Dreams of Cheating

Canada
October 18, 2009 2:51pm CST
In the past few months I've had two separate dreams in which I cheated on my boyfriend. In the first dream it was with a total stranger. I was very upset about the dream so I told my boyfriend about it after I woke up. Bad move. He seemed very hurt about it. The second dream was very recent, and it was with someone that I knew a while ago, an ex-boyfriend. I didn't tell my boyfriend about that one. In both dreams it was obvious that I knew I was cheating, me and the other person were trying to find a place to hide and be alone, so that my boyfriend couldn't find us. What do you think these dreams mean? Have you ever had a dream where you cheated on my partner?
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8 responses
• United States
19 Oct 09
I have yes, but I don't think it means you want to cheat or will cheat. Perhaps these guys you cheated with possessed a certain quality your boyfriend lacks and your subconscious is bringing it to light? And then it is something you can ask your boyfriend to work on. For example if you really like intimacy and your boyfriend isn't very intimate that often, you could always tell him that it would mean alot of he worked on it. But dreams are dreams and you have to understand it is not reality. Usually there is a message for us but it never is what we expect. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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• United Arab Emirates
19 Oct 09
I do agree with you...
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@buping (954)
• China
19 Oct 09
hi gogirl, i think most people are or were in your situation. i do not it is a cheating. and i had the same situation. i am with my present boyfriend, but i could not forget the ex, and i often dreamed of ex, but i never tell him about this. i know that i would forget ex some day. everyting goes so well now.
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• China
19 Oct 09
yeah, i totally agree with your view,there is not necessary realation between dream and reality.not only woman have a similar dream, so i do.
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• United States
19 Oct 09
I was in a very honest and committed relationship awhile back and I would occasionally have dreams of cheating with random people I knew. At first this freaked me out, and I was afraid that I would end up cheating in real life, but after evaluating my relationship and thinking about the act of cheating, I realized that the cheating dreams had nothing to do with the quality of my relationship. It's alright to have dreams that you can't control, as long as you don't act on them.
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• Canada
19 Oct 09
Thank you, I really needed to hear that. The dreams really freaked me out, but I have no plans on acting on them.
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@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
18 Oct 09
there's a message there for you, i've had dreams where i've been with someone else i know. i wouldn't dare tell my partner about it, cause he'll make a big song and dance about it. thou he claims to of had dreams about me cheating on him with my work mate of course, he's been told his dreams will come true but we haven't figured out the time line on from when the dream happens to when it comes through in life. you should check out www.dreammoods.com it's a great site, to find out what your dream will mean or at least give you an idea. my book is more mine, and what may keep me happy with it may not for another.
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• Canada
19 Oct 09
Thanks for the info, I'll check out the website.
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@max1950 (2313)
• United States
18 Oct 09
Sounds like your insecure about your relationship with your boyfriend, to what extent or why only you know, something must be happening that you dont like however small it is. And your right telling was extremely (excuse me) DUMB on your part, turn it around, how would you feel if he told you he was having dreams about cheating on you. i have dreams about my ex all the time, and for years, but what that tells me is that i screwed up somewhere along the line, i know i did, maybe it's KARMA who knows, they say what goes around comes around . BUT DO YOURSELF A FAVOR DONT GET STUCK IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS GOING NOWHERE.
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• Canada
19 Oct 09
I'm very secure about my relationship. I love my boyfriend and I know he is the only one for me. That's why I told him about the first dream - because I didn't want to hide anything from him. I think he was hurt by the dream, but at the same time he was happy that I told him about it. His previous girlfriend cheated on him and he felt like a fool when he found out many months later. I think he appreciated that I was honest with him.
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@smacksman (6076)
19 Oct 09
Perfectly normal - don't worry about it and DON'T tell anyone about it unless it is a particular turn-on for your partner and in this case it certainly is not! Fantasies are fun. Imagination can run riot and you can experience the thrill of so many things without any harm done. He won't tell you his fantasy dreams but I can bet your boots that he has them! Haha
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@SACHIN2708 (1638)
• India
19 Oct 09
well yes i had seen dream few days ago that i cheated my wife and i am doing afair with my girlfriend and my wife is trying to make me understand but i am not listening any thing so when i woke up i felt very guilty that how i can think otherwoman in dream bcz my wife loves me too much she is good wife and my best friend well this dream mean that might be i dont love too much my wife in comparisson she loves me
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
19 Oct 09
GoGirl149, Is there really anything that you need to take your dreams so seriously? Are you having second thoughts about someone who is trying to gain entry into your life? Or, are you contemplating someone besides your current boyfriend? Whether the answers for the above is a yes or a no, you will need to rethink about your relationship with your boyfriend. Love does not live or thrive on a dream. It is about the both of you evolving as the earth continues to spin with each passing day. If dreams can ever be true then I wish you have the winning numbers of your local lottery!