Being alone is good for us!

Philippines
October 15, 2009 3:53am CST
There's a big difference between being alone and lonely. Some people are happy being alone. They consider being alone as an opportunity to explore their self and discover new things and ideas for self improvement. Research said that so many people are staying in unhealthy relationship because they fear of being alone so they rather be living mistreated and hurt than finding themselves one day being alone. When in fact being alone give so many advantages and benefits on their part. As it is the right time to reflect what happened in their life especially after difficult times. It's where they can contemplate and leave all the unnecessary baggage and resentment behind. It's the right time to re-evaluate, to gain strength and think where the best way to go and have a fresh perspective about the future. What do you think? Do you like and enjoy being alone?
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I prefer being alone. Im never lonely. That may be because of my 3 goofy cats. But my cats treat me with respect all the time. Its not conditional. Id rather live with them than a male. I had a male friend before that claim that they stink. Lol!! Especially coming from him. He smelled much worse that the litter box ever could. His feet and gas leaks were horrid.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yeah, pet is a great companion. There's such amazing things between human-animal interaction. Research said that those who owned a pet lower heart rates and blood pressure, decrease cholesterol levels and has quicker recovery from stress and a lot more. We would not felt lonely as we can talked to them and give us a sense of security and belonging. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
17 Oct 09
Yea, i wonder about people that dont like animals. I think they are non social.
@gensen07 (14)
15 Oct 09
I am never happy when i am lonely. I need someone to be their so i do get deprest. But been alone can be good, just having time to yourself to do those thingsthat make you feel good.
• Saudi Arabia
20 Oct 09
sorry i am not getting you
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
being alone is important in our life so that we can think the best idea for example if you have plenty of problems and you can't solve it try to be alone for a moment and think 100 times and i tell you, that time you can make a decision on how to solve the problem. thanks for sharing your comments here and have a nice day ahead godbless
• China
15 Oct 09
hi,careguarden, I like this discussion,it express my feelings.you are right,being alone is not lonely ,I think being alone is a positive attitude towards life,it allows me to think in quiet,and thus better able to discover new things.I like the feeling of being alone,I have been accustomed to living under such conditions. as you say ,my friend ,I have been used being alone as an opportunity for self improvement. good luck.
• China
15 Oct 09
I also enjoy the being alone moment.Sometimes I feel confused and upset.And maybe there are many advices from my friends or my family.But it doesn't lessen my anxiety.I need a quiet place to think it over.I think only in this way,can we find the right way to resolve our problems.Keep calm!
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yeah, being alone is a great opportunity to discover our self to know what we really want and we need to be comfortable with our self because for there comes a time when we have to be all by our self. People come and go in our life, and often it's always us who stay and we need to be happy being alone because if not we could have a very unhappy life, we would always be restless looking for someone to be always with us, and sometimes we tend to stay in a relationship because of fear being alone and it's not a good reason. Good luck as well! Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• China
17 Oct 09
Abosolutely! When I was in high scholl, i need my friend go along with me at any time even when i went to washroom. But now in university, ever body is creating their own lifes and you can not go along because you may choose different major and step on a totally different way. Being alone can give us more time to think about the future and decide where to go.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yeah, I'd also experienced what you mentioned there's totally a big difference being in high school and university. It's was really fun being in high school you got all friends wherever you go, hang out, play games and do everything you like. But in University, wow! people were different, and it has much pressure on studies, and you often left being alone, as everybody's busy doing their own business. However its the time that you learned so many things in life and especially in making decisions. And you're right franzisika! Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@joezon50 (379)
• Hong Kong
17 Oct 09
I think being alone is good for us too,the reason?Well just like me my friend.Before i dont know how to fixed my own things always depend to my family.Now that im alone living with my work i need to decide what good for me without elderly around me.Cooked my own food,wash my own things and more Confident.Yes careguarden we learn a lot while living alone,have a nice day.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yeah, by being alone you can do things that you only rely from other people as like your family or friends. By being alone you will able to decide things and if ever it failed there's only you who will be possibly be blame, unlike if there's other people who influence you in making that decision. It's important to learned to do things all by our self and love that moment because we can't always have someone by our side. It's great that you'd learned to be alone and not lonely joezon. Thank you and enjoy your weekends!
