How often do people get married for other reasons other than love?

China
October 13, 2009 6:49pm CST
As far as I know, many marriages are based on many more things than love. Some girls just got married so she could have a baby; Some people got married just for more money. My friends tell me that If you love someone, you should marry them. But now, more and more people who get married just for other reasons other than love! What is the most common reason people get married? How often do people get married for other reasons other than love?
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@irishidid (8570)
• United States
13 Oct 09
When I got married it was for convenience and I wanted to have more children. I already had one child. It turned out not to be that convenient but I did get some great kids out of the deal. If I had it to do over again I still would have had the kids but not the marriage. I'll flat out be honest and say if I ever get married again it will be for security. Love doesn't pay the bills and I'd rather be comfortable with someone I could at least tolerate.
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14 Oct 09
Well, I know a lot of people (well, uneducated people maybe... =0) getting married just in the meaning of 'nationality'. It's true and I saw a lot of examples already, whatever the country is. So, they marry someone who is half century older than them, and getting the nationality as the way to escape their home country. What do you think about that? I think that's not pretty good. And also, just like you wrote, they are getting married only for money. It is very usual and a lot of examples are seen already. I don't appreciate when people misusing the meaning of marriage, because for me marriage is sacral and holy.
@solared (1210)
• United States
14 Oct 09
alot get married for citizenship...
• Indonesia
14 Oct 09
I agree. There are lots of other reason to get married than love. You can get married for money, honor, promise,or even for paying debt. It happens alot. Nowadays, also so many people getting married just to make it legal.In other cases, you might forced to get married if your couple get pregnant. So many reasons. But I myself still believe, that to get married with someone, there should be respect n understanding. The ultimate is trust. Those 3 are a must. If you have those 3, then love will follow..Trust me.Don't ever married with the one you love, but married the one who love you.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I agree that some are being practical they married only for money not for love. These days many women want marriage for convenience for money or to have children. I agree to magistical99 you should marry someone who loves you more than you love her/him. In the end you going to learn to love him or her back.
@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
19 Oct 09
People gets married for several reasons, but one among them is for moral support. Only our near and dear ones will take care of us throughout our life giving all support and sharing our good and bad, ups and downs with sincerity. They will take care of us with love and affection. After our parents, it is our spouse, who will give moral support and warmth throughout our life.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Other than love people get married for power and money. Some do get married because they is a baby involved. I would think that maybe 40% of the time people get married for other reason than love now a days.
• India
14 Oct 09
Hi getbrowser, I think there are many reasons to get married other than love. I think may be the family situation. Age at some times will play the major role. Money is also the one of the cause. People now doesn't belive others, they are beliving money. Some people thought money was their love, so that they can leave their loved ones and get married with other people for money.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Oct 09
Lets face it. How does anyone really know what's on somebody's mind ? I guess everyone has their own reason for marrying and the real reason most people marry are probably never revealed. Some people discover their partners reason after years and years of marriage. It takes a certain mindset to reveal your reasons, you know, you should watch this.
• India
14 Oct 09
hi, i agree with u re. Most people now a days get married for silly reasons other than love. Some people get marry without any reason, some people marry because they are getting old n in a fear of if age becomes more no one will marry them, n most for money n some by sacrificing there love. The most painful thing in life we are not married our girl due to some nonsense problem but it is more more painful.....
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I agree with you that there are marriages end up for a consolation. They want to get married because they want to go up their living or want to have a family. Other than that get married because they want money for living and for their parents.
@dragon54u (31615)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I think most people marry for love. I have never understood why a person would marry for money, I think it's a sure way to ruin your life and destroy your soul. I know that a lot of people do it, particularly women, but I could never do that.
@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Oct 09
Hi getbrowser, Well in some countries, fix marriages are being practiced as their culture dictates. Parents are arranging marriages for their daughters for security reasons, might be that the husband to be is from a rich clan or a family friend or both. In our country, most are love marriages and some are what they call shotgun marriage of which the husband is being forced to marry the wife due to pregnancy. Good Day!
