mylotter reactions

@quita88 (3716)
United States
October 24, 2009 8:08am CST
When responding to a discussion have you ever been told you were wrong ? and basically to butt out?
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• United States
24 Oct 09
Sure I have but that only brings out the devil in me. I then get a kick out of making some off the wall comments!
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
LOL, that is my way of thinking today !! I am having a great time with saying what I think and if that POs someone, that is their problem I intend to be around mylot for a long, long time, many hugs, quita88
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Oct 09
good for both of you, and quita do not let a few rude ones make you give up, mylot friends here are a wonderful group of people as you will see.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
24 Oct 09
Yes! There are many on here who ask for an opinion but then, if it's not the same as theirs is, it is, in their opinion, wrong It's difficult, if not almost impossible to discuss with such indivduals
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Boy, do you have that right !! That was the second bad response I've received on mylot. I have been shocked, my feelings hurt and have thought of quitting mylot, but as with you and a lot of other responses this morning, I will not quit !!! I have not been mean or ugly and these two really knocked my socks off for a while. I responded nicely back tho thank you. But, since so many good responses to this discussion, kinda think I'll hang around and keep giving my old lady advice LOL Thanks a million for this response, quita88
@Wordlinx (507)
• India
24 Oct 09
So far no one told like that as I am taking much care to avoid the violation of terms..Mostly I will not do also.But there may be some situations come for that..Because, we may not be always stick on to the terms always or really we may not be well familiar with the terms..Even if I am warned or advised, I will take them in positive way only and will correct my faults..We all are just human..committing mistakes is a common thing..But we should never repeat them again and again.
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@GardenGerty (99351)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I think quita is talking about something that is not involved with TOS, at least the way I am reading it. I once made the statement in a discussion that not all people from certain countries are cheaters, and I got told to mind my own d****business and that I was stupid and did not know what I was talking about. The person who spoke that way was actually in violation of TOS. If it were to happen today, I would report them for abuse.Most people respect a person who helps them follow guidelines, just as you do. I hope you enjoy our site and find only kind and good friends here.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Yes, it has happened before. Why? Did that happen to you?
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Sure has. Go back now and read the responses and my first discussion. Take care not to let this happen to you.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Ok I give up. I just read thru all of your discussions and I don't know whether I just missed it or what but I couldn't find it. Well, I did find one that was a bit abrasive so maybe that is the one. I kind of got the guys point but his way in it expressing it was kind of rude. It sounded initially as if he was arguing with you but after reading it over again, I think he was really putting down VA care. Was that the one? If so, you handled it well.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
26 Oct 09
Hi, it was not a discussion of mine. wonder why I didn't get this one response of yours in my email?? The VA care was a discussion started by me and I've had lots of responses to that one and all in a good way. The one I am talking about now is about a lady who is bi polar and was ranting. I just simply told her to settle down, get social services to help her with her problem and then I got two of her friends? telling me to basically butt out that I didn't understand this woman's problems--- But,all the same they have not come back with any more responses. As to the VA care, well, thanks for your words. I try to be nice LOL
@jugsjugs (13045)
24 Oct 09
No never,the whole point of a discussion is that you have an opinion.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
exactly my thoughts. But, they do too apparently and don't like mine LOL
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@jugsjugs (13045)
24 Oct 09
Try to ignore all the bad things like that on here if i was you,i know other people have had problems with some people.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
24 Oct 09
'they do too apparently and don't like mine LOL' That's the spirit!
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• India
24 Oct 09
This is a platform for opinions and people can have conflicting views.So you can be told you are wrong here that is nothing to worry about. Just respond to that post with your side of the argument that's all.There is a concept of barging here as well when a third party can put his opinion along with the original two or more people participating in the discussion.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I respond as I think is fit for the info given. I also realize there will be conflicting opinions and only wish to show my thoughts on actions/events/ feeling,etc. I have been shot down twice in the last couple of days when only giving what I considered helping words. I think it's important in mylot to give help even tho the receiving party doeesn't look at it that way. HOpefully my aged wisdom will help somebody :)
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@GardenGerty (99351)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Quita you will run into rude people everywhere. Please continue to be yourself.
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• United States
24 Oct 09
I've had response to discussions where I illicit more information and in the course of dialog the other person makes an assumption that isn't true, sometimes those discussions have a real bad tone, I will try to set the discussion straight if I can if not, so be it... (More to follow with my response to this discussion...)
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Yes, i have. sounds like u have run-in to someone rude. Don't worry about it. It takes all kinds.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
25 Oct 09
I did worry but have gotten over it. For one thing, I'm more into it cuz of all the wonderful responses telling me these two were out of sync with what mylot likes. I do not want to hurt anyone and would never give bad advice. You take care and thanks for the response. Tomorrow, quita
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
25 Oct 09
U run into loonies everywhere u go, lol. When i sold things on ebay my oldest son said i attracted all the loonies & he was right, i did.
