I hate having this dream

@Canellita (12058)
United States
October 13, 2009 10:55am CST
I had one of those crazy dreams where I was out somewhere and it was time to leave and I could not remember where I had parked my car. So then I spend all this time walking around and around looking for it and getting more and more frantic by the moment when I can not find it. What could possibly cause such a crazy dream? Why do we have to go through such an experience during a time when we are supposed to be pleasantly and peacefully relaxing through eight blissful hours of sleep? The truth is I hate any dream that does not allow me to wake up rested and refreshed but this dream in particular is pretty annoying.
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@mommaj (22877)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Seriously, I have to ask if this has ever happened to you. I have actually done that and I was wide awake! Is this just a fear of yours or a memory? Chances are really good something happened that day to trigger the dream. It could have been something happened that gave you that same feeling, or maybe you lost something, or forgot to do something that was important to you.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I am always having trouble finding something or other in this mess of disorganization where you can't remember where you last had something. Tomorrow is payday so things will hopefully start to be on the upswing again.
@mommaj (22877)
• United States
15 Oct 09
LOL. Am I psychic or do I just remember things, dejavu?
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
17 Oct 09
It's cold today and all I want to do is sleep!
• Netherlands
13 Oct 09
Hi Canellita! Oh I hate having dreams like that also that and then of course to make it worse you wake up stressed and Not rested and then you have to face an entire day of work etc.! I've always heard that it is something in your subconscious that causes you to have those weird types of dreams. Not necessarily that you Will loose your Car in this instance but supposedly everything seems to have a symbol so the loosing your Car in your dream does not necessarily mean Car!!! It's amazing how complex the mind is even during what is suppose to be our most relaxing time of the day!
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I think the same. Maybe the dream has a symbolic meaning. I've read in a psychology book that our society teaches us to censor some things because we might step on each other's toes, so sometimes when we dream our mind uses symbols so as to censor some things. Sometimes when we can't face something our mind uses symbols in our dreams to convey the message that we can't really think about consciously when we are awake. No matter how troublesome a thing is and no matter how much effort we make to put it at the back of our minds, our subconscious thoughts will always find a way of getting out.
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• Netherlands
14 Oct 09
So true Angelajoy, our subconscious is so powerful and I believe in reality it really does rule our lives, even though we don't realize it!
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I get lots of messages through dreams. I guess the message in this one is to pay more attention to where I put things! LOL!
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@love_all (308)
• India
13 Oct 09
well watching anything which is least expected is always a problem.. especially when u watch it in the wee hours of morning when u have the best dreams that u can ever hve.. the dreams decide the day and i totally agree with u this happens... even i had a similar type of dream when i was having a nap today.. buying a house and loosing its papers and someone else starts living in the house kicking me and my family out.. :(
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I wasn't watching anything. I was probably on the computer before I went to bed. That dream about the house is indeed a crazy one!
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Usually a stressful dream has to do with you being worried or stressed about something in general. So maybe as you were falling asleep, your mind was churning with all the things you have to do tomorrow or something like that. If you start writing down your dreams, you'll find you have some control over them. I did this before and I started to be able to change things in my dream. I think the big thing is getting your mind to realize that this is just a dream and snap yourself out of it, or change it.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I am no more worried or stressed than normal, but I guess stress has something to do with dreaming about getting stressed out.
@kelly10 (678)
13 Oct 09
I think that everyone has a dream that is constant to themselves and most of them will probably hate it. As others have said it seems like your dream is to do with stress or fear. Feelings in your waking life that you either don't understand or deal with often manisfest themselves in your dreams. It's a kind of coping mechanism so that you can rid yourself of the stress so that your waking life isn't affected. One thing I would count your self lucky on is that you don't have a recurring dream that comes true. Many people, myself included, have dreams of events that then happen. You always know that it's been one of 'those' dreams, and then you really do wake up feeling stressed and worried. Has anyone else ever had dreams that have come true?
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I just find the dreams annoying. I would much rather dream pleasant things.
@kelly10 (678)
17 Oct 09
Like I said there is something in your life that is effecting you. Some sort of stress, fear, or worries are stopping you from relaxing and therefore having a good nights sleep without dreams that are stressing you out. It's a viscious circle so you have to find the cause of your worries etc and rid yourself of them. Are you a good sleeper and do you follow the same pattern each night, ie going to bed at the same time, eating or drinking just before, watching TV? The reason I ask this is that you maybe doing something that is stopping you from relaxing. I would be very interested in knowing.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
17 Oct 09
I don't follow a specific pattern and my habits on the weekends are different than Monday through Thuursday. The last two nights I went to bed early and woke up either at dawn or before the sun. I still had some crazy (thought noet stressful) dreams but I was more rested. I finally got paid (waited a month) so I am sure that helped.
@buping (954)
• China
14 Oct 09
hi canellita, when you said about your dream, i think about one thing happen to my friend. he drove after drinking achole, and he parked his car and then went home to sleep. when he woke up the next morning, he could not remember where he parked his car, he walked around and around looking for it, no result. after three days, he finally found his car.
