My friend borrowed money and never came back

Borrowed Money - Return what you borrowed.
@shadow41 (2356)
Philippines
October 17, 2009 10:37am CST
Actually he was a friend of my friend and I can say we're just acquainted to each other. He came to me begging to let him borrow some money. He said he's going to pay something really important. He promised me that he will return it after he receive his salary. I was out of excuses to not lend him money so I gave up and lend him some. But he never came back. It's kinda okay for me because I now have a reason to not let him borrow or ask something from me in the future. Kind of a separation fee. An end to an unwanted friendship. It cost me though. Haha. What would you feel if this happened to you?
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17 Oct 09
He was my friend but after he got money from me he never came back because he was not caring about friendship. What a bad experience it was.
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Oh how long have you been friends? And how much did he borrowed? I want to know if you don't mind. You seem new here to myLot. Welcome to myLot malikqamar88. I hope you'll find it enjoyable here. shadow41
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• Philippines
17 Oct 09
hello shadow, Normally before I was the one borrowing money but that classmate of mine didn't mind, but it was just once. well, i can relate in terms of false promises, before a so-called friend promise to give me all of his toys, years passed he still didn't gave it to me. that's when i realized that people can truly lie and never true to their word. i never trusted them ever since
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yes you're right Letran. It's hard to find trustworthy people nowadays. It's hard to accept that most of those people that betray or lie to us are our friends. I appreciate your emoticons sympathizing on me Letran. :p I'm okay though. Thanks for sharing your experience. Happy myLotting to us. :)
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@sblossom (2170)
17 Oct 09
I would get upset with it. in fact it happened with me many years ago. i was a student and was short of money. my friend borrowed money from me and forgot to return. I was embarrased to ask her return it too. so many years passed my money is never come back to its owner. now i try to forget it, but i don't know how to forget it. when i reply your topic it reminded me of it. I will steer clear of people who like borrowing money.
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Ahahaha. Now you remembered it because of me. Why don't you reach out to your friend again and ask for your money. Just try and make a joke to him/her about it. Maybe she'll remember and pay you. Anyway thanks for responding sblossom. :) shadow41
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@leeapollo (611)
• China
17 Oct 09
I never let this kind of thing happen. If I don't want to lend money to the people ,no matter what reasons he or she have. I will keep my mind. poor man, be carefull of your money next time. happy mylotting.
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yup I don't want it to happen to but it did. Anyway it's only a month passed. Maybe soon he will remember to pay. It's not a huge amount either. If converted to dollar it's only 9 dollars. :p Thanks for responding. shadow41
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@nagikka (411)
• Italy
17 Oct 09
I would get MAD because when it comes to money I've always tried not to ask people to lend me some, but it happened a couple of times in high school that I forgot my wallet at home and needed a couple of euro's to buy a snack. Anytime I asked for peole to lend me money I IMMEDIATELY gave it back to them on the following day and I never ever forgot to do it. I like to cnsider myself a serious person, someone you can blindly trust. Too bad people don't feel the same, for instance I have an ex-schoolmate who asked me to gave her one of my CD's. It was also an autographed one by Kula Shaker, a british band that I met after the gig they played in my city. It's been over ten years and she never gave it back to me, however she did add me on Facebook and never mentioned my CD so I eventually deleted her for being such a .. well I better skip this part as I dont wanna be banned :)
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Haha. I understand you. We're the same when it comes to lending something. When I lend a thing, money, or etc. I never forget to return it. It's kinda shameful walking around with some debts. :p About this situation of mine, hmmmm.. I'm kinda mad with him but I felt free. Free in the sense that he would never show up again and ask for anything. I don't want people asking me something cause I hate the feeling of guilt when I'm not able to give what they ask. So much to say. :) Thanks for your valuable response. Happy myLotting nagikka. :) shadow41
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@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
29 Oct 09
oh I think it happens at least once to everyone, so we learn from experience. There is a saying my dad used to tell me: If you would like to part from something? loan it or lend it to someone, and you will never see it again.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
You're right there. Experience is the best teacher. Hmmmm you're father is right. I guess that's the beauty of wisdom. :) shadow41
• United States
30 Oct 09
yeap live and learn, do it once and never again.
@allknowing (69377)
• India
18 Oct 09
There is a quote from William Shakespeare "Neither a borrower nor a lender be for loan oft loses both itself and friend" (Hamlet)I liked your attitude anyway, looking at the positive side of this rather unpleasant situation. You nipped it in the bud no doubt but surely your own friend must have been alerted by you. Have you not? And if so what was the reaction?
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Nope. My friend already moved to another place and we barely have contact. He never said something about his friend(who lend money from me) before. Looking at the positive side is the best thing I can do for now. I don't want to stress my self thinking I have been fooled. Ehehe. Thanks for sharing allknowing. Nice quote you brought here. Happy discussions to you. :) shadow41
@allknowing (69377)
• India
19 Oct 09
So it is good riddance of bad rubbish but at a small cost though, worth it all the same. Happy 'myLotting' to you too!
