets of risks. Incidentally, there are a number of success stories of people falling in love online and living happily ever after. Two of those are my neighbors. There are also horror stories which we often heard. So just in the real world, it can work both ways. But as always, whether online or real life, love will find a way. have fun irene!
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I agree with you that love will find a way but hope that love will also find me.Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I think it depends some are falling in love in the person that they have meet online and some are not so serious about it. In my experience I never been serious about meeting up with somebody that I've met online because I can't trust them. It is still possible that this relationship going to be serious.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really but I've heard some people responses here that they meet their husband or wife online and they have a successful marriage. Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.
• United States
14 Oct 09
For me, its possible, I met my now bf online through the online website imvu.com I know, ok..it sounds silly but..I requested to chat with him, that first day, we talked maybe a hour or so, and i added him as a friend..Shortly after for some reason, I couldnt get enough of him, so we started to talk everyday, and even have webcam chats on msn, He lives in the netherlands and I in america, I trust him completely, we have a serious relationship, and this christmas i've made plans to go and visit him. Maybe even move there one day. Some ppl dont understand, but its like he's my soul mate..
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really? What a nice story you had.. It's quite interesting that it really works to someone who meet online with a successful relationship. Thanks and i appreciate your response.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
Many moons ago, when the internet was still young (LOL!), and chatting on-line was the norm, I met my soon to be wife. It was chatting at first, then the phone calls, then the first date. We felt we already knew each other well even before we personally met because we already had the exchange on-line. 10 years and 2 kids later, I will still prove to be a testament that on-line relationships work :P
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really? Good to hear it from you..so it really does work..I'm glad to hear your stories and thanks for your response.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
13 Oct 09
It may be possible to meet someone and fall in love on-line, but, as you said, it takes a long time to really get to know someone and trust them, especially on-line. Unfortunately, people can be whoever they want to be when they are on-line and we can never really know if they are who they claim to be. There are some people who are honest and do not try to portray themselves as someone they are not, but how do we really know unless we meet them in person and get to know them that way? On-line, you may "fall in love" with what you think that person is, but you really can't say whether ot not you love the person they really are until things go to another more personal level. I am not one who would even consider trying to find love on-line, even if I weren't married. There are just too many dangers out there and too many horror stories of meeting gone bad. Too many sickos in the world who take advantage of the fact that they can be someone else to lure people in. I think that the best way to find love and create a serious relationship is to go about it the traditional way and meet that person face to face, not on-line.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I agree with you that people online can portray any image if they like just to get somebody's attention.That's why I ask other's opinion if there are some who meet online live a lasting relationship and how can they measure trust to person they meet online?
• India
13 Oct 09
Hi irene, you have started very good discussion. I think this type of relationship will doesn't continue for long time. How can it be possible for human to take all the friendly actions as love. I don't know how they can know about each other. I think it will take more time for them to understand. online relationship was a fake one. None is trusted. Only few peoples are trusted and that will too take more time.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Really? But there are mylotters responses that it ends something good and have a lasting relationship having someone you just meet online.Anyway,Thanks and I appreciate your response.
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
13 Oct 09
there is nothing silly in it and it only depends on how well you can handle it and how well you can make your online partner realize that you are not a fool and don't rely upon such relationships ,you just have to handle it the way it comes otherwise you may lose out in the end
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Yes. It all depends on you on how you put sincerity in meeting and loving person online.Thanks and I appreciate your response?
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
i think you are right because people online can tell many untruths about themselves but i do happen to know that there are some people out there that have gotten married to people they have met online and they seem pretty happy.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Thanks for responding to my posted discussion. I really appreciate your response.