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
17 Oct 09
Hi Care. I was in my early 50s a few years ago when I divorced an abusive man and lived alone and strictly on my own for the first time in my whole life. It was the most freeing thing I have ever done in my life. I was far more lonely in that marriage than I have been living alone. It is exhilerating to be one's truest and most comfortable and independent self. Karen
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Hello Karen, I'm glad to know that you'd able to break free and learned to live alone but not lonely. Because I know there are some people who fear to take courage to leave in a toxic relationship because they're afraid to be alone. It's good for you, it's your chance to explore and live the kind of life you want. Good luck! Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
I don't think that alone is really good for every one of us. Because God, create one person and see him alone. And God said it's not good for man being alone so I created him companion. Then God created Eve as to makes the man have someone to live with. Even do to live alone is makes man peacefully living. We cannot deny that sometimes. We feel sorrows and want to have companion in life...No one can say he is happy being alone but most says they are contented being alone...Have a nice day!
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yeah, you're right we're not supposed to be alone. But we need to learned to enjoy the experienced of being alone. We need a quite time being our own self and as it's one of the best way to experienced God's presence in our life, as what peace there maybe in silence and in silence there is happiness. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Djbrat (333)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I enjoy my time that I have alone. But when the day is coming to the end, I do enjoy my guy coming home from work and spending the evening with him. If I have times that he doesn't come home for a day or so, I'm alright with that as long as I know he is coming back. I love being alone, but just not all the time.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Being alone and having confident that those person whom we care is always there anytime we needed makes us happy the and enjoy being alone and won't felt lonely. As like you said even though your man doesn't come home the thought that he will come back makes you feel secure and just enable to enjoy being alone. Loving the company of our own self is like enjoying others company too. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Singapore
16 Oct 09
Yes, i really agree. Solitude is a way for us to reflect without really seperating us from our friends and family. for me, being alone is something like second nature. i want to reflect and think about what happened in my life and also how i should view certain things in a different perspective. because i'm a naturally alone type of person, this lets me literally "charge up" and gives me the energy to interact with people more. I enjoy being alone. this may be because i never really liked how much noise being with friends make and i'm quite happy just to sit down quietly and think. :)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yeah, there so much happiness being alone even for a while. You know I'd experienced having with company, so many friends, every night we go out party and have fun and never have a time be alone even for a second and you know I felt like I'm going crazy. So that's when I know how importance being alone in my life even for a while. It's a pause and gives me time to reflect what I'm doing with my life. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Lydia381 (21)
16 Oct 09
I recently came out of a ten year marriage and my initial reaction was - i don't want to be alone, having said that I have found that the last few months have really helped me find out who I am and what I want from my life without having to take into consideration anybody else. it has helped me considerably to find the courage to strike out and try and do what i have always dreamed of. my ex never held me back but I think i subconsicously held myself back because i was always thinking 'as a couple'. I get lonely sometimes but i have my friends to talk to and laugh with and I have my dog to keep me company as well as all my hobbies to keep me busy.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Well you're doing right Lydia, great that you'd able to live the kind of life you dreamed of. There's a lot of ways to fight loneliness, and enjoy being alone, as you have your friends and your pet to keep you company and hobbies as well to occupy your day. There's so much things we can do being alone, it can be very rewarding, and it's our time to pursue our dreams and explore and discover our own self than living with someone who makes our life in misery. Life is beautiful. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• United States
16 Oct 09
Being alone, does not always mean being lonely. There are good things to consider when living alone. I have to admit, there are times, when it is good to have a partner in life, but not at the expense of being abused. I would rather live alone than to be abused by anyone.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well that's good, it only shows that you know how to balance between being with your self and having company. It proved that you love your self and enjoy being with your own company. That's very important in our life. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Tuanshun (138)
• China
16 Oct 09
As for me, i have to be alone sometimes. My GF works in another town and have totaly different work time. Because she is a training teacher, she has to work when the students are off class. So she has to work in Saturdays and Sundays and as well as nights. Besides, a lot of friends of mine are usually living with their GFs or BFs, so i usually feel it embarrassing to disturb them. And eventually, I am alone most of time when i am off work. It's really very horrible to be alone all the time. To be honest, i like being alone 'cause i can enjoy things myself and think on a lot of things clearly. But sometimes, i really need friends to share things or play with them.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well yeah, when you began to longed for something and you can't help that kind of feeling you'd tend to felt being lonely and it's inevitable. We all felt that way, when being alone didn't give us any excitement that we used to . It only shows that we need other people in order to live. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@R_amy26 (11)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
yeah...i agree with you... being alone, you can whatever you want..you can think freely, refresh our mind.. When couples have lover's quarel one will say "leave me alone!!!"for him to think over what happend....but it's not good to be alone many times or for the rest of your life..it's more happy you have friends you can hang out and share your thoughts...
