Time to move on...?

@joy4you (641)
India
October 24, 2009 3:51pm CST
If you have been in a relationship that just doesn't seem to be working because of various reasons even though you have tried everyhing, when or how do you decide it is time to end it and move on? How do you know that it still have a chance or if you are dragging a dead body around? What factors do you think if present in a relationship means that you should end it immediately and what things mean that you should still fight to keep it together? I am at such a cross road myself and ask my self everyday if I have done everything possible and that it is time to let go, because if it is not then I would never be at peace with myself knowing that something could have been done or that there was that one chance left. So friends help me...
3 responses
@rhan04 (309)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
I've been there once and asked myself the same questions as that. I decided to finally let go when the pain that I was feeling was stronger than the love that I am feeling for my partner. I did my best to fight for our relationship and to hold on. But he doesn't seem to be doing the same thing. He made me feel like I am the only one willing to save our relationship. In a relationship, it has to be a team work. Both of you should be doing your part in your relationship. If there's only one who is functioning, then it will end no matter how much you wanted it to work. If you think that you have done your best, and still have that doubt feeling, you might want to sit down first, think about your situation and reflect on everything that has been happening. Are you both willing to work it out? Or is it just you?
@joy4you (641)
• India
6 Feb 10
It's just me, that's why I have decided to end the relationship and move on. Things have been happening with me exactly as you have described it, but now I am emotionally ready to move on and will. Thanks.
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Someone asked this question last nite and i gave a lengthy answer but it all boils down to if there's more bad times than good its time to cut the cord, that way you might have a chance to remain friends.
@joy4you (641)
• India
6 Feb 10
I have been thinking about this myself and came to the conclusion ... cut the cord and move on. I gave it my honest best but it's just not working out, I have to stop trying at some point and move on to another relationship that I would enjoy being in, feel comfortable, secure and above all respected.
• Canada
24 Oct 09
I think the length of the relationship is a factor. Have you two been together for a long time, or a short while? The longer you two have spent together, the harder you should try to stay together. I think you know that the relationship is over when you feel a sense of defeat. I don't mean just a little bit of hopelessness or failure, but udder defeat. When you have tried everything but you just know that nothing is going to fix it. That is when you should move on. And if you both find that after some time apart you cannot get over eachother and still feel that you should be together, then maybe you could give it another try. People just need breaks from eachother sometimes. My advice to keep it together would be to try and remember why you fell inlove with this person, what drew you two together. Try to rekindle that. Go on a date that you would have went on when you started dating. Maybe all you guys need is a reminder as to why you are together.