Divorce rate is increasing alarmingly all over the world.

India
October 26, 2009 1:07pm CST
What is the reason for this higher rate of divorce everywhere. Why do people get separated quickly these days? What should be done to save a marriage or a relationship? In India we never think of a separation. My grand parents enjoyed a happy married life for 77 years until death separated them. My parents lived happily for 66 years(death only could separate them) I am in a marriage for 27 years. But unfortunately even in India divorces and separations are increasing day by day. I am really worried about my next generations.....
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
i think why divorce is very alarming because of many reasons :first the respect to each other lost,if the couple know how to give respect to their relationship i think no one have into separation.secondly,if the couple have mutual understanding to understand what differences they have and how to overcome differences i think it is another factor that couples must have.third,couples should have continue the love and spice their relationship as much as possible this wont happen if they have all of the factors to make strong their relationship..
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• Mexico
27 Oct 09
Hi amyson: thanks for the advices to the future marriage. I think we can't change the whole society that has decide to treat marriage as a game but we can change the future generations. If the understand what a marriage is about, their responsabilities and the importance of love during the relationship (and that means that you have to work everyday on it) we could change today's problems on this subject.
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• India
27 Oct 09
Amyson, respecting the partner is very important in any relationship as you said rightly, thanks for the response.
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@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
hi guys yes your both right,we cannot change our society perception but we can make difference out of it.marriage should always have to tested with trials and other things just keep it strong as possible to marriage will last and make up to things that went wrong or lack of attention marriage i believe will save and last.have a good day..
@VVroom (258)
• Romania
27 Oct 09
I think the main thing is due to our mind programing for generations. We' ve been taught that we are individuals, separated one from each other and competing for surviving. Very convenient education for the ones who rule the world. Creating a worldwide bunch of sheeps was the target and the target was reached in the modern days. Once that enough people will understand there is no separation, that we are all one with the planet and the Universe, I am sure, different reasons will lead to marriage. And therefore, the divorces rate will decrease a lot.
@jugsjugs (13046)
26 Oct 09
I think that the reason why people are getting a divorce is that there are problems with money which in turn causes arguments.Also some people never get time to spend with each other as they are always working as well as always tired,so when they do see each other they are too tired to talk.Alot of people also get married too young or too quick and realise that they do not like married life or the person they have married.
• India
26 Oct 09
Yes, jugsjugs, money is the cause for many separations all over the world. Woman also goes to work- again that is for money. So root cause seems to be money in most cases.
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I think why people these days getting a divorce because of indifferences and money. Here in our country we don't have divorce only annulment. Because we believe that the family is the basic unit of the society so the law makers here don't agree with divorce. Even annulment is hard to grant you need valid evidence to prove it and the cost of filling it is very expensive. Married life is a serious matters and problems also arising with it. It is up to the couple how they can manage to solve every problems that they are facing.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hi vijayanths I fully agree with your vies , Really it is a great concern for our society. The rate of divorce is alarmingly increasing in manyfold . For this there are so many reasons behind it. In my opinion in earlier days in Indian scenario women were not so educated and they were kept within four walls. For these reasons they were being suppressed by male dominated society. But since last 10 yrs or so I am experiencing that the scenario has been reversed and every parents are giving best education to their girl child which is equivalent to boys or better than boys. Now a days women candidates are well aware about their status, rights and they are equally placed in good job. I think male dominated society of India can not accept this changes and this is the only reason for such mass divorce cases as male egoism is working behind all these. Being male candidate I think all male person should think it men & women are two pillars of the society which are equally working side by side. pkc3000
• India
28 Oct 09
Very very true pkc. i fully endorse your view. Very wll put. Sons and daughters should be taught to respect each other for a start. parents must not quarrel in front of their children. If a man demeans his wife in front of his son, what will he learn/ That his mother is someone who can be demeaned and this is applicable to his sister, girl-friends.......................... Total attitude must change. And perhaps it is up to us.