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, it can't be good being alone for the rest of our life. And I think no one would likely want to be alone forever, we need others company, we need to socialize in order to survive. But we must not forget to have time being alone. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
For me being alone is good when I need that time but when you always alone in your self it's find difficult because it can make you crazy.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, to some people like you it can be threatening being alone for a longer time. Well I think what's really important to know how to balance being by your self and being with others. Thanks for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@daliaj (5689)
• India
16 Oct 09
According my opinion also, there is a lot of difference between being alone and lonely. I like to be alone sometimes being in my own world. I switch off my phone during those times. I like to do whatever I want during that time. I cook my favorite dishes and watch my favorite TV programs. I go for a walk in the evening alone and be in my own world. I enjoy it sometimes, but not always. Being along for a long time makes people lonely.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Learning to be happy being alone for a any length of time is a sign of maturity in emotional aspects of life. Well basically it depends on the person like there are those who are happy being alone for a longer time, while others prefer to be alone for awhile enough for them to recall the past, meditate and reflect for a better future. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• United States
15 Oct 09
Psychologically speaking, there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. A lot of people think that the people who enjoy being by themselves are lonely or don't have a lot of friends, but sometimes there are just people who like being alone. Myself, I'm kind of a mix, there's sometimes where I like to be around a bunch of people and sometimes I just like to be alone...
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well I'm just like you, sometimes I enjoy having lots of company, going out with friends and have party. But there are times that I longed to be alone, where I could read my favorite book, write a poem, or do something that I love and enjoy. Being alone makes me felt good and relax, a time where I could have my own pace and just do nothing. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@artistry (4154)
• United States
15 Oct 09
...Hi there careguarden, I think the best thing in the world that a person can have is the ability to like themselves enough, to be comfortable in their own company, all by themselves, in their skin. You cheat yourself out of so much time and enjoyable things you could be doing, if you have to find others to be with you as you do something. But it does take growth, I used to gather people in a group to travel to different places outside the U.S. and each time, they would all drop out for one reason or another. Until the last time, I wound up the only one left and I made up my mind to go alone. I have been traveling alone and having a great time ever since. You lock yourself in a cage, when you allow others to dictate, if you will or won't do something you would enjoy. You have to be, as you say, strong enough to be by yourself, I love it, you can be in a room full of people and be lonely. It's a state of mind. So, yes it is a good thing to be by yourself, and content, you can always find people, but as some song goes "you wake up with yourself". Be happy, love yourself and always be your own best friend. Take care
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Very well said artistry. Yeah, We can be a room full of people and be lonely, as like we can be with someone yet we feel lonely. If a someone can't bear the thought or situation of being alone there's a big tendency of being imprisoned in a toxic relationship. It's only be learning to love and enjoy being alone we can be free in our life. And we won't be dependent on other peoples company in order to felt secure and happy we can be our self and live the life we want. By embracing alone we can explore and grow deep within our soul. And that's amazing experienced often refused to take by many. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@joygracia (1333)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yes! I do agree to this. Sometimes its worth giving time for yourself to at least think about what you`ve done in your life and just seeing who you are. It kinda helps me cope with my depression and at the end make me a strong person.
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
After we get through and learned to embrace alone we will emerge as more confident and independent individual. As we know how to deal and make decisions by our self. We will developed inner strength and strengthen our character as we go through with our life. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
hi caregarden^^;; i agree for all u said. i have been living independent from my parents for a long time so i'm used to living alone until i met my hubby but now he isn't here too. There are many edges being single since we can decide on our own without worrying about our partners feelings and opinions specially when it comes to financial matters. It's also easy to manage our time because we can do things whenever we want them like going out with friends and meet new people without having to consider about them. Self-contemplation is i think more needed for those who think cannot separate with their partners because of fear of being isolated even they are being beaten.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
wow i like your life for being independent lucky. I think you hadn't fear in life to face the world with the problems. your such a lucky woman that can stand alone without worrying the life. thanks for sharing your comments here and have a nice day ahead godbless
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Hi, careguarden I certainly appreciate those times that I am alone, just watching TV, reading a book and working on my computer. Yes, I can do those things at the same time My husband and I are almost always together, before and after work and weekends. We almost always do everything together. I enjoy being with him but I do need my time alone every now and then. It's my time to relax, unwind and enjoy too.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
yes you are right. some women need to be alone to relax without their husband. it is better to be alone sometimes so that we can know and relax for a moment. thanks for sharing your comments here and have a nice day ahead. godbless