@voldrox (7204)
• India
14 Oct 09
Hi getbrowser It is so sad that people these days are getting married for more selfish reasons, some to gain citizenship and some to make more money... i don't want to hear anymore, i am not married, and when it will be my time to marry i would like to make sure she is not after my money and only after me... i would not want to spend my life with someone would likes my wealth and my other things, marriage isn't a joke, well not at least to me... i am the bonding kind of person and so i will have to be careful to get myself the right one... hehe have a nice day getbrowser!
@Zenstrive (239)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 09
Many people in the world married due to family connection matchmaking. Perhaps most of the people in the world married this way. Don't underestimate this way of marriage though. When forced to live together, people can start loving each others truly and free of illusions. Often, people who are in love and decided to get married will marry under the influence of illusions of "that perfect partner", and when that illusionary love waned down, they decided to get divorce. Love is still undefined anyway.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
14 Oct 09
There are some who deliberately marry for reasons other than love and there are those who think they are in love and have not considered that it may just be obsession or fascination but not true love. A lot of people marry for money and, in my opinion if one marries for money he or she is earning every penny, if you know what I mean! (LOL) There are some who marry due to an unplanned pregnancy and unless they were in love and planning to wed anyway they usually find the pressure of a marriage they were not ready for along with a new baby, too much to cope with and inevitably things fall apart. Marriage is hard work even with a lot of love at the beginning so marrying for reasons other than love and commitment will usually only end in disaster, I think.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Well I gues as anyone always says, they get married because of love. But in reality this is not always the case. Maybe I think their are some who get married because they thought they just need to, some for fame, some for money, some for the purpose that they won't be alone, some for the reason of having a baby and most were the reason of just trying... This happened to my friend. At a very young age of 17 she decided to get married. She said you would not know the person much better unless you marry him. So she did. But later she decided that it was a big mistake marrying the person. Together with that vows were the responsibilities that married people should do. She got tired of all that so she wanted to end the married after their 2years of being together. So I gues that started for what she called love then later realize it wasn't true love. I think only few people now find marriage as a lifelong commitment, which needs to be taken seriously, wholeheartedly and for the reason of love. That means either one of the couple is willing to sacrifice to be able to work out their marriage.
@shajerrl (311)
• China
14 Oct 09
maybe we can classify the marrige into love marriage, arranged marriage, money marriage or reponsible marriage etc. it is no doubt that it's enough lucky for you if you can marry someone with love, that's also all we want to pursure...but in our real life, marriage depends on a lot of situations, maybe you parents think your wife family should equivalent with your family, you want to have better life to marry with a rich guy, or you find that it's your responsible to marry with someone so that you can take care him/her easily...but please don't give up your hope to pursue your real love, I surely believe there are real love exists in our world...good luck.
• India
14 Oct 09
I have to admit, very often and all around the world. As you have already listed so many points why people might get married and some get married coz they have to. They get married because its the age for them to get married and settle down and so they do, with someone they barely know. Some get married for family issues, some get married for money and yeah the list goes on.
@dipak06 (913)
• India
14 Oct 09
i think you may be right but there still belong a lot of people who still have believe in love...they got married with the one with whom they fall in love..and many people are happy with their love..again there are many people who marries to be a rich person by marring a Richie rich lady.. but i think to have a baby i think there are a lot of option other than marriage...well i am a bachelor and i have not yet check the taste of marriage...but i think i will marrie one who will love me a lotttt
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
14 Oct 09
We got married and our children still do get married because we need a partner and a family that would give us fulfilment and company.I am a middleaged lady and my marriage was an arranged marriage as is typical of many of our communities in India.Even some of our youngsters do agree to this because here we check horoscopes, compatibility of the families and the boy and the girl.THe compatibility of the boy and girl is checked based on their upbringing and education and then we leave it to God to help them use their own good judegement , struggle through marriage , develop an understanding and see it succeed.
@buping (954)
• China
14 Oct 09
hi, i think most people would be married on the basis of love. but now many people get married for other reasons. and the most common reason of girls is more money. and many girls around me said that she would not marry to a poor guy. and some of which are in love with someone, but the girl intented to depart with her friend for another rich guy.