@mikeysmom (2094)
• United States
27 Oct 09
i think it is rising because life is so hard and people just grow apart simply trying to survive day to day with all the troubles and woes. some people can stay together and be happy but most cannot. what can be done about it? that i have no answer to.
• India
27 Oct 09
thanks for the response, mikeysmom. Some things are confusing as you said.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 09
It's hard to say what is the actual reason, that makes a marriage life ended-up in divorce or separation. Sometimes, it may due to financial problem or the trust in each other had gone. For some couples, even a little argument had lead them to decide to separate from each other and that's not the correct way. The best way is, if we are having any problem, try to discuss with each other first, before you decided to leap for the final way of separation. so, it's better to think twice before we are to take any action in our life....
• India
27 Oct 09
yes, myfb, communication is very important in any marriage to last long,thanks for the response.
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
yes its true..that divorce is increasing alarmingly all over the world.. i remember when i was 5yrs old..my mom and dad got divorced.. but..yes,i know..there isn't divorce in the our country.. but..in muslims right it can be.. divorcing for me is not fair for their children..like me, i dont know where world would i'd be belong right now..i dont know how to live my life like the normal ones.. i guess its because im incomplete..and its very awkward.. im not fun into somethings..because i do believe im totally incomplete!
• India
27 Oct 09
Yes, parshince, atleast for the sake of the children divorce should be avoided.thanks for the response.
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
27 Oct 09
Hi vijay Today the conditions are changing and the dimensions for the women as well as mens are also changing.today womens dint get looked upon and they dont keep quite. for happy married life mutual understanding.,love and trust for each other is very important.if both the partners are compromising than things get easy and the relation is saved.but now the inflated egoes of both the partners stop them for even apologizing and forgiving.
• India
27 Oct 09
Mutual understanding and trust are very important in any marriage as you rightly pointed out bluray, thanks for the response.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hello dear brother, This is really very alarming,even religious and conservative countries are going through this situation now. The naked truth about modernization,the advantages and disadvantages. The rapid increasing knowledge...and so with the imaginary things. Not even the tight tradition and cultures ,nor moral values could ever stopped to accept the freewill and broadening minds of young and adult of this modern time. So sad,that even the sacred vows and sanctity of compromises resulted to separation and divorce. Who are to be blame?...the technology?...the modernization?...the socio status? I think,this is a very well opinionated matter,a matter of individual acceptance...on how an individual person looks the free will and freedom they are achieving. I wish i can raise my kids with the moral values i kept myself from my old generation...to pass through next generation with God's help and guidance.
• India
27 Oct 09
Well sadi jaiho, You seem to know many things in life, nice. thanks for the response.
• Mexico
27 Oct 09
Hi vijayanths: i think this is because our societies don't take marriage as a serious issue. Now people thinks on marriage as a business i think that we can finish whenever we want. If you think about divorces nowadays, people just decide to finish a relation that was planned to be forever because of stupid discussions not as the older years when people considered that they must fight for the relationship. In my oppinion, divorce must exist but this might not be the first answer.
• India
27 Oct 09
Yes, starsilover, nowadays people take marriage lightly. thanks for the response.
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I think lack of understanding and respect to differences that is why many are deciding to end the relationship. My mother and father always fight and when they are fighting I am thinking why can they just separate from each other to avoid those fights, but I guess my parents still wants to end up with each other until they get old eventhough there are fights. Maybe they want to prove to us that marriage is not just a simple to vows to each other. It is a promise given to God that a couple will stay together through thick and thin. Just like your family.
• India
27 Oct 09
Understanding between the couple is very important as you rightly said grecychunny, thanks for the response.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I believe sometimes they rush into marriage to fast. I think maybe some do change after they get married, alot to the worst not agreeing on things. If they dated longer and waited a bit maybe it would worked out to the better.
• India
27 Oct 09
rushing into marriage is of course one of the reasons for the present trend, goldenteardrops, thanks for the response.
