Who I need to choose as my partner?

China
October 27, 2009 4:34am CST
A marriage it's very important for a girl, which will affect her future life, and decided what the future life is, rich or poor life? I will marry this end of Chinese New Year, but I don't know whether my decision is right or not, because he don't have good economic family, and he only reply on himself to build up a new family for me. My parents discourage me to marry him, but he treats me very good though he doesn't have enough money let me live a rich life. Sometimes, I envy other girls who live a rich life, and she can buy anything what she want to buy, and she can do anything what she want to do, but I can't. Because I choose him, it's true, he didn't earn more money, so it's a difficult life. Mylotters, what do you think of the marriage, is it must on basis of the economic condition? Give me some suggestions.
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4 responses
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi Betty... what if you marry a guy who is so rich.... who never has time to spend for you, who never cares or loves you??? then what is the point in marrying him??? do you think his money alone will do for you??? presume he becomes poor within ten days of marrying him, you will simply leave him for he is poor??? you are feeling that the guy whom you love is poor and dependant on himself for money... then why cant you shoulder his burden??? so that you both can together bring up your family...you both can work and strive to become rich... your income can be made supplement. Marrying a guy for his wealth is mere idiotism i think...
• China
29 Oct 09
It is very true that the rich man won't have time to acompnay me when I want to go shopping, see relatives, travling etc. Maybe the rich man can give me much money, and I can buy anything what I want to do, but I won't be happy, because no one can't acompany me, I will be very lonely. Right, but for a unrich man, he will do more work and earn money with me together,then we will find the happiness from life. Er. thank you.
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
27 Oct 09
if u have really loved him then u wouldnt be thinking so much.ask for your selves if he is right for you coz it is u who is going spend rest of your life with him.always look for a person who can love you do not think whether he is rich r not.money is not permanent but a loved one lives forever with you.take a wise decision.
• China
28 Oct 09
Thank you for your suggestions, my friend. But my friends told me that the economic condition is the precondition for marriage, and they told me that the feeling can be bring up to be love, so I really don't know what my decision was.
@redhotpogo (4397)
• United States
27 Oct 09
If you marry for money you will never be truly happy. There has to be love. Real love, not learning to love. If you love someone even if they are poor, you will be rich.
• China
27 Oct 09
Thank you for your suggestions, I think I'm happy to choose my lover as my partner. but sometimes, my heart beat myself, because girl have her amour-propre, she would like to satisfy her require, but maybe like you said, I won't find my real happy. Love is the bridge of marriage.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 09
If you love him and you decided to marry him even though he is poor, then you have to determine not to bring up the subject or nag at him after wards. You are young now, and if you can be a supportive wife who knows he will end up successful one day. I've known friends who chose rich men, and end up hurt. Why ? because the guy knows he's rich and he can get other girls easily. He knows their spouse won't leave them because they are attached to his wealth. But I know lots of friends who started poor but worked their way up, and now are quite well off.