How do You Introduce a GUY to Your Parents?

China
October 14, 2009 6:41pm CST
Three days ago, one of my best friend told me that she wanted to take her guy friend to meet her parents. Of course, she is nervous for it is the first time she want to take a guy. At the same time, she don't know if her parents can meet the guy. She told me the story just waiting for some tips and opinions. So, How do you introduce a GUY to your parents? What will you say if you meet such a situation next time?
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16 responses
@liujuanxh (170)
• China
15 Oct 09
i donot think it is a so difficult thing ,just tell your parents that you will take him home,and i donot think there have so many things to worry about.
• China
15 Oct 09
Perhaps. But we often feel sensitive when meet such a situation. In my country, most people are conservative and not open to these kinds of relationship.
• United States
21 Oct 09
very carefully! No just kidding - Just do it! Maybe take them out to dinner so the Guy isnt so intimidated on the 1st meeting!
@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
18 Oct 09
I will first tell about all the good work done by my friend to my parents whenever I get any chance and try to gain their confidence and keep my friend in their good books. Then one day I will say that my friend wants to meet them and get their appointment and on that day I will bring my friend and introduce him to my parents
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Oct 09
Just take him home and watch him fumble and mumble as he tries desperately to start a conversation with people who are only looking for a reason to criticise the poor man. Everyone goes through this and its either the height of embarrassment or the height of discomfort for everyone. The parents don't know what to say so they criticise and the boy doesn't know how to deal with it so he looks lame in the biggest sense. Just do it.
• India
15 Oct 09
I have never done so yet, but I would fist introduce him to my Mother than to my father, since my father is much more strict than my mother. I would say about his qualities and career. I would say why we are good friends or whatsoever and when I will see my mother convinced, even after a week or two, I would introduce him to my father by calling him to take some notes from my house and then I will introduce him.
• China
15 Oct 09
I think it depend on your ages, if you are too young, u r parents are not happy for this, however, if you are the ages for marriage, so you don't be nervous, and your parents would look forward to see him....
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
15 Oct 09
ok here's some tips for her and him as a father point. if she takes him to meet her parnets i like when the guy comes in and shake my hand and my wife hand and reply to me as sir, mr. and mam or mrs to my wife. they should be very well manner and polite, dont have thier paints down around thier butt with thier boxer hanging out. if they come and say to me what's man, or whats happening dog, or yo i tell them they dont know me like that and reply to me as mr,. and if they come in and boxer are hanging out and jeans are around thier butt i do tell them to pull them up, i dont ask i tell them or they can leave come back when they have better manner and can be more polite
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Hopefully she has a gentleman on her hands,and mom has taught him how to do this right. I never took my BF's home unless it was something real.Hopefully they will hit it off ,it is nice to take something for mom when meeting.Being yourselves for who you are is the most important thing you can do.Mom and dad don't need a show just whats important to their kids is enough. It will all work out.
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I introduced my boyfriend to my parents by just making him visit me in my home. When my parents saw him I just told them that he was my boyfriend. I think having the guy come over her place is the easiest way. Just tell her to make sure that when he comes there would be people at home so that she could introduce him properly. That way, her family could get to know him well.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I've been told that the easiest way to introduce someone like that to your parents is to go to their house or a restaurant, someplace that you can escape quickly and gracefully if things go wrong. If at their house, bring a pizza or something so you have an instant subject of conversation. Don't leave the guy/girl alone with either of your parents, it could be awkward.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
15 Oct 09
I introduced my now husband to my parents over a cup of coffee because I felt an entire dinner would have been too much for him! My parents are Italian and not the best with the English language so I knew the situation would feel awkward for him so I my attempt was to be as sensitive to how my then fiancé would be feeling and that is the best advice I can give to anyone in this situation.
• Boston, Massachusetts
15 Oct 09
There are some consideretions when it comes to introducing a guy to you parents. First, AGE. How old is you bestfriend? Second, is there any rules in the house related to boy-girl relationship (BGR) and restrictions? Third, Communication. How is communication between her and her parents? is the line open to dicuss things like relationships before introducing the guy? Now, if your bestfriend is in the right age (based on your country's culture/practice) there is no problem letting her introduce the guy to her parents. If there are some rules BGR is your bestfriend somehow violating one? if not then go!!! Also, if there is open communication between them then it will be easier for her to inform her parents about her plan of introducing the guy to them. She needs to give her parents background information about the guy and about the relationship and ask her parents if it's okay to being him home so that they will personally meet him. If they answer YES...CONGRATS. Go girl! If the answer is NO... be clear about the reason why the parents does not want it yet and for your bestfriend to explain her side that it will be best to know the guy than keep it from them and secretly meet outside for dates and encounters. Goodluck to you and your friend. I hope this make sense and hope this will help!
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
hi getbrowser! It's really nice if the relationship is known with our parents. Atleast we don't have to hide if we want to have a date. HEhe. Just straight to the point, your bestfriend will tell to her parents that her boyfriend will be visiting in their house and she wants them to meet her boyfriend. It's really not simple at first but she can do it.Hehe happy mylotting!
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
15 Oct 09
If she is to the point she wants to have him meet her parents she must care for him quite a bit. Seldom do casual relationships get introduced to the parents. I was introduced to my first wives parent when they invited me to come over for dinner, at my first wives suggestion of course. Trust me if it is a first for him he will be just as nervous as she will be. Whatever the relationship is there is really no reason to be to open about what that relationship is. Her parents may not want to know..only determine what kind of man he is. That they will be very interested in. Whatever happens be sure to tell her to not have a slick tablecloth on the table and then have meat that you have to cut up. Why? That happened to me and while trying to cut the steak my whole plate went into my lap. Now talk about nervous. I have never ever in my 68 years ever done that except for that one time. Ohhhhhhhh....... She will be fine.
@Craicha (801)
14 Oct 09
1st il inform my parents about him and tell them his going to visit to meet them..but il nah bring a guy or introduced to them if i really not sure about him....then after that i tell my parents the day he will visit ...
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
14 Oct 09
what relationship is your best friend with her guy friend. If they are in intimate relationship, she should flat out to tell her parents. Eventually, they are gonna meet each other right, if they are so serious on this relationship.