Do you ever compare your child with others?

@zhouxi (1756)
China
October 19, 2009 6:55am CST
Parents usuall like to compare their child with others.especially with those excellent children.this is not a good habit.May be your children also compare you with those excellent parents.LOL!every chid is unique in this world.they want to be themself not any one else.so don't let them disappointed.do you think so?do you have some good suggestions to help your children make great progress?
6 responses
@Robboz (7)
• Australia
22 Oct 09
All parents compare their children with others, even their siblings, I am forever thinking when no.1 was this age she was toilet trained so why is no.2 taking so long about it. If all parents were honest they would admit to having done this at some point.
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
24 Oct 09
parents should try to avoide comparing.hehe!
• Malaysia
20 Oct 09
Frankly stats from me, nope and I never apply comparison method. The main thing as a life focus to my kids is be yourself to dare making difference. About giving suggestion, not much from me and the first and foremost is to encourage our kids to promote their life within their bailiwick. Bring them to visit universities during school term holiday is a part of spiritual encouragement, especially, if there is an open day at the university while enjoying the amusement events available/provided. No need for us to habitually nagging or mumbling on them by saying 'study hard...study hard...study hard" - the unnecessary pressure will be making them feel bored and getting no respect for a little freedom from their own parents. Learning from nature nurture building, look at the car tires (tyres), pressure needed but with at the appropriate level. Too much will easily wear and tear, similarly, if it's too little. Does this kind of nature telling very useful for our kid's life development and building? Yes and why not? Nature learning is a type of permanent learning, thing will be 'embedded' very well in one's life and live in one's mind forever.
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
20 Oct 09
yes, my son's teacher also suggested us take our kids to famous university attend an open day visit.it's good to stimulate them studing hard and have a target.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Oct 09
I think it is cruel to compare your kids. I don't have kids, but I am sure that I will never do that in my life. It is not good to compare your one kid with other kids or your kid with neighbours kids. Instead, you need to understand the kid, relaize his positive points and negatives and encourage and help the child to frame and achieve his goals in life. A good parent can do it.
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
20 Oct 09
yes, you are right ,you will be good parent.
@BlueQ123 (29)
• Singapore
20 Oct 09
Parents should avoid to compare their child with other siblings or other kids. It will affect the self esteem of the child. Parents' comments also have great impact on the life of the child. Try not to do so. YES! We definately don't like our child compare us with other parents... lol.
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
20 Oct 09
yes,we should often encourage them.not compare them to other kids.
@vandana7 (68473)
• India
19 Oct 09
That is a very nice thing u said - even children can compare their parents. Would the parents like it? Well, my father always compares me with every stupid character on television - look she is doing something like u kind of thing. But I know in the heart - he loves me a lot. That is all that matters. :)
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
19 Oct 09
yes,my son had ever asked that question.so i know it's a mistake.
@leahsmom (338)
• United States
19 Oct 09
I don't let my children know that I compare them to other children. I'm sure all parents have done this at one point
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
19 Oct 09
yes,all parents could n't deny they do compare their children to others.