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@pcruz77 (452)
• Guam
14 Oct 09
how do you start a discussion?
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Oh no! I would have lost my mind and reported the car stolen. Once I was working in an office and I thought I had noted where I parked my car and when I returned to the space in the parking garage at the end of the day it was not there! Fortunately I found it on a different level.
@pcruz77 (452)
• Guam
14 Oct 09
I think your dream suggests that you embarked on a journey, perhaps a new beginning, but then when it was time for you to return, you forgot where you started from. That park car could be a symbol of where you had started before on this journey of enlightenment or perhaps a vacation, or something else. And looking for your car can also be that you knew where you were, but you couldn't recognize where you came from. This could be a message for you to rediscover yourself. This is something that most people should embark on.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Very interesting. I shall have to give this some thought. It's true I do not spend any time in daily reflection. I have been too busy racing around here and there with this and that. Maybe it is time for a break.
@scheng1 (24748)
• Singapore
14 Oct 09
haha, probably your mind is telling you to exercise more. Since you are not able to walk so much during the daytime, you have to walk in your dream. I wonder if your legs ache after so much walking. Maybe your brain will get tired of asking you to find cars, and the next thing is to find food in the forest. That will be much tougher terrain to walk.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Hmmmm... this sounds like the beginning of one of your fiction stories. Am I in danger of being enslaved by my computer as well?
@pede_22 (385)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I think it's just a fruit in our night sleep...It happened sometimes when we are stressed with our works. Bad dreams came and you could not control for it... But, not all of the times we experienced that because there are dreams that are so nice, incredible, and meaningful. lol...
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
That may be so, but personall I prefer the dreams that are nice and pleasant. They don't have to be meaningful, although incredible sounds good!
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 09
hi canellita I have similar dreams only I am on foot, and lost, and walk and walk, and end up in an area where it is all industrial buildings and big machines, and dirt in big mounds. I am frantic trying to find my way back to town and the JC Penny store which I was headed to, and never found. I wake up exhausted and so glad it was a dream and I am not lost at all. grrr. so scary. The awful part is that I have had much the same dream over again several times. The thing is that horrid frantic feeling that you just cannot figure out how to get out of this jam.I wish I knew what causes dreams like you had and I have had.they are so awful.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I have had a similar situation sometimes if I am driving in the dream. The car will suddenly become something else or I will suddenly be walking. I used to have dreams about roads disappearing or running out in marshes, or the brakes not working, even before I really started driving. Used to "drive" me nuts!
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Hello Canellita. I've had repetitive dreams of the same nature...lost, searching, that sort of thing. They are disturbing, and they seem so real. I often try to figure out what is behind them. I've heard you can actually "reprogram" a recurring dream's outcome if you visualize before falling asleep. I'll have to try that sometime to see if it works. Hope it doesn't visit you tonight! Karen
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
15 Oct 09
It's called lucid dreaming. I read an article in Psychology today many years ago that said that when you have those crazy dreams like when you are dreaming you are already up and dressing for work and then something happens that could only be in a dream you just say to yourself "this is a dream" and it shakes you out of it. Well, one time I said this is a dream and a friend at the time who was also in the dream said "no it isn't!" Talk about waking up in a dream within a dream. Leave it to say I was not pleased with that one. And yes, in real life, this was just the sort of person who would have done something like that and contradicted me!
• India
14 Oct 09
probably u love ur car so much that u cant afford to lose it sometimes it depends on state of mind what u r going thru , u cannot avoid such dreams just live tension free
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
It's true! I do love my car and it would put me in a real bind if I were to lose it. I depend on it for getting to work and all of the places I have to be.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
14 Oct 09
Hi canellita, I do not think there is anything serious about your dreams. We are so much crowded with diverse thoughts and actions in our day to life that we often forget what must have suddenly and unknowingly crossed our mind and at what moment. These thoughts and actions make a sort of jumble and they as they are in the subconscious mind of ours we tend to see them in our dream and might be you had been of late preoccupied with some unpleasant premonition.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Perhaps you are right. I am preoccupied with the things I can not become more efficient with in my life at work and when working at home because of how disorganized tings are. I still have an incomplete home and it will be a long time before it is finished. That car dream just makes me crazy though because of the frantic confusion of trying to figure out where the car is. I have been told driving a car in a dream represents your life and if someone else is driving that person is in control of your life. I often have trouble finding things I need so I guess there is something to it.
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Oct 09
Hi Canellita, Sometimes dreams are our daily experiences and unprocessed events in our lives. Maybe you are searching for an answer for an unresolved issue that is presurring your subconscious to do something to resolve it. What do you think? Are you undegoing a process now that need to be attended to? Goodluck friend!
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Oct 09
It is certainly possible. There are so many variable to the equation it is hard to know where to begin. I suppose it is more like multiple processes. Thing have no doubt been internalized as well.
• China
14 Oct 09
I also have done so to wake up tired.