What was the right age or time to get married?

@chelley (129)
Philippines
October 25, 2009 11:17am CST
Im now 26yrs old and some of my friends are already married and have kids. do i have to feel pressure bout all of this? my dad is teasing me bout he wants to see a grandchild.. i dont know, i feel like im still not so ready for a greater responsibility in this life..and i think there is so much thing to do when you're single and you can take yourself to any height you want. :)
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9 responses
• China
2 Nov 09
hi,chelley,I think I know you feeling,because I have the same problem.I'm25,and my parents urge me to take a blind date and marry someone,now and then.I feel a little nervous ,I don't wanna get married at all,now.I know it is stupid to feel scared,but i do,actually.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I think you have a choice if want to marry that guy or not.. It is also ok soometimes not to obey your parents but it is completely your final decision on this one situation.. Remember marriage is a lifetime commitment ;) thanks for your response! have a nice day to you..
• China
3 Nov 09
yeah,we can choose our own lives!hope you will meet some guy you really love!have a nice day!
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
25 Oct 09
It is not a good idea to get married if you are not ready. Each person has there own feelings on this. getting married comes with a lot of responsibility and if you are not ready it will spell nothing but disaster for you.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Yes you are right mrsbrian.. i have friends here got married at early age and now they are separated.. i dont know, maybe im just scared..
• India
17 Nov 09
Ya absolutely correct marriage is not a fun it seems like a fun but reality is far differnt ,you should be strong in terms of financialy and mentaly then you can think about that otherwise marriage is not gonna work
@kezabelle (2974)
31 Oct 09
Everyone is different though, im 25 (il be 26 next march) and will be getting married just 2 months after I turn 26 for me its the perfect time I also have two litle girls aged 5.5 and 3.5 years I was ready for the responsibilty of children a home my partner and now marriage me and my partner have been together just turned 8 years and I really could never imagine being with anyone else. Being single has its benefits of course and its all about personal preference and I think finding someone you truley love can totally change your priorities to be honest because right now the only heights I want to conquer are to be a good wife and mother and alright it might not seem any good height to some but to me its exactly what I want so thats what makes it important to me each lifestyle has its benefits to the individual and there is nothing wrong with that.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
Wow congratulations on your upcoming wedding and best wishes! :) I love being single and im in a realtionship of 3yrs right now and he's still not proposing for a marriage.. i dont know im still confused but thanks for the comment, it really helps ;)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
Some partners would say it's time to get married because they know they can make it work..financially and everything... So it's not really on your age but in time and situation.. Yeah responsibility is really a BIG word to fulfill.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
Yes you are right, it is when you are ready on everything especially on the great responsibility in life :) thanks for the comment! ;)
@edxcast (1168)
• Ecuador
1 Nov 09
Hi chelley, well i think everyone has their own age to be ready. Your friendĀ“s time came and so they are already married. Perhaps for you that time hasnt come yet. Marriage in my opinion is not a thing to hurry on to. One should take the time they want to wait and see if their ready. If not it would be a dumb thing to do, no matter what other people says.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
Thanks edxcast! I think i have to wait for that time for me to be ready on everything especially the responsibility. i love your comment and it's a relief for me ;) have a nice day!
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
17 Nov 09
See usally after 22 or 23 you can do marriage but here I can tell you that it is not a question that what is time and age of marriage ,for marriage you should be mentaly and financialy strong because marriage is new responsbilty which will come on shoulder and you can not escape so we should be prepared and when you made your carrer like when you will get good job and good source of income and you are enough able to understand emotions ,you can do marriage
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
I agree with you, before getting married both of you must be financially and mentally stable... thanks for your respons! have a nice day ;)
@Paarl20 (20)
• South Africa
31 Oct 09
People are different and each one responds to life's transitions uniquely, and acting on the basis of someone's else whims or ideals is a definite no, no.
@Jennlk84 (4206)
• United States
25 Oct 09
I think it's different for everyone. I got married this year, at age 25. It was the right time for me. My husband is 28, so that was the right time for him. I have friends who were married and had children years before I even got engaged. And I have friends right now that don't even have a serious boyfriend that they could get married to. So honestly I think it's different for everyone. I don't think you can just say oh - this is the perfect age or age range for marriage.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Thank you Jennlk84 :) maybe im just scared for the responsibility and at the same time im still enjoying being single..
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
I think there is nothing wrong with it. My aunt was married when she was about 29 years old and still they manage to have a child. Some would say that it is already risky to be pregnant when you are already more than 30 years old. If you are not ready yet then don't. Getting married is something that you should be thinking properly. It is a commitment for a lifetime. It is not good that you will have regrets later on why you married.
@chelley (129)
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
Thank you so much for the comment ;)