blunt or miss goody....who would you like better?

India
October 28, 2009 3:01pm CST
i just wonder that though personally i might like a straight forward but blunt person more but i may not be that comfortable talking at times.whereas the other person i know is fake and selfish yet potrays a miss goody image and can manage sweet talks nicely might keep me more entertained.so i might end up conversing more to the other one even if i don't trust her.is it okay? do you have any other view?
4 responses
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
Hi, Neo! I have known someone who always pretending to be nice when she was asking for help or some favors. My ex-colleagues and I noticed that she would talk so nicely and her voice would change, but when you asked something from her, she would give a thousand answers trying to avoid you and showed that it was a real burden to her. So, we don't need someone like that. It was indeed selfish and it just made us annoyed with her behavior as she was not being sincere. Being straightforward is good, but sometimes it can hurt other people's feelings, if we just met the person. So, I think we have to know when it's the right time to be outspoken, and it's better to keep quiet than to pretend! However, if you know the person much better, than it is not wrong to be blunt as most people will appreciate an honest opinion in order for them to make better decisions or steps.
• India
29 Oct 09
thanks for your post. i appreciate your practical approach.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
28 Oct 09
I would myself go for the blunt, honest person each time, even if what they said could occasionally be hurtful. At least I'd know where I stood all the time with such a person, whereas the one who's perhaps more pleasant on the surface, could actually be a nastier - possibly potentially dangerous? - person underneath the false and sugary facade. I used to have a male friend who's sadly no longer with us. He was blunt, forthright and extremely outspoken, but you always knew what he was thinking and at all times he was 100% honest about anything and everything. He was a very genuine guy who cared about his friends deeply, yet just hadn't learned a more tactful way of being honest.
• India
29 Oct 09
you are so correct.many a honest ones are less tactful thats what makes them suffer.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
28 Oct 09
A blunt person all the way. I'm not to find of a miss goody two shoes. They are too fake and phony for my liking.
• India
29 Oct 09
thanks for your post.one more vote added
• United States
28 Oct 09
I would definitely rather be with the honest person. I wouldn't want to spend time around someone that I don't trust. Then again, I am anything but fake. I don't think a person should try to be something that they aren't.
• India
28 Oct 09
i am glad to hear that.there goes one vote for the blunt straight forward ones besides mine..thanks for the post.