You get married as arranged by parents....
By rorisricha
@rorisricha (732)
India
October 27, 2009 6:14am CST
In the middle of your life your are going to meet one person whom you met in your life....actually you don't know that whether he/she loves you or not...both of you till then never expressed love for each other...somewhere in the middle both of you are going to break out about that both liked each other but never expressed.....they both together feel a lot for it but finally feel happy atleast came to know that they loved each other.....which they were in doubt.....but bad luck as one of there life has been already settled married....so can they continue as best friends...through out there life.....can they forget about there past love they had...and lead life?....
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10 responses
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Actually when I got married my parents did not like my husband they only tolerated him same goes with my second husband and I guy I went out with I saw him one day and my mother said there he is and I was glad I did not let them pick the one out for me and me and the first only gets along because of my kids.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I would rather die than be forced to marry someone that I did not love. If I cannot marry the man that I love, then I will not marry at all.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I have a cousin who is in an arranged marriage. He is half-Filipino, and I can tell that he and his wife do not really love each other. It is so clear. His wife is a beautiful woman, but my cousin, he isn't a looker if you know what I mean. They just don't seem like they belong together. Although his wife has been bring him out of his shell (he was extremely introverted before he met her), my whole family can see that they do not love each other, and that they probably never will.
Love cannot be learned, well, it could, but not like that. True love cannot be learned. If you are truly in love with a person, it is just there. You feel it from the moment you meet and talk with the person. You just know. Whatever you do with that person just feels right, as if you know that person is really the one for you.
My brother and his girlfriend were made for each other, too bad their love did not last long because my brother passed away, but wow were those two in love. I saw what true love was through my brother. He taught me what true love was. His girlfriend really brought out the best in him. My brother finally stopped being a player because of her, can you believe that? My brother was known as "God's Gift to Women", but when his true love came around, his girlfriend, he only wanted her. My brother told me that he loved her. I wanted cry when I heard it because it was so beautiful. All of the pictures I have of my brother and his girlfriend are such beautiful pictures. They have the most beautiful and genuine smiles. They are not forced smiles, they are so natural.
I have seen this in other people as well, people who are really truly in love. When people are in love, it is just there. You don't learn it, you just naturally have it. Thing is, you cannot really rush it, and you have to know who you are. Sometimes you have to go through a million people before you find the right one.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Here in my country arranged marriage is not exist anymore. We can choose who ever we love. I think arranged marriage sometimes is not successful. It is still practice in some countries especially in middle east and India. I think love can be learn but I prefer that I love the person.
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
hello rorisricha,
if they really love each other, then they will do everything to fight for their love. no matter what it takes, they should talk to their parents about their relationship. if their parents both agree, then no problem at all. but if one of them doesn't, at least they did something to save their love.
better, than did not even try. and because of this, maybe they are not really meant for each other. 
@rorisricha (732)
• India
28 Oct 09
They never expressed to each other and went of thinking that one day they will but either of them know....and how can they fight...mean while she gets married......can't dare to ask....that there friendship may get spoiled if he says know stupid thinking..this n that....waiting for each other coming forward....and missed there love life.....can they continue as best friends in there life......atleast knowing each others good and bad...if not together atleast can know each other and share there.....good and bad things in there further life....
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@rorisricha (732)
• India
28 Oct 09
sometimes nothing will be in our hands.......it happens....and we should suffer..
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
When I was in my teen age, I was arrange by my parents with someone. I have known the guy, because we are close friend and his family is our family friend too. Our parents wanted us to get married in time soon.
But I didn't agree with the idea, even if that guy is a close friend of mine. He is good looking and very good to me too. But still, it doesn't come up with my mind to end the friendship into marriage.
I make a move that my close friend and me will not end into a relationship that is deeper. He likes my friend. And so what I did, I was the one making a move for my close friend. Just close our parents agreement. Because we have both different likes and different world in the area of love.
At that time, I have a boyfriend too. So, things are really different.
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I will never ever let my parents or anyone decide who I will marry. It's a lifetime commitment and once you are at it, it's hard to go back anymore. You can force yourself to accept it but there will come a time that you will start wondering the What Ifs and it would be too late for you.
You shouldn't let anyone ruin your happiness for their own. Don't let yourself suffer for the rest of your life just because you didn't have the courage to fight for your freedom.
@Juli_angel (1063)
• Israel
27 Oct 09
even though I am against marriage altogether, arranges marriage is even worst- in my opinion. while the idea of marriage is that you choose someone to live with, when it's arranges the choice is taken away from you.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I doubt they could ever forget, secretly they'd be longing for each other, most especially because the marriage was arranged (they didn't choose the person they're with right now).
Tradition forms part of most nationalities and the traditions still holds true, but it doesn't mean that they would never come to love the person the parents chose for them, but it's difficult most especially if you've felt something for someone else before you got married and that neither one really did something to fight for the love because they respected their traditions and their parents' decisions.
It's sad really. But that's how life is and they can't do anything about it.
Though this is already a rare thing to have happened in the world, since most embrace the freedom to choose whoever you want to marry. Perhaps in given time, they wouldn't need to follow the same traditions.
But for those who did fall under such a tradition. It's not really torture, neither is it something to be sacrificed on. They truly respect their parents more than their desires, there's nothing wrong with that. But as to forgetting, I doubt it will pass that easily.
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
27 Oct 09
In my culture there is no arranged marriages, which im happy about often i believe that found love is better than created love. It is though during the older days seen in the higher society that the noble marry other nobles and so forth.
@legacyofkain92 (20)
• India
27 Oct 09
Sounds too harsh and impossible to manage. I'd never be able to have an arranged marriage. Love marriages are so much better if you ask me. Being forced to be with someone your not in love with isn't worth it. And being best friends with your love isn't quite worth it either. No way can I lead such a life.
