Are you afraid of being alone at you own house?

@jen20ixm (165)
Philippines
October 27, 2009 11:22am CST
My mother is with her brother and sister in a 2 hour drive from here, while my 3rd brother is his school tour, my 2nd brother in spending time with his girlfriend and 4th brother is at work, its almost 1:00 am here now at home im im all bored and mylottting, i got two dogs outside (who had recently bite some intruders) no worries of being intrude or something will happen bad. while im using my computer i turned on my dvd player so i have sound background. i hate to admit it but im starting to be afriad to be alone here now, for some reason i texted one of my brother to hurry to come home. maybe its just its my first time to be alone at night in the house. Have you ever felt being afraid just because you're the only one present at your house? pls. do share you opinion it will be greatly appreciated. thanks and happy mylotting!
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hello. Before when I was just a kid I used to be afraid of being along at home. But as turned into a teenager I started to experience some benefits of being alone at home. It's peaceful and I can do anything I want. I'm the King of the world. Haha. Don't be afraid. Or don't think of anything scary. Just enjoy there. Take advantage of myLot. :) shadow41
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
some benefits e? what would that be for you? hehe. well, im used to having some company, you know whenever i go to the living room, i see someone, everytime when i go to the kitchen, there my mother is, but now no one is here and im all alone. well i dont think scary things stuff like ghost or a white lady, nothing like that. it just im not used to be alone. yeah, im mylotting now, no one will annoy me to use the computer after me, hehehe
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@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hahaha. So that one benefit there. Nobody will disturb you. You can myLot all night long. Hehe. There's a lot you can do that you can't when there's somebody around. Privacy and freedom. Isn't it nice? :p shadow41
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
privancy and freedom is no question in our house, my mother us to be respect each one's privancy, we do have freedom but we also knows our limitations. i do mylotting at work, remember im working in a net cafe so, i can mylot 9 hours in one day. hehe
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• Philippines
27 Oct 09
No I am not afraid to stay alone at home... but yes sometimes my imagination goes wild also. Guess I am just scarring myself. The only thing that really scared me alot are intruders--they steal and kill.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah, they steal and kill, but nowadays they just dont steal and kill, they will raped if women is alone and present there like i am right now, now i get more afraid, hehe. but i do have two dogs who is dearly having me company now. i hope their teeth is sharp enough for intruders, hehe again.
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Oh I am sorry! Did I scare you more ... I did not mean it, really. Well it's good you have your dogs with you. Make them bark and bark so that the bad people will not even dare think of getting inside your house. Happy mylottingjen20ixm! It is nice to hear from you!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
well one of my dog is physcho (i think, hehe) he barks at everything that moves, like ants, imagine, how little ants is? he barks at them but wont hurt them. the wind blows the leaves of the plant, there he is, barking at them, the phone rings, he barks at them. im deaf at him barking in everthing that moves or all of a sudden have sounds (like my cellphone, my ipod) last time, me and my mother cried of laughing because there was this little snail at the kitchen, he barks at it and the snail moves, then he was so scared of it and hide other the computer table. i tried to push the snail towards him , he got even scarier. haha! the physcho dog got scare of a little cute snail. hehe
• Canada
28 Oct 09
Hm, I think I've only ever been alone would be when I was in college. And I was only by myself in the mornings or early in the afternoon and this would be because my parents would be at work and my brothers were at school. Since it's bright out and well, I'm not that young at that point, I didn't find it scary. I found it relaxing and peaceful. With other people home, there's all sorts of noise and whatnot going around that I don't like. The closest I've been to being on my own overnight was when I was in my early teens. I wasn't alone though; my younger brother was with me. My parents and older brother went to this retreat thing for the weekend and my brother and I were by ourselves. I don't think I was afraid at that time either. I thought it was going to be the best weekend ever! (And it was.) I stayed up way past my curfew, and even ordered some pizza with just me and my brother to eat (my parents prepared some meals for the weekend already, so weren't suppose to be eating pizza). It was awesome (^_^)
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah, but my situation is different i was all alone, you in other hand was with your brother, its different, you have some company while mine is 2 slobbery dogs, but it was fun having them inside, they were like my fans, they follow and winggle their tails everytime, so cute.. i've been with weekends without parent supervision but i have 3 brothers back then to protect me, but now, they are all grown up and all of them seems to have a different life now.
@rika999 (104)
• India
24 Nov 09
yes i am afraid of being alone
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Hi Jen. When I was young, yes, but I've lived alone for three years and actually, I love it! I'm no longer afraid to be alone in my apartment. It helps have other apartments/neighbors in the same building. But when I had a house in the country, I still didn't get scared being alone. I think perhaps we outgrow it as we age? Karen
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah, you're right we outgrow it as we age. but sometimes we think stuffs (robbers, intruders, maniacs, rapist), even older people get scared sometimes right? i know thinkingt that stuff is ridiculious and sounds funny, but we never know, right. jenny here thanks and happy mylotting
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• United States
29 Oct 09
Oh yes, strange or unfamiliar sounds, now those do scare me, or if someone is just lurking about in the parking lot of the apartment complex.
