Do you think it is too boring to be the only child of parents?

@daliaj (5689)
India
October 19, 2009 11:42pm CST
I think it makes a difference when you have a sister or brother. A friend can never replace your sister or brother. I have a cousin who is the old child of his parents. He is very sad about being alone and he feels loney at times. He said that he would like to have ten kids in future. Do you think it is too boring to be the only child of parents?
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@abhaijith (2838)
• India
20 Oct 09
I dont know that feeling as am having a brother.yeah, that may be right, if i was alone, i would have been feel boring. I have some friends, who are their parents only child. In my observation,such children might have many friends of same ages at their place. Happy Mylotting.
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@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
He's definitely missing out on some of life's experiences being an only child. There's no sister to bug you for help in homework or tease you when you bring home a girl to meet your mom . But I'm sure it has its own perks. Other close relatives can be brothers/ sisters, spend more time together and make bonding moments . being an only child doesn't mean one has to be alone all the time.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Oct 09
Being an only child doesn't mean that the child will be lonely always. He will have friends of the same age and he also spends time with his cousins and other relatives of the same age. But, I feel having a brother or sister is different from that. If my sister has a problem, I don't mind taking leave for a week and spend a good amount of money to visit her and be with her for sometime. You can't expect the same from a close friend or cousin or any other family member. You also feel bad or think twice before asking a big help from a relative or a friend. But, you can easily ask the help to your brother or sister. Also, you don't feel bad even if your sibling deny the help. That is the difference between a real sibling and a friend or cousin who can act as a sibling.
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
But sometimes the bond we make with friends may be stronger than those we make with our actual brothers or sisters. Sometimes some people feel more for their friends rather than their family members. Just my thoughts :)
@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 Oct 09
Yes, you are right. Sometimes people make good and strong relationships with friends compared to siblings. The best example is my father. He says that only friends be there to help you when you are in a difficult situation. He understood that fact from his life. He is close to many friends compared to his siblilngs. His siblings always find fault with him. They also try to be mean to him.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
20 Oct 09
Hi daliaj Well i have a friend who is the only child of his parents, he seems to be quite satisfied, the positive thing is that the only child receives what ever he/she asks for, i dunno but it happens that way, probably because there is no competition for wanting similar things from the siblings hehe... well this friend of mine though runs to his cousin sisters and brothers more often...
@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 Oct 09
I understand that the only child gets whatever he wants. He also gets parents full attention. But, I feel there is no fun in life if you gets whatever you wants. Life is interesting only if you don't get something and you work or compete to achieve that thing. He may appear happy outwards, but we don't know how he really feel about being the only kid of his parents. There is a lot of happiness and love in sharing our things with our brother and sister. Our siblings are the only people other than our parents to whom we can ask any help. Siblings are the only people to whom we can fight, but they don't feel hurt and they forgive and forget all the issues in a short time. They are the only people from which we can borrow things or just take their things without asking permission.A lot more to say.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Oct 09
Hi again, yes you are right, it is so fun and nice to have a brother or sister, that is i why i mentioned that this friend of mine runs to his cousin sisters and brothers house each day, he can enjoy alone in his home because both his parents work and i can't imagine myself in that situation, i have a brother and we used to fight a lot when we were younger hehe i would have been so happy if i had a sister as well
• China
20 Oct 09
Hi Daliaj, I have an older sister and an younger brother, so I can not tell if it's boring or not to be the only child, as he/she can make friend with his/her neighbor... As being a mother to a only son, I think I will not give birth to another one. I hope I can put all my love, my care to him only. Actually he keep me so busy, I do not think I have more time taking care of another kid. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
• Singapore
20 Oct 09
Hi I think parents' love is different from siblings' love. He is lucky to have full attention from parents. But its definitely different experience to have a sibling. Just my 2 cents... :)
• Singapore
30 Oct 09
I think that only child will have more time to feel lonely than other children who has siblings. When siblings grow up together, they learn to share and resolve conflicts together. They can play and talk to each other and keep each other accompany. My two elder children love to chit-chat with each other before sleep as a way to bond with one another even though they have some arguement in the daytime. Night tiem , they are unwinding and resolving their conflict and bond with one another again. It is a good learning opportunity for children when they have siblings. Sylvia
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
No its not. In fact your cousin is fortunate enough because all of the attention of his parents are focused only to him.. Here in our country we are over populated its because the people here are very productive(lol) producing babies rapidly. So it is expected that every family consist of more than 3 in the family.As a result, we suffered poverty because of these. The sad thing is every child of a not-to-do-well family lacks sufficient needs in terms of their personal necessity. It is really a problem in most of the families here. So I guess your cousin must not be bored being the only child..
