Is it more important to be kind then to be right?

@Pose123 (21671)
Canada
October 28, 2009 7:57pm CST
We all know people who always insist on being right no matter what the consequences.How do you feel about this, do you have to be right all the time? Do you think that it's necessary to be right all the time? Have you ever experienced a time when you felt it was better to be kind kind then to be right? I would enjoy hearing your stories.
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@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
29 Oct 09
It drives me crazy when people feel like they need to be right all of the time. Usually they are the ones that are unkind to people. They need to learn that it is human to be wrong sometimes.
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• China
29 Oct 09
i agree with you.people would make mistakes sometimes as the one isn't too serious,just be ok.because we are all the man but no the god.and the god also was wrong sometimes
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi shar, Thanks for commenting and I agree that too many people are like that. It depends of course on the context but it's always important to be kind. Blessings.
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
..sometimes, there are exceptions when you need to be kind rather than be right.. As they say, there is always an exception to the rule.. However, for me if possible, I would choose to be right more than being kind.. why? because in my experience, being kind had lead me to encourage people to do rely on exceptions.. I mean, for example, in the office. because I am a librarian there are rules that we have to follow just like when we lend books to our client.. It is stated in our rule that the client should have a valid ID and a borrower's card.. However, there were those who come to me and beg me to let them borrow books without their borrower's card because they need it badly.. I tried to be kind by lending them what they need.. later, they come back and do the same thin g again.. So I decided that if I adhere to the rules, our clients will also become responsible enough to bring the requirements in the library everytime they want to borrow a material..
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi raynejasper, Thank you for commenting and your example is a very good one. In your case, people are taking advantage of the rules and part of your job is to follow the rules. Sometimes being kind is to insist that people follow the rules. Blessings.
• Canada
29 Oct 09
As bad as it sounds, I'd rather be right. However, in being right, I am not going to be unkind about it. If i am right, I am going to illustrate my point in a kind, calm, and cool maner that will not intimidate or bully the other person. If I am wrong, i'll accept responsibility for being wrong, and let the other person know how they taught me to think differently. I know of way too many people who were right, but gave it up, because they didn't think they could express it while still being kind. I make it a point never to do that.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi danishcanadian, You make a very good point and you are being true to yourself. I think it has to depend on the circumstances, it is when you are putting the other person down that you are being unkind. Some people just give in to others because they are afraid of hurting their feeling but finding a way to set them straight without being unkind is always best. The next person may not be as tactful. To me being kind is very important, unfortunately there have been times when I wasn't as kind as I wish I'd been. Blessings.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
29 Oct 09
For those that choose right remember it all depends on you point of view and right is not written in stone, it is often a fleeting thing. Kindness one the other hand will still be in vogue.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi savypat, As usual very well said and thank you for sharing. Blessings.
@hotsummer (10304)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
i don't want to be right all the time any more. i used to be. now. though i may be right but i just respect the people's beliefs and opinions and decisions. and though i have the right in some situation to insist on what i think is right. i just give way for other people to do what they thing is right though it will not affect me in such a big way or negatively. as long as no one will be affected or harmed. sometimes i just let other people think i was wrong i just smile and let them do what they want. like my helper at home i just let them decide sometimes or do what they way though i know what is right if that will create a more harmonious relationship.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi hotsummer, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
It depends on the situations. But on first instance, I will rather be right that just merely kind. Because doing the right thing is our main obligation. But if things needs me to be kind and only to be kind, then I will. Even it is not the right thing to do. But the reason must really calls for it greatly.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi izathewzia, Good point, it may well depend on the situation. Thanks for your comment. Blessings
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
29 Oct 09
I think sometimes it is not important to be right. But It is always important to be kind, this is my stand, Pose, happy mylotting.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi vijayanths, Thank you sharing and I feel the same as you, it's always important to be kind. Blessings.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I think so, in situations where it comes down to do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy. There are ways to get the other person to see your point without forcing it down their throats in a "I'm right, you're wrong" type nature. If you speak to someone in a kind manner, validate their thoughts and explain your own kindly, not only have you shown a person your knowledge, you have made a friend.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi drknlvly, Thank you for sharing and your point is well taken. Be kind but alao be true to yourself. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
29 Oct 09
I think that nobody likes to admit that they are wrong. I feel that we need to be honest with ourselves and admit that we are not perfect ,and is okay to be wrong sometimes. Kindness can help us release a great deal of stress.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Hi Mirita, Thank you for your comment. I feel that it depends on the context in which one is speaking but being kind is always important. Blessings.