@mommaj (22894)
• United States
27 Oct 09
HEHE. At my age an intruder is just company that is lost. LOL You have nothing to worry about. It is harder if you are young. You are easily scared of being alone. I think your brother being home will give you comfort so maybe that will happen. I agree with the first answer. As you get older, there are so many benefits of being home alone, especially if you like loud music or having friends over.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah there are so many benefits of being alone yet there so many disadvatages of being alone also, like, you have to cook fo yourself, laundry your used clothes, i know you could hired a housekeeper or someone to do thouse things for you, but its different when the one you loved and cared like your mother to cook for you, right?
@malamar (784)
• Canada
27 Oct 09
Hi Jen and welcome! I live alone and have for a very long time, so fortunately for me, I am not afraid to be home alone. In fact, I like the peace and the solitute (and the cleanliness) of living alone. My time is mine to spend as I wish, and I do not have to concern myself with the comings and goings of others. I eat when I want, sleep when I want, and have the liberty of doing whatever I please, whenever I please.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah there is a lot of advantages of being lone, i know but dont you get lonely sometimes? when you felt like talking to someone, no one is there, i could write some disavantages also of being alone, but anyway, ur lucky to have a place on your own and do whatever pleases you. goodluck then and happy mylotting!
@malamar (784)
• Canada
28 Oct 09
LOL - No Jen, it is not lonely. I spend many hours every day around a lot of people, and believe me, by the time I get home, I am more than ready for some peace and quiet. Weekends are spent with family and friends, so once again, not much time to be lonely.
@offlimits (601)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Well, not really. I find it fun at times, though. Haha. I have always been alone since my parents are both working abroad and I have no siblings. I would say I am already used to it. The caretaker of our house would stay out every now and then, so that leaves me here alone. It only gets scary when you suddenly hear strange noises out of nowhere. Haha! Take care! :)
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
then your independent since then? how old are you? its nice that you can take care if yourself then, im 20 years old now, actually im near to being a twenty one years old, and i have no knowledge of cooking unless its ready to put in the stove (which luckyly my mother do when she left.) yeah i very aware of the noises around me, even though im watchin dvd and mylotting im still alert around me. thanks and happy mylotting!
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Yes I consider myself independent, although I stayed with my aunt for a while when I was in high school. I am 17 years old right now. I don't usually cook too because our caretaker does that. If there's no food then of course I take care of it myself, especially that I only go home during weekends. I stay in a dormitory near our school. Anyways, I think we should really learn how to cook by now, you think so? Haha. Take care! :)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I really don't get afraid when I am home alone unless I watch scary movies. If I expect someone to be home at a certain time and they do not arrive then I start getting afraid that something has happened to them. I live in a very safe town with a low crime rate and do not worry about many of the things others have to worry about. I find that if I am alone and keep busy the times goes by quickly but if I sit and dwell on something going wrong my mind will wander to no end. Hopefully your brother is home soon!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
how old are you? i do also watch scary movies but its not my thing to get afraid of that kind of stuff anymore, its just being alone in a big house all by youself while trying to be busy (the more i try to do stuff, the more time slowed for me) its almost 2:00 am now and no one is still home!. i do hope my brother is safe. my mother called every 15 minutes to check me, isnt she sweet? but its kinda annoying me now because im busy mylotting, when she call my connection goes off and i have to start all over again (writting, all will be gone when the connection goes off).
• United States
27 Oct 09
I am 28. Scary movies have always bothered me since I was little. I find that it allows my mind to think in a negative scary way and that is why I get scared. I still get nightmares from scary movies and tend to steer clear of them. It is wonderful that your mother is checking on you so often, she sounds very nice. I am sure your brother is safe, just running behind a little.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I don't mind being alone in the house. It can sometimes be a welcome opportunity for me to do some writing when I am alone.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah, i dont mind also, so my mother and brother can enjoy their evenings out with their friends. i also some invitations to go out like partys, friends hung out, but sometimes i dont feel like coming so i stayed at home. like last i was able to write good discussion and a lot replied, i was very happy.
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
when i was still in elementary grade, i'm afraid if i'm left alone eventhough i am in our own house. Those things that i have watched in the television especially those scary movie flashes back in my mind causing me to be afraid...but now i've grown already and the good news is that im already IN CHRIST! I'm saved now in Him..everytime i call on His name "O LORD JESUS!" all my doubts and fears are gone! He's name is not an ordinary name. His name is the name above all names! Its a powerful name even the evil power will flee away and will be subdued. Oh, what a name! He's name is His very person. try calling on HIs name with a believing heart that He is your LOrd! "O LORD JESUS!" [many times] you'll see...
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
i'll try that one, but im not really a religious person, i do believe in god and everything.
• United States
28 Oct 09
I actually enjoyed being home alone when I was younger. I could do what I wanted and it was just more peaceful. But part of this was to do with my relationship with my mother. I felt safer without her in the house than with her. Having said that if I was alone later at night I would often turn all the lights on - no dark corners! I'm fine on my own here in my apartment, get more done without the husband underfoot...I am sure many women relate!!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
poor you, why would you feel safer without you mother than her being with you? something wrong with her? did she do something wrong to you? i feel bad for you, my mother is very nurturing and caring to me and to all of my siblings, i'd feel safer when she around. i'd feel safer also with all the lights on but nowadays electricity cost too much so i rather let my dogs in than to turn them on. hehe
28 Oct 09
no. I used to. I was afraid of ghosts & scary things. That was when I was still a little girl. Now, I am not afraid of all that stuffs. I am more concerned of robbers.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
me too, robber and intruders.
