Do You Use Failure as a Motivator??......or... Do you Lose Your Incentive?

@artistry (4154)
United States
October 17, 2009 10:40pm CST
We try different things in life and often those things don't work out, for one reason or another. If you try and fail, do you get up and try it again, or do you just give up and resign yourself to the failure? Are you one, who tries and tries again?
8 responses
@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
21 Oct 09
I try not to think of failure as such. Things I've done that didn't work out have been some of the best life lessons I have learned. That's not failure. If you do something that doesn't work, you know that is not for you. I'm a keep trying person but it's better sometimes to go in a totally different direction.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
25 Oct 09
..Hi there Ms Tickle, Thanks for your comment. Sorry for the delay in responding. It would seem to me that you learn your lessons well. Putting into effect those things that worked well in whatever you endeavored and casting aside those things that didn't. That is a good way to succeed, to keep trying is always good in my estimation, but more than that, would be to recognize, when it is time to take another road to reach your destination. Hang in there. Take care always.
• United States
19 Oct 09
Failure brings out the drive to succeed stronger than ever. I'm compelled to examine what went wrong, and to overcome it!
@artistry (4154)
• United States
20 Oct 09
...Hi cobrateacher, Thank you for your comment. What a straight forward, direct answer to the question. It appears that you are doing what it takes to accomplish your goals. You would probably make a great scientist, if you have any inclination to do so. Take care always.
@taztheone (1726)
• India
18 Oct 09
I think success & failure is all a part of life. It's very true that we learn a lot from our past failures & hence we would not fail much in the future. So it's essential to succeed in a better way. I would rather think positive & be happy on what ever is happening. Happy Lotting
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
...Hi taztheone, Thanks for your comment. You are so right in your thought, that success and failure, basically go hand in hand. They are both a part of life. If you never fail, you probably have never tried to do anything goal oriented, so you will not have succeeded. Failures should make you want to prove that you can and will do whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. Positive thinking is always a good thing. Take care.
• United States
18 Oct 09
Truth be, I should hope its part of my inbred nature because the idea of being a 57 year old crawling around on all fours and leaving nasty messes in diapers simply because a few falls on the butt, or a few belly flops scared me outta being truly bipedal and being like the 'big' boys..aside from sounding quite ridiculous, is also quite scary..But as it is that I got past those horrific(?) 'hardships', figured how to make bipedal work and, to the great refief of my mom no doubt, got myseif into 'big boy' clothes..I figure anything is do-able..Enjoy!
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
...Hi there greenfeathers, Thank you for you very interesting comment. I think you have outlined what it takes to have forward movement. Your success depends on how much effort you are willing to put forth to accomplish our goals. Very descriptive respond, to explain what has to happen, for one to progress. Take care.
• India
18 Oct 09
I use my failures as a motivating factor.. But that has been a big problem for me in my life.. I get carried away with each success milestones.. and fails thereafter due to lack of motivation. This leads to alternate failures and success.. Mostly, the important eXams come when I'm into the failure phase (not that I fail.. just that I'm not up to my mark).. Can someone pls help me set my mind to some sort of consistent performance... Thnx for the great question artistry.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
...Hi arvindkrd, Thank you for commenting. You comments are very interesting. You have achieved many things by using your failures to motivate yourself, but you lose your motivation, because of being so happy,about your successes, you lose your motivation, if I understand you correctly. I think you just need to try to find a balance, when you are successful with something and realize that the next time may be a little bit different and not quite a success, but do not get so down on yourself if that next success doesn't live up to your last successful venture. Try not to be too hard on yourself. I hope I am making myself clear. Thanks again for your insight. Take care.
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
failure is a good motivator.when I fail at something I really love,I tend to work hard to get it right the next time.I learn my lessons and keep in mind why something didn't work out.it may not work today,but it will work tomorrow, or the next coming days.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
.....Hi my_name_is_coco, Thanks very much for your comment. Failure should be a good motivator. You have a good compass, you try to keep yourself headed in the right direction. As one of my girlfriends used to say "you have your head on straight". I would think that what you set your mind to do, eventually, you accomplish whatever it is. You also have a positive attitude, along with discipline, which is a good thing to have, as I'm sure you know. Take it easy.
• Singapore
18 Oct 09
Failure is the key to success, person should not disappoint with failure , it is a part of life , we should learn from it and keep going towards success. Somewhere In one quotes I read out that every failure gives us an opportunity to learn that how one thing make it failure and we should not repeat that. So should never give up , jut learn from it and try again .
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
..Hi kapil2703, Welcome to the ranch, enjoy. Thanks very much for your response. I, too, have read some of the same things that you have stated. It is true, some of the most successful people in the world, have failed at so many things, before they achieved their goals. They took the lessons, as you say and went on to apply things learned from that failure or failures, to make it work the next time and then on from there. Take care.
• United States
18 Oct 09
It totally depends on the day for me. Some days I get really discouraged, and this unfortunately happens way too often...but other days I take failure and negative reinforcement as motivators to stick up for myself and to get things done. I wish I reacted in the latter way more often; I am much too passive.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
18 Oct 09
....Hi Laurie1986. Thanks so much for your reply. What I find interesting about your response, is that you know what you need to do, You know yourself, I wonder if you have any thoughts about meditation? To me, if you practice meditating, you build up your reserve and it helps, if you have that inner fortitude, to push you when it all seems totally not worth the effort. We need to be our own best friend and comfort ourselves when we need it, but have enough strength to give ourselves the encouragement, in spite of the negativity, to move forward once again. Take care.