Sharing Housework: Should a Working Husband Participate?

China
October 28, 2009 4:34am CST
Generally speaking, husband works hard all day outside the home and so wife often do the houseworks. However, more and more wives hold the idea that they should take some measures(such as a helpful reward system) to get their husbands to Help with housework. In their eyes, hunsbands have never fully realized how hard it is to work inside the home. Yes, for most wives, it would be wonderful if husband do the cooking and cleaning for them. Of course, many husbands have been pampered by their mothers and don't know when it is their time to do the cleaning, so they may give the wrong kind of help even if they try their best to help their wives. So, what is your opinion on sharing housework? Should a working husband participate? If your answer is YES, then why husbands should do housework?
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
28 Oct 09
I think that it is fine for a wife to do all the work at home if she is a home maker. If she is also working, the husband should share the work. I know that the husbands in our coutnry are not used to doing house work. They have never seen their father working at home. So, it will work better if we give the husband the chance to choose his choice of work at home. My husband is good at cleaning, but I am very poor at cleaning. So, he does most of the cleaning work at home. I help him with cleaning whenever I find time. He hates ironing clothes, so I do that. He is not fond of cleaning vessels, so it is mostly my job. He doesn't mind doing laundry. So, we share the laundry work. He is interested in cooking and same with me. So, both of us do equal amount of cooking.
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• United States
28 Oct 09
depends. if they're completely supporting me and i'm at home,i say no. support meaning with money i need to get household supplies and a few little things i need.then i see it as my job. however,they can still keep their stuff at least organized-i don't need tools scattered all over the house. if i'm working too,then they can help out.that's fair.
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@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 09
Dear getbrowser, I do not enforce anyone to do the house chores. As the modern world nowadays, both husband and wife are working. Normally at the weekend, they will share the work together. It is fun, helping each other, can finish the chores faster. Then, both of them can enjoy life together, relax and watch television. My husband will hand wash the clothes, and I will hang them out to dry. I will then fold the clothes and keep it in the wardrobe. Since we do not own any washing machine, this mutual understanding of sharing the work is automatically practiced.
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@derek_a (10902)
29 Oct 09
I work all day and my wife works all day, so we both share the housework. When I grew up my father didn't do housework because he was out at work all day, my mother's work was in the house, so she did that. Things are different now though with both partners working and I think it is only fair that if both share the financial commitments, then both should share the chores. - Derek
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@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
29 Oct 09
Yes times have changed. My parents were the same. My mother did not go back to work until we were all grown up. These days things are so expensive that it takes two incomes to pay things off. If both people work then it is necessary to share the chores or one person ends up worn out.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Husband should help their wife in household chores because now a days wives can't do all of the work in the house. Back in the old days men are pampered by their wives and mothers they never forced to help at home. My father don't help us in household chores even washing the dishes he don't do it right.
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
It depends upon the husbands if they want to help as most of them who are busy working the whole day want to rest while at home. Though when they are needed to help I think they will voluntarily do. During their day off however they do particular task at home that suited for men to do example fixing of anything that women can't do. They too enjoy participating working at home sometimes that not needed to obliged them.
@GardenGerty (101748)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I do not know where you live, but most wives in my country work. Even if they did not, both men and women live in a house, as do children, and the house is the responsibility of the people who live there.Men, women, and children. Personally, my husband is at home in the house much more than I am, I work twice as many hours per week as he does. He cooks very well, and loves to do it. He can clean things in the kitchen better than I do. My work outside of the home is active, hubby's is not.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I think if both of you are working a full time job, it should be whatever needs done. he should pitch in. He should always pick up after himself. We are not maids, but that just never seems to matter.
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
of course. i help my wife with the house hold chores and we have a a policy clean as you go. it helps us maintain the cleanliness of the house before i go to work i make sure our bedroom is clean and they will just go to sleep once they enter there. i work at nights so i make sure the bedroom is comfortable. i also run errands and i also clean and wash the things she used after cooking. i set the table as well.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I think being married also means that it is a partnership in the relationship. Husband and wife should help each other. Yes, I think husband should also do some household chores. I believe that it is part of the bonding moments among the couple. The husbands works for eight hours for five days but household work is 24/7. Now, if the husband cannot help in the chores then it is just rightful to hire a housemaid to help the wife. Then that case the husband doesn't need to help in the chores rather he just have to pay for the helper.