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
31 Oct 09
i think it`s bad experience. if i were you, i think it`s reason me to keep away from him. i only say him, dont bother me again. and give my money back :)
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
Nah he's already away from and he can never come back for some help again. Never. It's his lose not mine. shadow41
@deniblue7 (122)
• Indonesia
31 Oct 09
Hello friends ... The incident was very upsetting and create disappointment. Yes I've been there and even he is my best friend. Once he borrowed money from me for capital business, he disappeared without a word. This makes me very disappointed and hurt, considering he is my best friend. Maybe if he berterusterang to delay payment, I will understand.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
For me it's not so upsetting because I sort of planned it to happen. I don't want him around and now he's no longer around. Well I'm sorry to hear that your best friend betrayed you. I know how it feels. I hope your best friend will pay you back or it not I hope you can have good karma in return. shadow41
• India
20 Oct 09
I do not like people who borrow money but never give it back.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Nobody does sridharsahu. They're not humans. Lol. Thanks for sharing. shadow41
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
One thing that I have learned is never to lend someone a huge amount. This will serve as a protection in case, one does not opt to pay back what he owes you, just like in your case.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Oh I'll never ever lend someone a big amount of money. That's a different story now. No matter what their reasons are I'll probably say no. There's this one event when my friend wants to borrow 300 dollars. I have the amount but I won't give it to him. :) That's so risky. Anyway thanks for sharing. shadow41
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Actually, I do not lend money to people who are not really close to me. When close, trusted friends approach me to borrow some money, if I have some spare I let them borrow. And I do not ask them to pay it on this time or what. I do not even expect them to pay back. In your case, I would probably would do the same because I may be perceived as selfish if I don't help that person. And true enough, you will be out of his bond and that's a relief really. So you learned now. Maybe next time, you can learn to say NO.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Well I can say that it's all part of the plan. I never expected him to pay it. It's just that he keeps on bugging me. He even tried to go to my cousin to borrow money. What the h? That would bring shame to me. So I decided to lend him money for him to shut up. It's not that big anyway. I'm really pissed of cause he never surrenders. Now he can never come back and I'm really relieved with it.
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 09
I would feel very angry if this had happened to me. I think that it's always a bad idea to share money and borrow money from friends. This can definitely lead to broken friendships. I won't ever go down the road of lending money to anyone as this can only lead to potential problems later on. Andrew
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Yes me too. I don't want to borrow money from other people or even to my friends. The feeling is awkward. In here a broken friendship is what I seek. :p I don't want that man to be around me. I'm sure he's not of a good influence. Thanks for sharing Andrew. shadow41
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
18 Oct 09
A firend of my husband and also a student in our unversity borrowed money from us .he said he was ill badly ,needed money urgently to cure.so we lent him some money.then he gratuated from our university.he never contact us and give us back the money .we know after that,he didn't have disease at all, he borrowed many money from different people with different reasons.what a man!
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Oh. Maybe you should report that man. He's abusing. He will just victimized more people. Very bad man. :p Thanks for sharing zhouxi. shadow41
@knygma (61)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 09
Whooaa that is bad of your "friend" to do something like that. I sometimes lend my friends money & they actually paid it back to me so I can't really say what would I feel if it happens to me. What "important" thing he said he's going pay actually? Next time if a friend ask to borrow your money, maybe you ought to ask them to clarify the purpose. But if your intention is to find an end to an unwanted friendship then I'm with you. Even if it has to cost a little. LOL!
18 Oct 09
It happened to us a few times in the past and it really makes us think before helping out anyone again. We have never ever got the money back from them and we will never speak to them ever again, its their lose in losing us as good friends. If you do borrow anyone money think about it alot, whats the chance of you really getting it back, whats the amount your lending?, what would happen if you lost that money? My friend the other day lent alot of money to her a pal and i personally think shes crazy as she needs it back by a set day and this pal as let her down before in the past.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Yes I agree with you. It's their lose not ours. I hate inconsiderate people. They're not thinking about other people. I'm just thankful that it's only a small amount and I now know what kind of a person he is. Thanks for sharing. :) shadow41
• China
18 Oct 09
I had the same experiencs, but also fell that there is no reason to deny a spft heart would have borrowed,but for my good frind, I do not care about whether or returned,but I think a man should have the credit,not because of that small amount of money to lose a friend A feeling.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Hi there. I also do not care much if that amount of money won't be returned to me anymore. And most I don't want to see the face of that man too. Haha. Thanks for sharing wuying. Welcome to myLot. shadow41
• Indonesia
18 Oct 09
I think you are too kind person. I will angry if I were you. Of course I will end of the friendship relation. Just for your life experience for the future. next time do not too trust others, money is sensitive thing.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Yes I no longer consider him as my friend. It's the end of our friendship. He can't show me his face anymore. I think it's only for the best for I really don't like him around long before this incident happened. :) shadow41
@lyka28 (9)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Hello,you know i can relate to the experience what you had coz it also happened to me many times... i don't know coz everytime someone most specially my friends or relatives begging me or asking for my help about the money. i can't say no or make any excuses coz i easily get touched. so even a small or sometimes big amount i do lend them.but what hurts me and made me dissappointed was even a simple word like sorry i can't still pay or whatever... just to let me know that they still know their obligation to me is enough for me.but they're just like nothing happen when they see me so i felt like they're just taking me forgranted and taking advantage of me. coz they always see me nice and they never see me getting mad.so sometimes it really makes me feel bad coz you know i'm just being nice and want to help them but they didn't see that.so to calm myself and make feel better i just think that it's ok,it's just money i can still earn it.i feel like i'm lucky and blessed coz i have helped them so i just leave it to the lord...
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Your words made me smile. :) We really are lucky and blessed for we had helped them. It's better to give than to receive right? It's unfair that when you're just being nice other people will take advantage of us. But just like you said, We'll just leave it to our Lord. shadow41
• United States
18 Oct 09
This has happened to me as well and I find that it was really not a friend and learned never loan anyone any money unless its your family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Sometimes it's really hard not to help when they've got serious reasons. You can't just simple say no. I agree with you. They're not real friends. Thanks for sharing here and have a nice day. :) shadow41