Would you consider rejection is good thing or bad thing?

United States
October 22, 2009 4:19pm CST
There is no right or wrong answer for it. Depends on how you view rejection, and how would you handle the rejection you received. For pursuing love, rejected by someone is hurtful definitely, but you couldn't help, and simply accepted it as a fact. You might be able to take it as a experience, and strengthen yourself. Next time, you might know what you have done wrong. For you work submission, or sales pitch, you might received rejection from time to time, but do not beat yourself up. You work harder; do your preparation better next time, finally, you might reach your goal. So, I might take rejection as a neutral thing. It is a truth, it hurt the first time you heard it, but remind yourself, what have you done wrong, and next time, you can do it better.
19 responses
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
in term of work i feel sad if my boss rejected my proposal or project but it gives me courage to pursue what i like and prepare my project well so that nexttime it would never be rejected anymore.i will look it as a challenge and a good thing to start it over for better work.in terms of love,rejection is painful when you love that person but you just dont love him back it is painful and bad thing but we learn from it and it gives challenge how to deal situation like that.so i can say it is both.
• United States
23 Oct 09
Well, all of us have a failure at least once our lifetime. I have been facing so much failures in my lifetime, and I want to do much better than past experience. I want to improve myself. So, maybe that is an incentive for better future.
22 Oct 09
In terms of love to be rejected early can save hurt later. In terms of life constructive rejection can build, but constant or unfounded rejection and wound terribly.
• United States
22 Oct 09
I agree with that. I would take rejection as much positive feedback as possible. I won't take it as a wound, or a hatred act. I would rather improve myself toward better future, rather than something I couldn't understand, and take it negatively.
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
I was rejected twice already by two men.but,as they say,life goes on.yes,it was hurtful,but I rather not dwell on it.if you fall,will stay face flat to the ground,or stand up and brush yourself?I rather stand up and brush myself.with work,I get rejected several times when I applied for a fashion company,but it didn't stop me from my dream of having a career in the fashion industry.I still have the faith.
• United States
23 Oct 09
I think it's like you said. Rejection is sometimes a good thing because we may not have known the fate that awaited us if we hadn't got rejected. I think rejection makes us stronger even though at the time of the rejection we may sit there and cry and ball our eyes out but in the end we usually end up seeing it as a good thing. I think rejection is part of criticism and some times life just works that way. We don't like it at first but we deal with it and it makes us stronger.
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
You are absolutely right. There is no right or wrong answer on this. If there are situations that you encounter a rejection it does not mean that you are not suitable or capable of. Its just something is much better for you. Dont feel bad if you are rejected, there are times, God allows certain situation that we cannot explain or cannot accept at the moment but later on we realize that this is for our own good.
@calai618 (1781)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
It's really a case to case basis. There are people who can handle rejection properly and can even turn such an unfortunate event into something positive. It really depends on how a person views and handles the situation. Some who see it as a turning point in life would start to do something useful out of it while some who see it as the end of life would really opt to stop their life and maybe lose it.
@Catwife (54)
• China
23 Oct 09
What is not fully absolute,is sometimes a good thing, sometimes bad things!But people still have to learn to reject,when to say no,when should the harm to others reduced to the lowest point!
@shenqixu (130)
• China
23 Oct 09
As we all known, the failure is the mother of the success. Rejection is not always bad thing, but acception is not always good. Face rejection, someone may give up and never try again. He was beat up.But someone may work harder and find the reasons that he was fail, make a better preparation. Finally he succeeded. I hope everyone of us was latter....
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Oct 09
There could possibly be some good things to come out of rejection, but I'm afraid i wouldn't be able to see it. If I'm rejected over anything, i am devastated. I take it too personally I guess. We see rejection as a failure for the most part. What can be good about that?