• China
28 Oct 09
I am not afraid of being alone at home,if you have something to do it will go fast.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
but sometimes going things does not help at all. you do stuff and minutes later you get bored with it, we you leave it then you start worrying again, then again we go do things again, and again same setup then be back on worrying. hehe cirle of being alone in first time.
@lelin1123 (15643)
• Puerto Rico
28 Oct 09
Sure that happens I think to alot of people. Especially when you here noises in the house. I think its a little worse around Halloween though. I will be alone for 6 days in November and there is a part of me looking forward to it but not when nighttime falls. Thank goodness for my dog he is great at protecting me so that will be a source of comfort for me. Having your music on should surely help you in hearing things that you don't want too. Maybe you could put the TV on and watch a good comedy to distract you from being alone. Good luck to you!
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
yeah, i do own two dogs, even they not allowed to go inside, i'd still let them last night. its the only way for me to get calm. they are very sweet and protective of me, they follow wherever i go ( i dont know if i smell like a food, or they watching me) yeah, im watching two and half men (2 1/2 men series) while mylotting, so i have a background sound to relax me then my two loyal dogs to protect then mylot to earn extra bucks!
@LiveLove (445)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I can't say I feel fear when I am alone. I feel very calm, aware of my surroundings and I can get more work done. All actions flow into a endless stream of positive progressive energy. But I certainly can get tired since when I am alone, I have to do everything that pertains to the household including cooking, organization, and cleaning. But overall alone is just relaxation for me.
@stee09 (102)
• Ireland
27 Oct 09
Hey Jen, I have never really felt afraid being in a house alone. I lived in a house by myself for 6 months before my partner moved in with me. I do think it's more of a female thing to feel afraid being alone in a house simply because girls don't feel like they would be able to defend themselves if some one broke in as males would be more likely to attack an intruder. Thats just my opinion maybe there are some women that would attack but I haven't met any so far in life lol :)
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
i would not attack them but my dogs will, recently one of my dog bites an intruder, im very lucky to have them, i let my dogs in the house to keep me company, its nice to have them, they follow wherever i go in the house, even in the bathroom, they would bark and tried to go inside with me, i loved them dearly, i was thinking now to trained them to protect our family from intruders but i dont think we have that kind of school here for dogs.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
27 Oct 09
I used to be that way a long time ago. Right now I like being alone at home. I live in a gated community with my landlord in our apartment on the third floor. So there's not that much chance of intruders and my landlord is a supervisor, so to speak, so I'm alwways glad when he's out.
• United States
27 Oct 09
When I was younger I was afraid of being alone, but now that I'm old and grey I don't get afraid. Whatever you do, don't watch scary movies when you are alone at a young age, it makes you hear and see things that aren't there, you'll become even more afraid. I recommend being with someone else or talking to someone on the phone or watching a comedy or action movie on T.V., that should calm your nerves and keep you company.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
watching scary movies alone doesnt really scare me, im used to watching scary movie when i was a kid and my mother raised us not being afraid to that "kind of stuff" (ghost, white lady, so on and so forth) mostly, im afriad of being alone because its very lame and boring when your waiting for you to get sleepy, i tried to watch tv, listened to music but i ended up writing this post and i go mylotting. by the way, i'd let the dogs in to keep me company inside.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
27 Oct 09
It's just me and my Husband at home and there are times that he needs to travel for work for few days and I'll be alone in the house day and night. I'm not afraid to be by myself at home, but I try to keep myself busy, either I'm online or watching TV, I also try not to think scary things, specially if I'm about to go to bed. Just make sure every windows/doors at your house are locked and I hope your brother will be home soon.
@jen20ixm (165)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
how sad it is that you husband have to go travel for work and leave all alone there? do you have children to keep you company? i hope you have someone there, its hard being alone, right? and thanks, im too hoping my brother would come home soon, house is safe, doors and windows are locked and my 2 dogs are ready to bite if someone tries to go to front door while the back door is tightly locked with 4 locks!, hehe, im not really afraid of being alone here now, its just im used to have company always, when i go out, i have friends or my boyfriend with me, at work, i have my customer to keep me company, at home i have my family but now, its lame being alone.
• United States
28 Oct 09
Wow being afraid of being alone in your house.... Ding Ding Ding... You got my vote, its a horrible feeling fear is, it grips our souls, and refuses to let go, even if you manage to appease it. It always manages to come back to us. Im afraid of the silliest things like going down in my basement at night or going up into my attic and finding someone who ive never seen before sleeping there.. Its scary man, its a phobia that Im sure medical science has come up with a pill for, but overall we have to understand and accept the reasons why were afraid and then convince ourselves that everything is Ok. Its hard at first but with practice we can prevail.