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@artistry (4154)
• United States
2 Nov 09
...Hi getbrowser, When two people get married, I thimk they should be willing to do whatever it is that will keep the relationship thriving. If both people work and are each contributing to the household budget, then both should be willing to share the other things such as grocery shopping, housework, caring for the kids if there are any, yard work. It should be a sharing to make it easier on both. Traditionally it has been the woman who does the housework, but it is great to see men willing to help out as well. Love to hear that a man is cooking dinner as well for the family. It adds to that man, does not take away, in my opinion. That he is strong enough in his manhood and secure enough to do what some would call a woman's job. Take care.
@artistry (4154)
• United States
2 Nov 09
...getbrowser, just to add, if the wife doesn't work, then they should talk it over and come to a mutual agreement about the housework. He could make sure the trash is taken out :o).
@ptrikha_2 (9631)
• India
26 Mar 10
Well, I favour preaching only what I practice. I am a working person. Still, I try to help my wife with the household chores. It is much more important now, since we have a 3.5 months old little daughter. Many a times, my daughter is only comforted by my wife(especially when she wakes up from deep sleep and no one but my wife only is able to comfort her). I might not be too perfect, yet I try to be cooperative.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Feb 10
Well, I wouldn't insist on the husband doing the cooking and cleaning if I was at home and he was working outside the home...unless he wanted to do it. But I do insist that he helps out by being considerate and putting things in the right place and reinforcing it in the children. Even when I was working outside the home, I was the one doing the cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. Sometimes it would get to me. Though I wouldn't insist that my husband does the chores, I would prefer him giving me a helping hand when necessary. There are certain days when things are real bad...and I would want my husband to help out on those days whichever way he can.
@nini89 (670)
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi ! friend it is believed that husbands works hard, but nowadays most the wives also works hard to run the housed. It is good to hear that husband cook and do house work and make the house work less burden on the wives. Sharing works with the wife if very good. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
When my husband was still in the country, I wouldn't compel him to share household works. He would just do wahtever work he likes. He would usually fix broken things at home. Now that he is abroad, I do things by myself.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Nov 09
Well it is only fair that the husband does his fair share of house work in an household where both parties are working as this will make the work load much lighter and prevent one party from being oevrloaded.I think the man and woman shoudl come together and decide how they will share the work load and what the man can do well .It may even require a crash course for the men as like you say many men were not groomed to do housework.It may also be a case where they may decide for the man to do the yard work like cleaning up the outdoors,the trimming of edges and cutting the yard .This must be considered as part of the housework too. In the instant where only one party is working then it must be understood that the party who stays at home should do most of the housework.It may even require that the woman may even have to learn how to do yard work.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
18 Nov 09
If both couples work yes. And if just the husband works then only sometimes. It is nice to give a break once in a while I guess. I personally work two jobs, my wife works none, and I still do most of the housework. But that is how it goes sometimes.
• Indonesia
13 Nov 09
a good husband is helping his wife clean up the housework,because the burden of his wife's work
• United States
11 Nov 09
If both spouses work outside the home, it seems only fair that both pitch in on the housework. Even when the wife stays at home, the husband shouldn't expected to be pampered and should at least pick up after himself or help when needed. That being said, the problem I ran into when my boyfriend and I lived together was that when he tried to help out, I would either tell him he was doing something wrong, or I'd go back and re-do it after he was finished. This isn't the right thing to do. If someone offers to help, let them do it their way. If you constantly criticize someone's efforts, it will discourge them and they will not want to help you anymore.
• China
9 Nov 09
interesting.housework is definitely not simple and light,if a husband can make out it,he will more respect the value of his wife's work,instead of regard it as worthless,which depresses the housewife .in addition,it's a kind of amusement to do housework together for a couple,which can also harmonize the relationship between them.