do couples consider simplicity of weddings nowadays?

simplicity of wedding - will you consider simple wedding
@amyson (3509)
Philippines
October 20, 2009 12:15am CST
many couples nowadays consider simple weddings.my wedding took about 6 months in preparation so we really prepare a lot.what do you think about those couples marry in for hours wedding preparation?will you consider to hav your wedding for a lifetime to be just simple as it is?
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I think whether it as simple or prepare there is no different at all. Because I notice that more couples did not consider wedding as a kind of a life time relationship...Most couple broke out because of undisciplined with their own self...A life time relations is much more in considerable things. Not what other couples that experience a little problem or see something handsome, sexy or prettier than their partner will be the end of the relationship...Therefore I can say that there is no simplicity or prepared well wedding it depend upon those person disciplinary measure..have a great day!
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
yes,i do agree with you,couples should last and not only wedding can be reason to live in because in the past they really consider marriage before hand their daughter to a guy.it was different preparation before than today.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
To be in that relationship for so long. Marriage should not particularly conceptualize in special wedding or the simplicity of it. Because as far my opinion is concern. wedding is useless if someone in the relationship never respect it's sanctity...
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
yes,i do respect your opinion,but marriage is pure and through wedding you become one.at very first we cannot assure how to last the relationship or it would be forever.we cannot assure that right?trials in marriage is makes couples strong others failed so that would lead to separation.
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@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
it really depends on the couple and i cant relate totally because i never experience that one. LOL behind my mind i want a super dooper engrande wedding. and on the other half, i want it simple also. for now thats my views. i dont know if im in to real already. hehehhee
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
well most women dream of engrande wedding that is very quite expensive.
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@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
heheheh true, its expensive and its not practical on the other ways. and i think its really nice to march on the aisle with a red carpet with a flower on it. hays, im dreaming now. LOL
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
yes that was wonderful experience i had and i feel so nervous while walking on the aisle but all through it was wonderful moments for both of us.
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@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I really dont think it matters how long it takes a couple to prepare for their wedding. Itis their day and they can have it as fancy or as simple as they choose. The more time that you take to plan the wedding, the more money you are likely to spend. I really think it is ridiculous the amount of money that some people spend on their weddings. With the money spent they could put a down payment on a home. Just a little crazy for me.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
well yes some really spnd huge money for weddings since it was done it once so even if is expensive they just want to special their wedding dates.
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@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I guess i see that people want their day to be special, but money doesn't make it special. Just the two of them exchanging vows makes it special. I just always thought it was stupid to spendt hat type of money on a wedding day. spend it on the honeymoon or something.
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@Tko2020 (266)
21 Oct 09
Most women nowadays are only interested in the ceremony of marriage, they see marriage only as time to wear and show off a very expensive dress for a day, without thinking of the realities they have to put into a marriage to make it work.
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@sasalove (1710)
• China
21 Oct 09
It took quite a long time to prepare the wedding if you invite all of your relative and friends be at your feast. Before the wedding date, you should order the cake and candies and table otherwise no feast table available at the month of your wedding. I assumed that is why 6 months' long is required. If I have the choice, I don't prefer to prepare the wedding for such a long time as it will be very tired though you can accept the preparation budget. Truely, marriage is once in your life, but I tend to be the long and stable relationship between us and no need any wedding rituals to prove the true love. Thus, I admire the simplicity of my weddings. Happy mylotting.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
good for you,,yes marriage is the important simplicity of wedding is fine as long couples love each other and stay together.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Oct 09
We also had six-month preparation for our wedding. It was a well-planned wedding. We did not spend more but we received positive feedback from our guests like our wedding was one of the best weddings they’ve attended. It is practical not to spend too much for the wedding and just make it simple, especially now that we are in crisis. But is still up to the couple if they can afford it why not? But again better save the money to start a new life having a family than spend much for the wedding.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
yes,ii do agree with you,wedding is one of a lifetime.so we really need to prepare on it but since were facing economic crisis so some couples grab it and they gave importance on owning their house and for children in the future.
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Oct 09
Nowadays, partners who is engaged in getting married prioritize having a house so that after the wedding they have their own house to go home to. So, spending just enough for the wedding is practical and guests understand. I attended several weddings where they put in their invitation card that instead of gift they preferred cash to be their seed money for staring a family--nice innovation right?!