• India
21 Oct 09
yes,it is very boring if you are the only child of your parents.i think you can feel better if you had a brother or sister.we feel lonely if we don't have brother or sister to share our feeligs and to play with them.we cant go always to your friend's place to play with him or her.so it is very important for a child to have a brother or sister to share his or her feelings.what is your opinion?please send me the reasons also
@lindiebiz (1014)
• Canada
21 Oct 09
it can be lonely being an only child though i am not one i dont know how it feels but i do know that if he has 10 children, his children like to have few children like 1 or 2
@robert19ph (4586)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
hello daliaj, being the only child in the family has a lot of disadvantages and advantages. but then that depends totally on the child how she/he deals with it. some disadvantages ofcourse is that he/she is alone most of the time. especially when both of her/his parents are working. he/she has no one to talk, play and the likes. but the best part there is that his/her parents can afford to buy or give everything that she/he wants. just like the daughter of my older sister, she is only child and my sister is giving her anything, no question ask.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
21 Oct 09
I have a younger brother. I do not feel alone. But sometimes I hope I could be the only child of the parents as sometimes my brother is so selfish and irritable.
@SakuraR (10)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Being an only child is pretty boring. Even though your sisters and brothers might be annoying at times, they're still fun to be around ^_^ I'm glad i have a twin sis! =D
@rhycolez (82)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. If we don't have any brother or sister, it would be to bored. If we have many brother/sister, maybe we don't get bored. If you don't have brother/sister, your friends surely help you.
• United States
20 Oct 09
I think it would be nice to be the only child at times. i have 2 brothers. one i grew up with and the other one i just found out about. but when i was younger i wish i was the only one. but now, its nice to have brothers. sometime i wish i had a sister lol
@vandana7 (53493)
• India
20 Oct 09
Hi daliaj, I am an only child. And I enjoy my status. LOL. Yeah, I'd have tough time sharing all that I have right now, even if it was my own bro, or sis. I grew up in hostels, so all those statements of the child being pampered, given whatever he or she wants are not applicable here. And u know something I like a lot of friends as well. I am ok as a loner, as well as in crowd. Do I miss anybody? No. I dont let go of friends easily. But missing anybody once they are out is also not there. May be hostel life prepared me for such departures. :)
@cher913 (25897)
• Canada
20 Oct 09
i am an only child and not only when you are a kid is it hard being the only child but when you are an adult too and your parents are aging. my dad passed away in early february and now my mom depends on me even more than ever.
@shilley (157)
• India
20 Oct 09
More than boring ,i think it is the loneliness which actually affects the only child of parents.Because boredom can be overcome by doing some interesting things like reading books,surfing internet,listening to music,dancing,playing games and still more.But i think it is the feeling of being alone at home when parents are out which hurts them more.And also they do not get any opportunity to share their things with siblings.Ofcourse,those with siblings do have small fights over various things,but many a times it is the small fights which leads to better understanding.No toys or robots can replace the place of brothers and sisters.And only child is often over protected by parents due to the insecurity they feel about their only child.This is often mistaken by child in a wrong way and child thinks about escaping from parents and staying away from parents.Parents should spend enough time with their only child and should try to involve in every activity along with their child and try to diminish the feeling of loneliness in their child.
@wengerts (43)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Hello Daliaj! In my opinion, an only child is missing a lot in his life. It's still best to have siblings around. I'm the only girl and I'm the youngest in the family. I have 2 big brothers. I've been wanting to have a sister, with whom I can share girl stuff and engage in girl talk. What more if you don't have any siblings at all? Yes, I can have someone to be my bestfriend who will always be there like a real brother or sister. But as the saying goes, blood is thicker than water. And I agree that your friend can never replace your brother or sister.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 09
Hi Daliaj, I am not the only kid in my family,instead I have one eldest sister and two eldest brothers. Currently, I am the mother of one son and I hope to have only one kid in my own family.So will my son get bored? I don't think so,once I has enrolled him to school,he will have alot of friends to play with and he might forget about home at that point of time.Half day will be spent at school whilst another half day will be at home with me,his grandparents and night time will be with me and his daddy. Me and my husband will bring him for travelling once a year to visit my family and also dropby some other countries. It is actually depend on how the kid himself think and work his way out. There are many activities can be done outside the home and there is no time for being lonely.
@mmbabymm (36)
• United States
20 Oct 09
i don't know. some people enjoy being the only child because they get everything without having to share at all. but others may be the only child and want a baby brother or sister to share life, toys, whatever with. i have 3 kids and i wouldn't have it any other way. I don't want my kids to be lonely
@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Oct 09
Hi daliaj, I on my way to deliver a baby boy end of this month and I'm afraid he'll be an only child. He is a "test tube" baby as I can't conceive the normal way. Much as I want to have a second one we can no longer afford another procedure except when it will come the normal way, God willing. Upon reading the title of your discussion, I was caught unaware of the fact that my child would get bored being the only one. At this early stage, I should think of what I can do to make my son happy being with us all the way to his adolescence. Now I realized, he has to be in a peer group or with somebody on his age to be with while growing up. I'll be thinking of it... thanks for bringing up this topic.