@ivbsav (194)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 09
this situation already predicted, when human increases, there's are social problem such like robbery,affair and other human right problem. The solution for all is everybody need to realize they're weak,need GOD.
• India
27 Oct 09
I do agree with you ivbsav, thanks for the response.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
27 Oct 09
New mind, new concept instilled to our new generation. We not only look for a marriage partner and having children simply. We also look into feelings between two persons, and the last long love, how we gonna maintain it forever. With all other factors to be considered. So, it is more complicated for our new concepts other than keeping two person together in a marriage.
• India
27 Oct 09
yes, clorissa the new concept is truly very much complicated, thanks for the response.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
26 Oct 09
Hi vijayanths, I agree that divorces are happening more and more often, and while sometimes it may be necessary it isn't always so. I think a lot of people enter marriage without being prepared for what's ahead of them. They spend a lot of money on a big celebration and are completely unprepared for day by day living after the excitement is over. I have never lived in India but my guess is that parents there prepare their children for marriage to a much greater extent that we do in the western world. Sometimes parents interfere after the marriage, trying to tell the young couple how to live their life, and this causes problems too. Sometimes I think most young people grow up expecting to be married more than once. People need to take their responsibilities more serious and be willing to talk through their problems. Blessings.
• India
27 Oct 09
Pose, though you have never lived in India you think very much like an Indian. I love your discussions, thanks for the response.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
26 Oct 09
....Hi vijayanths, My thoughts are that there is probably a correlation between the state of the world, economic conditions and the stress that people are under going. When people lose their jobs and money is short, people tend to want be free of any relationship that puts them in a stressful position. Others are just not geared to be in long term relationships and probably should have stayed single. Others just get tired of each other and split. A combination of all these things, I think, contribute to the high rate of divorce. Hopefully things will change for the better, but it's not likely, I am sorry to say. Take care.
• India
27 Oct 09
yes, artistry, it will not change for the better. thanks for the response.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
26 Oct 09
Hello Vijay. I think you used the key word to what makes a marriage last...happiness. If two people are content, respectful, and devoted to one another, any problem can usually be resolved. In other cases, such as my own, I stayed in a violent marriage for so long, and yes, numerous times we both tried to work on it. But the situation was too destructive to me, too dangerous, so I divorced, even after 3+ decades. I think when people are completely miserable in a marriage, or when a partner has been unfaithful or abusive, we divorce more often these days because it is easier to do than in years past. That and many women now have their own resources to live and survive or raise their children, even without a spouse. And likewise, a man will not feel obligated to stay with a woman who is in some way detrimental to him. However sad it is, divorce sometimes is the healthiest or most feasible solution. You are fortunate to come from a long line of "happy" and long marriages. My own parents were married 46 years, until my father passed away. And none of my grandparents had divorced either. Karen
• India
26 Oct 09
I do agree with you Karen that if the situation is too destructive you need to come out of the marriage as you rightly did. The lives of our grandparents were easier and their family life was secured. This change is inevitable, thought undesirable.
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@vutum6887 (119)
• India
28 Oct 09
The main reason is perhaps lack of understanding between each other. No one seems to let go of his or her ego and that is when love is crushed. There is bound to be some difference of opinion when 2 persons are together. But that should not create bitterness. Mutual respect and tolerance goes a long way to preserve the love and hence marriage. Excessive greed for materialistic pleasure is also a reason. This creates a sense of deprivation when compared to a more affluent couple and again .............
• India
27 Oct 09
yes man this is true today divorce rate increasing day by day.this becoz todays fast generation people each and every one care of theme self only and need to take care of others thats why divorce increasing. but we have to manage both each other(partner) and don't make such situation in your life.
@myadmin (25)
• India
27 Oct 09
hmmm....i dont know exactly whether the divorce rate is increasing in india too or not..but im sure that divorce is a bad thing...and i dont wnat we indians also starting divorcing for silly matters like americans