Do you accept your ex

@JohnJeff (722)
Malaysia
October 13, 2009 12:29pm CST
Let say suddenly your ex-boy or ex-girl appeared after long times dissapeared without any news.Meanwhile you already got new one.Do you still accept him/her or you stick with the new one.Which one you choose
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6 responses
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
14 Oct 09
Who dissapear no reason, don t deserve to talk with him again, just because he make other people to suffer a lot; who dissapear no words, no reasons, just like to play with others heart and life. You know, let s say that i were in this kind of situation...when i look around me, and the place were empty...i don t know how i will react if i will see him again one day, but for sure that i can t forgive him, after long time, just because he left and let me suffer
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
14 Oct 09
Sometimes reason has nothing to do with feeling, you know. If there were rules to follow in relationships, every story would develope in similar ways. I agree that if one of the two left and let the other suffer he or she shouldn't forgive so easily. But what's the meaning of forgiving if it was given only when the offensive part was unguilty? I guess eveybody must decide by themselves, as in all situations. Sorrounding people could give advice, opinions, but in the end there's no "right thing to do".
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
14 Oct 09
you know..is easy to forgive him or she, if you think that he really don t want you any more is ok...this is life, but is more harder to forgive yourself, and this is my problem...to forgive myself because i let him hurt me...any way, sometimes life is so strange, and can t find an answer for everything, maybe is bette to say; what will be will be; nothing more
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
15 Oct 09
Well, just to think that what will be will be is a little too... sad, isn't it. Seems like it's not your life your taling about. I would say i you really care for something just try to fight for it. If you find out it's impossible, well, at least you tried. If the other part doesn't love you anymore, or decides to leave you, you can live your life desperately asking yourself what was wrong, or just find a way to be happy by yourself again. When I met my husband-to-be, it wasn't long after I had broken up with my ex. At that time I felt bad because it was me who left him and he was hartbroken. I felt I was the bad one and I didn't want to have any other relationships. So, when I met him (the one I am merried with now) I told him I wanted to be happy by myself. I said I didn't want to be with someone because I was feeling bad by myself. I wanted us to be toghether because we would feel BETTER that way.
• Philippines
19 Oct 09
It happen to me before when I broke up with my ex I thought he's totally gone in my life. After 3 years he came back in my life and he want me back. But he is one month late, I got my new fiance that time and I was so in love with him. My ex was a dreamboy, he's almost perfect, he's kind, anything good he has it. But despite of all this I still stick with my new which is my husband now and I made the right choice. I don't have any regrets of my decisions.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I that situation will happen to me i would prefer to choose my new gf. My ex left me without any reason and she'll comeback to explain for what?!.. The time that she left me is the end of our relationship. Well that is my opinion about it. However, i'll forgive my ex but i won't love her again as I did before.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
13 Oct 09
It did happen to me. My ex left me for some unclear reason, and told me we couldn't get in touch for a few months. I was desperate at that time, and believed he would never come back to me. After half a year he did actually contact me again, but I was together with another guy. The new guy already knew about the situation, and I told him that I didn't know what I really wanted anymore. I thought about it and I decided not to meet my ex again, even if it got me some more time to actually severe all of the ties with him. We went on talking at the phone for some time.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
13 Oct 09
I can only say someone who disappears with no explanation is a loser, that is assuming he did not meet with foul play. If you are a glutton for punishment here go back to the old loser. I certainly hope you have moved on and are not considering repeating old mistakes. Good luck with your problem I hope you make the right decision.
@love_all (308)
• India
13 Oct 09
i think i have already done that.. my ex left me and disappeared all of a sudden and in the mean time i found a new girl friend and was attached with her for more than 1.5 years and suddenly my ex comes back with lots of genuine reasons.. we never propose until one fine day.. and i could resist myself going towards my ex even i had someone new in my life.. not sure what was correct.. but that's the truth..