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
yes i also seen that,well,think it is very good start and the couple really help them in starting up their own family.
• China
20 Oct 09
hello amyson,i am going to marry in the next year,i plan to spend about half of one month for preparing since my friend and i are both working and don't have long vacation,my wedding will be complicate. my hometown locates at a small city,the hometown of my boyfriend is about 400km from my howntown,now we live in another city which is 400km far from my howmtown and 800km far from my boyfriend's,it is impossible to invite all our relatives and friends to attend our wedding in one city,so our wedding will be held in three cities separately,it is crazing when i think about it.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
wow,congratulations..that would be interesting..that is so far long distance relationship but gudluck ON YOUR WEDDING.wish you all the best and happiness.
• China
21 Oct 09
Thanks and wish you also a wonderfull wedding. don't forget tell us more information about your wedding once you held it.
28 Oct 09
Maybe. I think so. since the world is in crisis, simple things matter. I like simple weddings. With families & close friends in a chruch or a chapel. I like simple.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yes i do agree with you,simple weddings is ok considering economic crisis.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
23 Oct 09
Well, simplicity does have one big advantage - the money that is saved could be quite useful for the newly wedded couple to set up a home. Among many Indian communities, spending for the wedding is the name of the game - at least 2 or 3 or 4 or even 5 parties with over 500 guests attending each at Rs. 1000/- (USD22/-) per plate, plus the expenses for the hard drinks, then the sopends for wedding rituals followed by the reception expenses means that even a small family that is not very well off ends up blowing around USD50K on hospitality alone, besides another USD50K upwards towards the brides and the grooms trousseau and jewels. Today, even medium sized weddings end up costing about a quarter of million dollars for both the sides - (the bride and the groom). That kind of money would be quite useful for the couple.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
yes that would be the most important savings for home.wedding nowadays is on the practical side.
• Canada
23 Oct 09
When my husband and I got married, we had a relatively simple wedding, We went fancy on a couple of details (I designed my dress myself!!, a nice red dress that I can, and will wear again), and the wedding was totally personal to us, but it was simple in a lot of ways. Very small too. Not that many people attended, just family.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
that is nice.wow red wedding dress..that can of strange lol..
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
For me, wedding is once in a lifetime so it needs enough time for preparation. I am still single and my boyfriend and I are planning to get married after two years. We have planned to prepare everything first before marriage.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
that is fine dont hurry up,then gudluck...
@Ithink (10500)
• United States
20 Oct 09
Honestly I dont think the fancy wedding is a need, it is a want. That is my opinion thou. What matters is that the two truly loves each other and goes into it with the eyes open and being prepared to work at the marriage. I have been married almost 26 years and we got married at the district justice. It didnt bother me in the least and still doesnt. My husband had it so that we renewed our vows at our best friends wedding ( a huge fancy thing) and I tell you the stress was a killer. It was nice but I was a nervous wreck! Finally getting to go on a honeymoon was totally awesome thou!
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
yeap,honeymoon were the best part of it..although wedding is simple important is the time that they pronounce you are now married couples.
@kezabelle (2985)
20 Oct 09
I guess its ok if that is what you want me mand my partner are getting mrried april 29th 2010 we booked the wedding almost 4 weeks ago so we had 7 months to plan it (6months left and hardly anything planned) we dont want a huge wedding nor an expensive one with two small children our money has better places to be used but we will have our family and friends there and that is all that matters to us
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
well,gudluck and best wishes..
@rebaozi (100)
• United States
20 Oct 09
If I got a girl friend ,I will consider weddings,If I love this girl so much,I am totally can consider wedding, It's great,you know,I don't care time,that's who I am I.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
gudluck with you...
