A lady was silly

@maximax8 (28570)
United Kingdom
October 26, 2009 4:15am CST
A lady was married. She got bored with her husband. She had an affair and got pregnant with twins. She thought her husband was their father but it was her lover. Her husband found out he was infertile. The lady was silly to have had an affair. If she hadn't had an affair she wouldn't have had her children. What do you think?
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• United States
27 Oct 09
Isn't that the premise for the movie The Good Girl with Jennifer Anniston? Had she known that her husband was sterile it's still cheating, there are other options like sperm donors, adoption, etc. It's still wrong, she didn't cheat to have children it sounds like, so she sounds like a bad person.
@AmbiePam (50274)
• United States
27 Oct 09
She shouldn't have had the affair. Having twins just proves something good can come out of something bad. It doesn't mean the affair was okay, nor does it excuse her behavior. Her kids will have the knowledge that they were borne out of the unfaithfulness of their mother. That's not the kind of example I would want for my own children.
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 09
hi maximax8 so she was silly and now she had to fess up and I wonder what the husband is going to do now. She' made an error but she does have children and she has to care for them. I would not want to be in her shoes with' a hubby who now knows he is infertile and is not the'father.
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• United States
26 Oct 09
wow better her than me is all I can say to that! Very silly to have the affair. And after she should have just come clean to her husband and cofessed what she had done. In the long run - God bless the babies who were brought in to the mess of it all!
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
I like your comment that "God bless the babies who were brought in to the mess of it all". Confessions can help a marriage I imagine.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
26 Oct 09
Indeed she was! She should have checked it out first before having an affair. It is a real fact that people having affairs prefer married woman - often the husband will not suspect - unless....
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
I am surprised that people that like to have affairs like married ladies.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
26 Oct 09
Definitely her husband is not the father of the twins. An infertile man can't be a father. The illicit connection with the lover is the result of her pregnancy.
@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
The husband is probably upset that he is infertile. I hope that her twins are not made to feel part of a loving family.
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• Philippines
26 Oct 09
That was a blessing in disguise that the woman got pregnant because she can't have a child with her husband but having an affair with other man is a bad thing. She should have known first that her husband is infertile so they can talk to each other on what they should do, and maybe her husband would also allow her to have their children with other man (like baby maker).
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
Thanks for your excellent response. I like the way you describe it as "a blessing in disguise". Yes, there are treatments for those that have difficulty conceiving. Adopting is an alternative. Some donors work in the USA to help ladies that have an infertile husband.
@Emilycyf (61)
• China
26 Oct 09
Sigh, I have to say it's a awful thing. Since she had twins, it's unavoidable that there would be a permanet link between her children and her lover. Anyhow, she'd better to keep the children from be hurted because of this affair. Different culture leads to differnt reactions. I know a similare affair in some countries is intolerable to people, they think betrayal is a great shame and finally an affair like this usually brings on divorce.
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
Yes, her twins didn't do anything wrong. The man was wise to keep his wife even though she had betrayed him in an affair. My Lot has so many different nationalities. This couple that I am discussing an American.
@SuzyLong (775)
26 Oct 09
If she was bored of her husband, she should have left him instead of having as affair. She's very stupid indeed, I bet she had a lot of explaining to do when her hsband found out the kids weren't his.
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
The lady and her husband could have gone of vacation together and plan to see a specialist when they got home. Then the lady might not have wanted to have an affair. If she did leaving him would have been her best option.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
first of all, what she done is very terrible. cheating is very bad thing to do, even if she's bored with her husband, having an affair with some guy is not the only answer to her boredom, she should have said something to her husband of her "boredom" into their relationship and maybe they could work things out. upon the having pregnant and the husband being infertile, if they were trying and did not concieve at first, they should have gone to a specialist and found out. we do have so many options now in terms of medicine but in the end what she did is very wrong.
@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
Thanks for your wonderful response. Couples that are trying for a very long time to conceive can get stressed. In which case I suggest they go on vacation in order to get more relaxed. If that isn't possible taking an evening class together might help the couple share some special time together. Yes, the couple should have found a specialist.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
26 Oct 09
I think it was a stupid action for her to have an affair. She should have tried and worked things out with her husband to spice things up a little so she would not feel bored anymore. Things just took a bad turn when it turned out to be that her husband was nog fertile. So the best thing is to be honest from the start. If something is troubling you in your marriage talk about it, and take action together.
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
Thanks for your excellent response. Yes, clear communication in a marriage is very important. If a couple can talk about anything they will build a strong relationship.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Oct 09
she was definately silly to have the affair and IMO even more silly to ASSUME the babies were her husbands....thats a pretty bold and foolish assumption as far as I'm concerned..
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
The lady was so wrong to have had that affair. Just imagine her explaining to her children who their dad is. Thanks for your wonderful response.
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• Australia
26 Oct 09
You reap what you sow! She unfortunately has to pay the price for her own stupidity. Hopefully the children don't suffer due to her reckless and thoughtless decisions.
@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
26 Oct 09
I also think of her children in all of this. Thanks for your superb response.
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• China
27 Oct 09
Oh~I also don't know what to say .I sympathize with her husband .We cann't know how sad he woud be . But this affair had happened .The silly lady must make the decision what she really want .Do her best to get her husband to forgive so that she can rescue her marriage for her treason .Then the lady and her huaband could cope with the baby affair together....Anyway at that time ,this lady is responsible and can ease the pain in her husband heart somehow.
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@justmeh (189)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
yeah...i would absolutely agree to that. A question bothers me while I'm reading this,"WHY THE HELL DID SHE GET BORED?",I mean she's suppose to be happy cause you know being with the one you love makes you feel happy not bored even if he's infertile or what...cause acting like that is like giving an impression to the husband that you're not happy with him or your not contented.Just an opinion,i hope i made myself clear...
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
27 Oct 09
Certainly she had an affair and that is not right but how can you say her children were a mistake? Her husband is infertile and perhaps in a strange way this was the only way she could have babies. Having said that I can’t say that doing what she did is right she betrayed her husband but she was blessed with two precious babies. I hope that they are wanted and are brought up with better morals than those their mother displayed. I guess you can never say it is wrong when babies come into the world, just the circumstances.
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@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
27 Oct 09
She was really silly she thought she could eat her cake and have it
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• Philippines
27 Oct 09
she's a very silly lady. by having an affair is not good to everyone especillay if you are married. marriage is a commitment and everyone should give they full love and affection to their half. with this lady he should think twice and consider consequences. however, there are a lot of situations that may lead to have an affair like if your bored with your partner, no love, and maltreated or being abused. but like i said it should be work out first.
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@Camylo57 (86)
• India
26 Oct 09
Its really intriguing she was caught.People get away with it so easily at times.KARMA really struck her straight. She did what she did and it is sad that people resort to cheating knowing the effect they will have on others. Even in all this mess, hope the lives she has created won't be too badly spoiled. She should mend her ways by doing right to the children.
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• China
27 Oct 09
you must be mad if were you.
• China
27 Oct 09
you must be mad if were you!it doesn't sounds good!got pregnant made it even worse,your husband and your lover,which should be abandoned?lover or responsibility,it's hard to say,you must handle it rightly by yourself.fine,a nice day!