@killersss (639)
• India
23 Oct 09
yes you are very much right, it certainly depends on how you take rejections, if you take rejections in a positive way then it will really help you in your future but if you take it in a negative sense then you will not learn anything from it and you will never be able to take rejections anymore, so i think we all should all try to accept rejections as well when we are happy when we are accepted like that way only we should also welcome rejections with whole heart.
@mishaela (29)
• Romania
23 Oct 09
Agree!But of course that at first u feel like dying.I think everytime it happens, it makes u harder.Like everyone i passed through that,but now when i look back,it can't hurt me any more.Neutral?I don't know,u would like that...Sometimes is good,because later u see it was wrong,but sometimes is bad,because it was something that it was good for u,it's something that u lost
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Rejection may be a either of the two. For examples I applying in a job like in a call center then I was rejected because of my English accent and lack of knpwledge of the language. Thus, I would felt sad after the rejection because after paaing all the preliminary second interview I pass then when the final interview comes they fail you. Consequently the bad feeling of spirit of ejection overshadow. Then, the interviewer says need to undergo training. Thus,out of rejection you could see the reasons for it and learn to make yourself better the second time around by attending English classes to be more confident. Thus, it is the good things as out of the first rejection one could see her defects and one way to improve herself through the feedback. The result you get employed and now becomes a good things.
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
You are precisely correct. Rejection is like criticism. It can be good or bad depending on how you take it. Every rejection or criticism must be taken in the good side and as a motivation to work harder. The rejection is always a room for improvement. For me, whenever there is rejection or criticism towards me, I would swallow it and do something about it then prove them wrong my very best. I take it as a challenge.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I don't take rejection too well because no matter what you say, the feeling just won't go away, well not easily at least. It's best to keep an open mind and know that it's not the end of the world, which is easier said than done. Cheers!
@usemyname (640)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Actually, rejections could be a good thing if you see it in a different perspective. It will encourage you to do better, aim for best and possible avoid rejection the next time around. Sometimes we just have to learn the hard way to get things done.
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
In some way rejection is a bad thing because rejection to some people can create self-esteem and less confident. But for my personality, rejection is a good thing because it makes me more a strong person. I always strive for excellence and never mind other people.I always learned from the rejection.
@Craicha (801)
23 Oct 09
il cant say rejection is a good thing or bad thing coz it depends upon how i been rejected....yah its true it hurts coz we usually cant accept the rejection it touches our pride and ego...and through the denial that we been rejected thats the time we get hurts...but after we can get over with it and correct and improves our selves and found out the reason why we been rejected we will correct our mistakes that maybe next time we will nah be rejected..
• United States
23 Oct 09
Personally, I think rejection sucks! Of course, any sane person wouldn't exactly like it I suppose. The thing is not whether or not the rejection is good or bad, it's whether you take the chance or not, at least in my opinion of course. I mean, say you have a crush on some dude (or girl) and you've liked them for some time, but will you ever ask them out? Or would you be too afraid of rejection? If someone writes a book, makes a CD album, or pretty much does anything, there's always going to be the chance of rejection. Life is full of taking these chances, you have to grab hold of it, even if you're scared! You only live once! ... supposedly ... Oh, p.s. Yeah, I guess rejection is good in a way, because you learn from it. To me, it's not a very black and white situation, it's more in the gray shades, but then again everything is to me ...
• United States
23 Oct 09
I read your discussion and the first thing that came to mind for me was the slogan, Where one door closes, another one opens. I believe that everything happens for a reason. I may not like the out come of the situation now, but later on down the road I find myself realizing that if that situation hadn't happened then I wouldn't be in the situation I am in now, which is better. Do you follow what I'm saying. Yeah, rejection is a hard thing to deal with, especially if you work as a salesperson. It's an constant thing, but got to keep going. I consider it a good thing because I agree with you. The next time I am to achieve my goal I will work harder, and that's always a good thing, right. Rejection can be a bad thing if the person takes it to heart, and doesn't decide to pick themselves up and keep going. Depends on the person and what they choose to tell themselves. Happy mylotting, clorissa123!!!