• United States
20 Oct 09
Many people go overboard for their wedding day...they spend thousands of dollars on one day only so the beginning of their marriage is financially strained. It never made sense to me. My husband and I were married this past March, on our four year anniversary. My parents offered to pay for a wedding. My mom wanted me to have a big, expensive, beautiful wedding dress, to be married in a church (all the while claiming it was "my wedding and my choice", although she'd never agree), to invite all of my family members, etc. I felt that would be an invasion of my privacy and of my future husband's. I honestly wanted no one but him, myself, and the pastor there. I talked it over with my then fiancee, and he agreed: as simple as possible would be the easiest and best for us. The only thing I was insistent about was that we found a pastor that shared our values in Christianity. We married at the park where we had our first date. Including my dress, my husband's shirt that we bought to go along color-wise with the dress, and the pastor's services, we paid a grand total of $200.00. I have not regretted having a simple wedding at all. I'm so glad I had no family there...getting married to my husband had nothing to do with them, and it was so much more romantic just being with him and not worrying about pleasing everyone else. Because we spent so little on the wedding, we have been able to have a stress free marriage thus far with no debt and we are early and pay extra on our house payments. Although my wedding day was important, it really wasn't the best day of my life. My wedding day was simply the title page to the next chapter in my life, and there was no reason to spend tons of money on it. It would have been needless, and in my opinion, ignorant, to do so. The amount of money you spend on your wedding has nothing to do with how much you love your to-be spouse, nor how long your marriage will last. It's simply money put toward how you want your wedding to look to yourself and other people. For people who love extravagance, spending a few thousand is understandable for them. I wanted to get married to my husband the first week I knew him, so after four years, I didn't care...I wanted it done!
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
that is so very touching story wow,its simple yet it is worthy to marry the guy that you love.marriage is important and you want to be with him so simple wedding is just fine.the important is you loving the person and you want to be with him.expensive wedding is ok with you have save money for couple months or even years.
20 Oct 09
Ours was a very simple wedding and took 5 minutes to prepare, didn't have the funds but it was a great day. Sometimes i wish i could have done the big wedding but at the end of the day we are married either way and i don't think it would have made a difference.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
wow 5mins.that too short but i believe exchanging vows is more important.
• China
20 Oct 09
I will have married on Nov.29.I have prepared the marriage for about 4 months, and now I am tired.I really want a simple wedding, just with my familes and friends together, eating,talking, drinking and playing. How about you?
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
congratulation and wish you luck.i am already married.
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I would like to have a simple wedding, but not those kinds where I would only plan for a couple of hours.. i mean, I want it to be simple, but perfect.. I want to plan all the details, cause it would only happen once, so I want it to be the best day of my life.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
yes,i do agree with you,it will happen once i want it to be memorable so we took about 6 months preparation so i think it is very worth to prepare to make your wedding day special but simple.
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
well, wedding for me is a sort of formality and it is a big deal to most women and not important to those with liberal ideas. I am going to marry for a lifetime it may be not an ideal or a fairy tale wedding but it must be solemn and not a dream like fantasy wedding. Thus, if I marry it means serious business while I could not pressure to marry someone I do not know even it hurts the person if I feel pressure I am gonna marry him only for comfort and not for love. Thus, the relationship would never last.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
almost all women ream of nice wedding like a fairy tail weddings.but due to economic crisis weddings in different ways is also fine.
@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Oct 09
Hi amyson, It was six years ago when we got married and even during those days we opted for a simple civil wedding as we don't have enough funds for a church wedding. As much as I want my wedding to be something memorable, we don't have a choice as my husband has to leave the country in few days time to work abroad. Besides, we need to speed up the authentication of our marriage contract as he'll be taking me in few months to join him. Good Day!
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
yes,civil wedding is also good alternative than church wedding since church wedding needs time to prepare so if that in your case it is just fine.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
My fantasy wedding will be extravagant! In the church I wish to see twigs with orchid flowers, the same design in "The Proposal" setting. All people that are important to us wears white. Then one of our dearest friend will sing our wedding march song "Will you Still Love Me" by Chicago. At the reception, it will be at the beach. The decoration of the whole place are filled with white twigs with white orchids and white japanese lanterns. I imagining it be well lit. We'll hire a band that will play all our favorite songs as a couple. Then we dance and party all night. Well everything of course depends on the budget, if it allows us. But if not, a simple wedding will do. It doesn't really matter how big or small the wedding will be, its the life after the wedding that matters most...
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
yes we dream of beautiful wedding that close to perfection.since it is done once in a lifetime i still want it more time in preparing to make it more beautiful.but i also consider economic crisis.so simple wedding will do anyway the important is the two of you were stay for lifetime.