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24 Oct 09
I have given the right answer to a discussion that someone has made and they consistently said that I was wrong and that was not the answer. They had mentioned in their discussion that they did not think it was the answer. I just left the discussion after the third time I had said the answer and they kept saying that it wasn't.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I think we all might have to learn to not continue trying to talk to some of these members. There are all kinds here and why waste our time with those who are just plain argumentative? Let me be.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I meant to type in : let THEM be LOL, so sorry !!
@malamar (784)
• Canada
24 Oct 09
I have never been told off or told to butt out, but I did get a small blast once from someone who misunderstood my response. I simply replied back with courtesy and tried to more clearly explain my post. It all ended well once they understood what I was attempting to say. If they do not respond to you with respect and courtesy, simply stay away from their conversations. Nasty or rude people don't seem to stay for long on a social networking site. Just be yourself, be polite, and have fun. There are a lot of really great people here who will welcome your input and your opinions, even if they don't happen to agree with them.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
My hats off to you dear and thanks I am never intentionally mean or nasty, just tell the truth on what problem is handed to me. God Bless you ---you've made my day:)
@malamar (784)
• Canada
24 Oct 09
Thank you Quita! There is nothing wrong with telling the truth - I only wish more people would understand that we could agree to disagree without being angry or hurtful! I detest nasty people, there just is no excuse for it. I hope you have a great time here at Mylot. There are truly some fabulously friendly people who are very helpful, especially to us "newbie's".
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
24 Oct 09
not been told to but out but have been gorren on too for what they thought I should have said! hmmmmmmmmmm I tell it the way I see it!
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I am getting some excellent responses to this discussion. Thanks for responding !! quita88
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
24 Oct 09
yes I see that and I am soooo glad for you hugssssssssss
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 09
There has been the odd occasion that I experienced something like that and it was downright rood on the part of that person! It seems that they lack manners when it comes to politeness and respect! I for one appreciate everyone's view regardless of whether it be good or bad, this is the good thing about My Lot, it's a diplomacy and we are allowed to vent our opinions just as long as we don't offend others. It seems that these so called imbeciles are intent on making life difficult for others though! Andrew
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Ah,the embeciles are going to be in any walk of life and like it has been pointed out to me, the bad ones , the rude ones, the ugly LOL, don't last long on mylot. Don't let one or two bad incidents get to you. We have an admin to deal with the "uglies" we invariably will encounter on mylot or at the office any given day of the week. Take the time to smile and just politely write down their name(I wish I had) and report them to admin. We are all here for fun and for some to make a few bucks. I don't intend ever again to get up from this computer and feel bad all day long. Give yourself a break. You seem like a good guy and from quita to you, have a good day :)
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 09
No but you should have just told them that it is your opinion and that is what they asked for I don't know why People have to be so rude and if they do not want an honest opinion then why bother starting a Discussion at all I am sorry this happened to you Quita
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Thanks for your concern but this situation has taught me a lesson. I admit my feelings were hurt but after so many nice responses to this discussion, I've decided not to back off and to continue with my own quita brand of advice. I haven't lived 61 years not to know something and I'll be ^&*&^% if I'm going to let two negatives get me down. I'm going to enjoy giving my saged wisdom :) If I get any more rude or abusive responses off to the admin they go !!! Actually, it's been a good experience and I only hope this has helped others who might encounter the same kind of responses. It's a good life and with mylot and being able to share makes it better. thanks, gabs, quita
• India
24 Oct 09
i feel a difference in view infact adds more information to the topic.so you should be just yourself when you are responding to a discussion no matter how the other person percieves it because you are going to put in your life experience for your post and not his..and thats what makes it interesting otherwise we would have been here to get votes on how many agree to us.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Boy oh Boy are you right! I try to use my life's experiences to respond and when those try to talk me down it really does get to me. After the wonderful posts I've gotten on this topic, I will continue to be me and type what I think and just be myself. Thanks you so much for pointing this out to me. We all have to work together here on mylot. God bless.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Oct 09
quita88 I apologize for the rudeness of some people. Mylot admins cautions us to respect the opinions of other, and telling someone they are wrong is not in my eyes respecting your opinion,I might say I have a different viewpoint but I do respect yours, and hope you respect mine.But I do not ever tell someone they are wrong. If someone has insulted you , you do have the right to report them to mylot admins as we are , as they put it, supposed to get along and have fun. I have run across a few when I first come here that came right out and c alled me a whiny old hag, so I reported this smart mouthed person. Mylot admins did the rest.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Thank you for that complete mylot apology. It's not necessary for you to have to apologize for the rudeness of others. But, it does my heart good to know you care about me. This is after all, a site and people are on/in it---and some people have nasty ways. I agree with you tho. I'd never tell you you were wrong, I'd value your opinion and we'd agree to disagree. I really do not know the two people who came back and told me I was wrong in my opinion. the names went poof cuz I was so startled. Still one came back and tried to talk me down----I won't report her cuz she has not had the guts to come to back to say a word to me after I pointed out that she should take a different outlook on that situation. I will however, report the next one who tells me my opinion sucks !! I do not believe that living all these years makes my opinion a bad one. I would never intentionally hurt a person and would hope I never say anything bad to hurt somone's feelings like mine were hurt. I believe what goes around comes around and probably they won't last on mylot cuz really good people are the majority on mylot Do have a happy mylot day and God bless you, quita88
