why men can't be father enough

October 28, 2009 7:50pm CST
well as what i have observed most fathers are not acting as like one. most of the fathers are cold hearted and don't treat kids as important like what mothers are doing. fathers are like strangers in the house.
5 responses
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
..hi.. father's are usually like that.. actually, men are like that not only fathers.. If you look around, you will discover that men are really not that close to children.. They don't show their emotions.. Of course they love children but they are not that attached.. In my own opinion, this is because it is already their nature.. we women or mothers are so much attached to our children.. we tend to show our emotions.. this is also one reason why children would prefer to approach their mothers if they have problems because they have a different attachment to them.. we usually think fathers are cold-hearted but for me they are not.. they just don't show their real emotions because they don't want us to think that they are weak.. for them, showing emotions will mean weakness.. We just have to understand them..
29 Oct 09
well thats a relief knowing that you also feel the same way about fathers.
@buping (954)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi again, i do not think the same way, fathers always love their kids in deep heart, but they do not like to express out, such as telling his kid that he loves him. fathers always to be strict to kids. one reason i think is there need a person in a family can be severe who made kids afraid of, so that the kid would think it about twice before he did something bad.
@Gongfuboy (132)
• China
29 Oct 09
I don't know how come it happen, for I haven't been a father at all. But I still can't agree with you either, what you said sounds a bit of radical and purely subjective. I can't deny the fact that quite a few of men acting as you said with their children, but I believe most of men love their children and protect them with their arms, men is rather busy and oppressive in this keener competitive world, they are always on the go so that they don't have much time to show their affections to children, maybe you should understand them.
@Craicha (801)
29 Oct 09
just like my X.......dnt act as father to his kids especially they are all boys, and what worse he don't act as father to them and he hit them especially if he hit on the head of my kids i hate it that i really fight with him to stand for my kids...thats the reason my kids hate him too...and now were very happy that his nah around.......!!!
• United States
29 Oct 09
Well, I am glad I do not have the same situation in my house. My husband is a wonderful, active father who shows his boys each and every day how much he loves them. I can't imagine it any other way really. I am sorry that you are not having such results where you are. Is it a cultural thing or is it a family thing? It is very sad to me when parents, mothers or fathers, do not step up and be good at it.