Why is it difficult to find love ?

China
October 13, 2009 11:34pm CST
People always say there's always someone for everyone,but obviously most people are not lucky enough to find the one that is made for him/her.Love comes easily and naturally in movies or books,I dont know why it never comes to me.Would you give me some suggestions about where and when to meet boys?Or you can tell me some specific methods to draw their attention?Your advice will be highly appreciated.
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30 responses
• United States
14 Oct 09
Well.... in movies & books its drawn up that way... pretty simple...
@love_all (308)
• India
14 Oct 09
you can find love easily anywhere in any part of this world.. but it is really tough to find true love. also love can have different faces.. i can love u and u can love me.. but it is all that it's the love between friends. .. hope we can love each other and b good friends..
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I agree that it is hard to find true love now a days. I don't know why others can find love easily unlike we up to now I never find the right guy for me. I hope you going to find your love of your life too very soon.
• China
14 Oct 09
Hi,there,its very nice of you to be my friend.As is said in your username'love_all'.lol Nice name!
@athomice (396)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Hello sweetyethot! Naturally don't look for love, let love finds you. It's hard but it's true, once the right one is there, you will feel it and sometimes everything will fall into place. Keep praying to God and he will give you the right one, just be patient. Unless you're meant to be single!lolz! Keep praying! God Bless!
• China
15 Oct 09
Its not right if Im meant to be single.But who knows?lol Thanks for your dropping by.
@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 09
We are in the same boat. My friend who in the same age as me really terrified that she don't have anyone currently and working hard to find one. But I guess, not everyone lucky enough to find their soul mate. I don't think much about it now. When it comes, I will accept it, but now as I still struggling with myself, I am not yet rushing to it yet. Good luck to you.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
hi sweetyethot! there's a time for everything so in your case maybe it's not yet the time. for me, i'd waited for almost 24 years. really that long..hehe. don't rush things, just take it easy.enjoy life to the fullest. love comes to you when least expected so be ready always.goodluck! happy mylotting!
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 09
love can not be found, but love will come alone. when love is come be yourself. there is no trick to get love. I could not believe in love. but I'm sure love will always be there for me, although not from a partner.
@ericaldo (35)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 09
As I know why love is hard to get because we can not love ourselves with all my heart. How others will love us, if we just do not love ourselves? One more thing, the laws of nature to be received is by way of giving. If you are able to love yourself, love them scatter, then we will receive love. By the way, this talking about get love, right? not get a b/g friend?
• China
15 Oct 09
I believe everyone can find love and your lover,i also agree that it is very difficult to find a true love,sometimes you love him/her,but he/she don't love you.Fortunately,I love my girlfriend,and she also loves me.I also believe you can find your true love,if you pay attention to the people in your circle carefully.
@pede_22 (385)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Hi sweetyehot, Love is not difficult to find, but TRUE LOVE is very difficult. Nobody in this world didn't experience LOVE.I don't think so. lol. Looking for someone to LOVE is actually depends upon your STANDARDS/CRITERIA... If you are a perfectionist person, then it's very hard to find your ultimate love... I would suggest that you must be practical; idealistic but realistic. Of course, have faith in God so that He would guide you in choosing your future loveone.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Well, guys usually look for pretty girls. Majority of them are shallow, don't you agree with that? I would rather look into somebody's manner, personality to decide what I want if I am a guy. That is more important. A pretty girl doesn't mean always win in a competition. Give yourself some confidence, and you will win.
• Canada
15 Oct 09
Its difficult to find love becuase nothing in this world comes easy. It takes alot of time and hard work to get things situated. Its almost as if god likes to play games with peoples lives.
14 Oct 09
Well,it is very complicated when we talk about love. =) For me, love is something which appears in time rather than just appears when a couple first ever meet each other. Maybe that's just 'first impression' rather than first love. I think that love is sacral, and nobody should misuse it. The reason why you haven't find your love yet is maybe you are 'too closed' for the love itself. But believe me, love is blind and that's natural rule nobody can change. =)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Hi sweetyethot! I think you should not try hard to find love because love will find you at the right time and at the right place. There is really a time for everything. Do not rush things. The more you find it the more it will hide. Just like when we are looking for our misplaced things, it goes out when we are fed up looking for it. Love is magical so let the spell of magic embrace and shock you! If you go out of your way, you might as well end up with the wrong person. You might end up regretting when that man for you comes. Be happy and enjoy life. Take it slow and easy. Be yourself and don't try to be what you are not. Men are attracted to women who are simple, natural and NO PRETENDTIONS. It is a big turn off for men to see women pushing too much of themselves just to be noticed. For now, just appreciate the things you have and the people around you. Good luck to you sweetyethot! I know love will find you soon! PS It will also help if you will pray for your partner in life. I heard a lot of real successful stories about that. Think positive.
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hi sweetyethot^^;; maybe you are looking too far. some of us try to have mr./miss perfect but they don't actually exist so i believe we don't find love but we make and feel it. there are maybe some people around you but u sometimes don't give interest to them. be open-minded and don't set too high expectations as love has no qualifications. goodluck to have your man and don't be sad as u will have it soon
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hi there, This is merely my opinion so i hope i won't offend anyone here. There is no hard and fast rule with finding a true love. You can never really tell whether your true came or will come in your life. True love happens only with an effort hence, if you put effort in a relationship, then you might realize later on that you are with your true love because you are no longer selfish.
• United States
14 Oct 09
The problem is your probably looking to hard. Let love find you it may come from where you least expect it. Movies and books are nothing but hog wash and the dreams of others that they themselves could not find. According to your profile your only 25 so you have alot of living to do. Just go out and have fun you never know who you may find. And be yourself.
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
14 Oct 09
its sumthin called faith and luck ..which brings yo to meet people ... where ve fall in luv with him/ her .. but wat happenes sumtimes we play with it ... ve blame it as .. no faith no luck ... but sum times faith and luck plays it .. and it blames us .. so luv is sumthin can make an person stronger .... it can even make the person weaker ... or sumtimes yo cant even understand y the person who luved yo...... to the core ...... suddenly starts hatin yo to the core
@jstein (3)
• Argentina
14 Oct 09
I think there is a true sentence in life and it's:You will always want what you do not have. What if you already found the love of your life and you couldn't appreciate it? What if you can't see that a person very close to you is really interested in you? This doesn't mean he or she isn't the right one for you. We offen search that special person far away, we think the thunder of love will be a high and magnific revelation. What if it is so close to you you can't see it?What if you wake up tomorrow and just let love be?
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I am sorry but finding love is not that difficult, maybe God is preparing a very special gift for you, You know what? things happen in due time God have given us. So all that I can say is be patient enough and He will do the rest for you. Have faith sweety, Life will not be that happy if all of the things comes easy to get right? Be thankful for what you have and have a sincere heart to ask Him for a man that is right for you.
@angemac23 (2005)
• Canada
14 Oct 09
It is more difficult to find love nowadays because everyone stays indoors on their computers and no gets out anymore. How can you find someone when there is no one around?