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
24 Oct 09
Yes I have. One time I was told, Who are you to say ----- ----- ----- ---- and when that happened I had a few myLotters who apparently must think I'm an OK person because there were three or four who came to my side telling these people they had no right to talk to Grandmaof2 in that manner.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Hey, way to go !! I know those mylotters know you very well and as far I am concerned you are an OK person to me too !!! Hang in there, granma of 2:) quita is behind you 100%
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@GardenGerty (99351)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Yes, I have, and I do not remember how I handled the rude one. I have basically outlasted those who were that way with me. I can handle being told I am wrong or mistaken in a respectful and polite manner. Rude responses get reported as abuse when they happen. I was not that way when I was new here, but I have learned that our MyLot society does not benefit by people who have that attitude.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Rude ones need to go---I intend to outlast as you say and hang around to give all mylotters some of my ways of thinking I do not think their ( there were 2) responses need to be reported as abuse but since only one of them had the decency to come back with a half hearted nice response, I feel they both know they did wrong. No, their response did nothing for me on mylot except to help me create this discussion. I put a lot of thought into responses. I put my heart into my responses. I would never hurt anyone intentionally and now that I see some of the bad here, I know how to get around it Thanks for your nice response and talk to ya later, quita88
@love_all (308)
• India
24 Oct 09
i suppose once i have been..
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
did you respond back?
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@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
19 Mar 10
Sometimes I have the feeling the person commenting on my reply is not agreeing with what I am saying. I find that to be ok as everybody has his or her own opinions. However I would find it a bit offensive if someone told me to stay out of his or hers discussions.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I also have the same feelings but I just go with the flow, answer and move on anymore. Mylot has been quite a different experience for me as I've been in other money making? sites before mylot. Still there are those who are older veterans of mylot who think they own the site and will tell you they do too but I figure I am an individual and it's ok to be new and have to learn. I just have learned to be careful what I say. I read the guidelines and be wary of my wordage. Anyway I too find it offensive to be told to butt out. Strange people think they own this site. later, quita
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
20 Mar 10
We do learn from our mistakes. Despite reading the FAQ a couple of times I used to post discussions which would be later deleted. Different people give different interpretations to rules. Don't get discouraged. It's by trail and error that we learn. Happy mylotting
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
25 Oct 09
Every now and then I've gotten such remarks and once I was told to butt out. The thing this person doesn't understand is that this is a public forum in which all of us can come and give our opinion and if they don't like our opinion then they shouldn't have asked to begin with. Don't let it bother you and stand your ground against such meanness. Also report it!
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I was hurt with their remarks at first but since all the discussions I have to say I'm now easier with it. I don't hurt anyone and never will and my advice was good. I'm now watching what is said by whom and taking it all with a grain of salt. But, any more incidents like that and I will report it. but,hey, its' over. Haven't heard from either of them and I can go on being me. Take care and thanks for the response.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Don't let ANYbody get under your skin. This is a public forum and therefor you can give your opinion in your own way. The person who commented in such a way to you is in the wrong. They could've skipped over your response and moved to the others and not be so nasty towards you. If it happens again, please, let me know and I'll send a pack of wolves on them! I just defended book and I'll defend you too!
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
24 Oct 09
Not so far..but I do know lots of people who don't like to hear opinions that are not in sync with their ideas. It's kind of funny, coz the whole point of starting a discussion is to understand varied views that people might have, is it not? Well, that is how I perceive. In any case, if someone did ask me to back off and hated my views, I would be candid and ask them why they had started a discussion if they can't deal with the responses..
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I've already sent a nice response but also told them that I was trying to help and the problem being there were two responses telling me I didn't understand the whole situation. Well, I knew what was in the discussion and resonded to such. Still I told them to take care of this person and to use social services for her and her daughter. I have done all I can and I will continue to give my opinion. They can delete me as a friend and my heart will not be broken. I am by nature a helping person and do not wish to hurt anyone. I will continue to stay with mylot. Thanks for responding. And, God bless.
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@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
24 Oct 09
I think that is great. I hate people who give unsolicited advice. But here is a case where you really care and want to help. I think it's really nice. God bless ya and thanks!