does couple honor their marriage vow any more?

United States
October 14, 2009 7:26pm CST
As the progress of our modern society, we have many new thinking, and many concepts toward relationship between couples. Not like long before, they just stay married for their children. I understand that if both party doesn't love each other any more, there is no hope to stay together. My question is right before the marriage, they make a vow for each other, did they really honor the vow, or it was just a part of ceremony?
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11 responses
• United States
15 Oct 09
I know what you mean about society now a days. We have been married over a decade and we honor our vows and take them very seriously. Unfortunately out of the people we grew up with we are one of three couple who have done this. Other we know have been divorced or abuse their vows with other people. Some are on second or even third marriages and it is very sad. Especially for the children who lose the stable lifestyle we provide for our children.
• United States
15 Oct 09
So, actually, what do you think the "vow" mean to a married couples? Or will be married couples? Is it necessary? Or it just a mandatory part of ceremony during a marriage? I just confused with all these hassles sometimes.
@maezee (32288)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Yes, some people rush into marraige and go into it for all the wrong reasons - but at the same time, I think this happened in all generations - not just today's, although divorce IS more and more popular. I also think that it depends on the couple in particular - not all couples end in divorce, obviously. My opinion of the vows..Is that I think it depends. Sometimes people write their own vows, and sometimes they just say the ones provided, and sometimes people mean it when they say "I Do" and some people regret it later on. I think it depends on the couple. But you're right, sometimes vows ARE meaningless and ARE "just part of the ceremony"!
• United States
15 Oct 09
I just would doubt the effect of vows at the ceremony of marriage. I just wonder when people said it, they really mean to do it? Or they simply make a show for the audiences to see. To satisfy the moment. So, if this "vow" part is necessary or not?
@nonersays (2753)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I think vows are mostly just ceremony now, unless the couple decides to write their own vows. I for one don't plan to "obey" my husband as one of the more common vows state I should.
@solared (1210)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I'm arguing with people on a similar subject, an I say non religious are the ones more likely to not honor their vows, after all what does vows before a God they don't believe mean to them.
@suzzy3 (8362)
15 Oct 09
All my friends do and I certainly do.My husband is very loyal and hardworking and we have a son as well.We both came from relationships where we were cheated on.My first husband liked the woman.I was so hurt to find out all his affairs ,the last one to know was me,never mind.My present husbands partner was more or less the same.We both now what it feels like to be cheated on so we would never do it to anyone else.On the whole I think marraige is treated as a joke,most of the young couples seem more worried about the kitchen and fitted bathroom then thinking ,cricky we have to be sure we are going to spend the rest of our lives together,what happens if money gets tight and we cannot go to the gym or go for our seperate nights out,what then. I have seen so many couples split up over such silly things really it is true.
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Those couples who were psychologically mature and have known well each other in their time of courtship have better chances to honor their marriage vows. On the contrary those couples who entered marriage without the required maturity and had little time to know each other are prone to separate even after trivial differences.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I think that when a couple decides to get married it is with the best of intentions: they act based on how they feel which is to be with each other forever. Both are aware that this is a commitment just like what their marriage vow says. It is a part of the ceremony but at the same time it is how they perceive the relationship would be - a lasting marriage. But what happens next is another story. Some do last, some don't, depending on how the relationship turned out after saying their vows.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I do think there are still many couples who really value and honor their vows. Even though we are in a modern society right now, couples do their best to stay and make their marriage work. Sometimes they do mistakes but they do their very best to make up for it and still feel the fire in their relationship.. happy mylotting!
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yes, I think most married people I know still give importance to their marriage. They still live with the vows they made. Though, they have undergone trials, they still manage to save the marriage and breaking up will be their last resort. I think being in a very conservative culture still helps in abiding the rules of marriage. I think those who are brutally abuse in their married life should be the one who would file annulment or divorce but small things that can still be repaired or adjusted should not be the only reason of getting out of the marriage.
@iminfx (3)
• China
15 Oct 09
I thought that the marriage is the establishment in love foundation,is to love testimony,therefore i did not understand very much does not have love marriage
@wolf2999 (213)
• China
15 Oct 09
I think it is,if we don't love each other,we don't vow for each other.