How many partners or husbands are like a never ending record?

@jugsjugs (13046)
October 14, 2009 1:07pm CST
All my husband seems to do is moan and he is always moaning about the same old things over and over again.His main things are,i have had enough of this house and you lot,that must be me and the children he is on about.Another one is what have you been doing all day,me well i have been doing the house work and tidying up behind you and your kids.I am getting so fed up with it now.
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10 responses
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Hi jugs Im telling you that we have to be related by marriage or something..LOL..Our hubbies sound like they are brothers. Maybe all men are related....LOL..Mine will go on about the money that I have to send to my son. He knows that my son doesn't have anyone else and that I am all he has got. This is an ongoing conversation with him. You would have thought by now he would realize that he aint getting no where with his fussing.. Oh well, maybe one day they will grow up a little..I hope..
@jugsjugs (13046)
14 Oct 09
Oh yes,after 13 years you would think he would be tired of the same old thing coming out of his mouth.I think he likes the sound of his own voice.lol.
• United States
14 Oct 09
LOL..That is cute..I think you might be on to something..I know with mine I just try to ignore him sometimes but then there are times that I just can't help but to lash back at him..Keep smiling my friend.
@smileonstar (4014)
• United States
14 Oct 09
how long have you been with your husband? well, for my situation is almost the same thing but my husband never moan on the same thing... he just complains. well, sometimes he has so much things going on from work and when he gets home, everything is not done then he would be mad or fussy around like that. are you stay home mom? how many children do you have? well, if you want to work this out, talk to your husband. tell him what you can do and can't do and also what his jobs will be also. Guy always like to pick on us as a woman. ask him what he doesn't like and why he mad all the time? what does he want from you? For me, I just do my work and if he doesn't like it then let it be.... (do it yourself to satisfy your need)
@jugsjugs (13046)
14 Oct 09
I have been married for 13 years and we have 6 children and yes i am a stay at home mum at the mo as i have a few health problems and so do 2 of my children.I come on the internet to earn a bit of money as well as make cards for a bit of pocket money.
• United States
20 Oct 09
hello, thx for the best respond. 6 children are a lot and full time mom... I have two and they are way too much for me... my husband never take it seriously on them, only me. sorry for all the feeling you have now and first thing you need to do, take care of yourself more often cuz no one love you than you love yourself. He can move on with out you with no problem so u have to get ready if this happen. Pay more attention to your children and yourself more... save as much as u can for heavy rain. Good luck to you and me
@doormouse (4619)
14 Oct 09
know the feeling well,if it isn't moaning bout the kids then it's talking bout cars,boats or the history of things,like i care
@jugsjugs (13046)
14 Oct 09
It go in one ear and out of the other now as i am passed listening to the same old rubbish.
@KMaroon (269)
• India
15 Oct 09
Hi jugsjugs,I can understand your problem, but you can discuss with your husband and explain him how much he hurts you and tell him to understand you. Don't worry your husband will change one day and he will understand you. Have a nice day.
• India
15 Oct 09
But then why is he so irritating all the time? I would surely have lost my mind by now if somebody was always complaining about things when I am doing my best around! I’m sure you are fed-up and cant take the strain much longer. Have you spoken to him or looked for help regarding this? Was he always like this or has something happened which he hasn’t shared with you?
@kerryns (55)
• Australia
15 Oct 09
I can hardly ever get anything out of my partner. I know there is something wrong and he'll always say that there is nothing wrong. You can just tell by the look on his face. Most of the time he is worried about money or has a headache. He rarely ever has a complaint about me, maybe because I am always reminding him of how much I do around the house and that I do everything for the kids. So I guess it's me who is the nag, not him. Maybe it's time you asked your husband to look after the kids for a day, with the expectation that dinner will be cooked, the house will be clean and tidy, the rubbish taken out, the mail brought in, the kids bathed and happy and the pets fed. Oh, and dont forget to have the expectation in the bedroom too! (I hope that isnt considered inappropriate here in myLot.) I dont think men really realise how hard home life is. I know there are some men who are in these roles too, and yes, they would understand how hard it is to keep a house running, but for the men who get to leave the house everyday and socialise or network with their work colleages and get something productive done at work, they have no idea how it feels to be stuck at home doing the dirty work. At the end of the day though, I really do respect my partner for going to work every day and supporting our family. I just wish he would do more on a weekend to help around the house because Mum's never get a break from their work at home.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I'm sorry that you are going thru this. I am sure that it is hard to listen....maybe more than hard. Have you tried talking to him about this? I am divorced so I no longer have to listen to that sort of stuff. There was a time when I heard it regularly tho. Kind of difficult to feel loved and appreciated when you are hearing all that stuff all the time. My marriage had a slew of other problems as well so I am not suggesting you leave him but I do think you should talk to him and see if he is open to working with you on this. It sounds as if something is really bothering him. Good luck jugs!
@Humbug25 (12552)
14 Oct 09
Hey there jugsjugs I'm afraid it is what men do best, whinge! Well not all men but most it has to be said. I have three boys and they moan alot, I say that they are men in training hahaha
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
14 Oct 09
life is with good and bad jugs. I agree with you that you will be fed up with such things. But I am sure your husband can't live with out you and your kids. If you are away for a few days you will notice this. Life is to enjoy.
• India
14 Oct 09
Not as many partners i am being a partner for my wife, i am always adjustable and most of the Wives expect that only! we should do whatever they say and doing what they say is somewhat different. One thing every wife will be thinking of their family's close relationship! and every husband will be thinking of how to earn money so that to keep his family like settled! i hereby say that whatever the problem is just sit with them and talk to them very politely calmly! regards: ananth(karan)