post breakup: how long before you should date again?

@redphile (2265)
Philippines
October 25, 2009 11:44pm CST
there was this movie about a long time couple who are wanting to get married already soon. They are always together until they have met some differences that they couldnt agree on. They broke up after 6 years of being together. N0w, still hurting, the guy sees the girl in a group date with a new face in group. Guy got jealous and beat the crap out of him and said she should know the 3-month rule: never to date until 3 months after the breakup. Do you think 3 months is enough to date again after a breakup? Should it be longer or shorter than that?
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4 responses
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
Hi!For me it does'nt matter if how many months you will count before you should date after breakup.Because going out with friends or some guy can be also a good way to overcome from heartache.Its better instead of isolating yourself just because you feel depressed.And dating another guy does'nt mean that you are jumping into a new relationship and you have already ignored the sweet moments you have shared with your ex.It could just be a coping mechanism.But I would emphasize,this opinion of mine is just pointed to a gf-bf breakup.In marital breakup,I would have certainly a different views ;)
@redphile (2265)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
yeah in a bf-gf situation only =) well, some people would say that after a break up, then the girl or boy suddenly has a new replacement, its like he or she didnt really care for the ex partner at all. Its like not going through the phase of being brokenhearted or at least getting hurt of the broken relationship.
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
I think there is no more painful than a phase of coping that you had to use or go out with other guy because you dont know at all how to pick those broken pieces in your life.
@redphile (2265)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
i believe so, we can never know how long really is it to cope up.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
Hi, are you from the Philippines, are you talking about the movie "one more chance", starring bea alonzo and john llyod cruz? hahaha Your story really is fit to the plot of the story haha. I think the three month rule is a fact, but I just found out about it after watching the movie haha. Maybe there are other time rules in other countries hahaha
@redphile (2265)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
absolutely correct! One m0re chance is a m0vie I can relate (uh-huh) and thats where I learned the 3 month rule. Coz I think if it just took you 1 week or 1 month to recover, means that the person does n0t matter to you that much. Thats what people would see.
@BART78 (2932)
• Canada
26 Oct 09
...i don't set some rules like that..if you love him/her just let it go and be happy with somebody new..though it's painful seen him/her..but life's must go on...for me, it took me more than a year to find a new partner...but it's worth waiting because i found my destiny, and that is my wife rigth now...i'd always kept lessons i learned from previous relationship so i will never go wrong again...
@redphile (2265)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
its great that you have found your wife, your destiny. i guess it really depends on the person how he or she copes.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
yes that would be right,3 months i do agree that breaking up is the hardest and painful to do.so if you are a girl or boy give time for yourself in the meantime and gave time to again and 3 months is ok.
@redphile (2265)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
hmm i see. coz some would take like years to date again, maybe depends on how best the person can cope with the pain.