Mind your own business please...

@oasis_9 (833)
Philippines
October 28, 2009 8:19pm CST
This is very common among group of friends or in the work place when you are having a good conversation with a close friend when suddenly one of your co-worker, who you just didn't ask or invited to join your talk gives his own point of view or comment something. I would immediately do my "do i know you face" or think just mind your own business dude! your opinion's not needed. I just hate when people does that! Aren't they aware that its rude to invite yourself into one of the conversation your not included? Have you ever been on this kind of situation and how did you handle it?
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13 responses
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
You mean, do you talk openly with your friends like everybody can hear?? If yes, it seems like every co-worker in the office can join in the conversations. Normally, if I don't want to share my conversations with others, we will only talk among ourselves and that means no 'invited' comments are allowed. If somebody just comes in and gives his/her opinions, then, we just say, 'oh...' and will not proceed with the conversations. However, if I talk like everyone can hear, of course, some co-workers will join in like it is an open conversation. Sometimes, it can be funny. So, it really depends on the situation.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
nope we usually talked discreetly and still that person manage to but in on our private conversation just plain annoying really
@vandana7 (64693)
• India
29 Oct 09
I agree corrycrystal. It can be quite amusing. :)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 09
Oasis, if that's the case, yes, it will annoy me, too! It suddenly reminds me of someone from one of my past working places. My friends and I would sometimes have deep and private conversations at the staff cafeteria and there was this one guy from other department who would always eavesdrop and barge in our conversations! We always avoid sitting next to his table, but sometimes we have this thought that he could still listen to what we were saying as he would smile cynically at us! It was so irritating!!
@vandana7 (64693)
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi oasis, I hope I am not the uninvited opinionated person out here. . I agree such things occur. However, most of the time these people just want to belong, and do not have adequate self confidence. They may even have some problems such as they way they talks or walk or just any other problem. If they are being too voluble, in all probability they have something eating them. Hurting them will make matters worse for them, like they might wallow in self pity, or cry in front of boss. The right way is to be kind to them and include them in the group instead of isolating them. Soon they will be out with their actual problem which I am sure u all can collectively think of resolving. Even if u all cant, at least u all would have added an "ally forever". Oh! but it is not necessary to do all this. Just dont say M.Y.O.B. . That is enuf. :)
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Thanks a lot vandana7...i know its not cool to be rude but they just get the better of you sometimes and other times they just annoy you...
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Nicely said masterwit! They should find their own group where they truly belong. And not just join in on someone else's group...
• China
29 Oct 09
I dislike it too!It's awful that one guy invite himself into our conversation have anythings with him.It often happened to me."Mind your own business please",you know what made things worse,he still went in spite of my warn!I don't know how to do about that,it's bad,but I will not wreck a havoc!and go away,leave the mean guy!
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
They're just not worth it. Losing you temper especially at work can be very degrading.
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
With regard to your question, I was also trapped in similar situation, wherein I am in the middle of discussion to a friend then someone will just butt-in to the conversation. I will just say excuse me and will try to end the discussion, because I think it is not proper to just butt-in on a conversation or discussion.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
That's the most civil thing to do i guess...thanks airasheila for sharing your thoughts on this.
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Yes, This used to happen at work really frequently actually. Actually the girl in the cube next to me once listened to a entire conversation that I had with my husband, he was complaining that I was gaining weight, and she was really angry and told me my husband was a jerk, because I was not fat at all, and she didn't want me to become anorexic and all this stuff. Which was nice in a way because she was worried about me, but it was kind of rude that she was listening to my conversation and while my husband was being a jerk only I can say that out loud. LOL
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
There are some instances which make it hard for to tell them that they should mind their own business if they only mean well. But its just it she still listened to your private conversation which is really rude...
@23uday (2998)
• India
29 Oct 09
hi yes even i dont like some one who intervenes into my personal things without my permission.i dont like people who take over lenience and just poke their noses into my matter.i dont interfere into other's matters unless i am required to voice out my opinion and i value others privacy and personal space and i also expect the others to do the same or else just to mind their own business. have a great time
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
You can never go wrong if you follow the golden rule...don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you right? I think we will get along just fine 23uday
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Fortunately for me, where I work we are basically pretty close as a team and when these things happen it is easy to shrug it off. Just the same, there was a time when someone I am not particularly close to suddenly dropped in on a conversation I was having with one of my friends. I gave her a cold look and ignored her comment. It was good that she got the message and backe off or it would have been ugly because what she said was particularly nasty even though it was intended to sound like a joke.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Good for you that you were able to deal with your pest easily. Mine's just clueless if people like in on their conversation or not and still gives out advice where we don't want it.
@cjfoust (614)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Where I work we have a co-worker that does this quite often. She is always sticking her nose where it doesn't belong. She can hear just a bit of a conversation and before you know it, she is off discussing what she thought she was hearing with someone else. She is famous for making comments or walking into conversations and saying "oh what were you talking about?" One of my other co-workers and I do our best to ignore her. Anytime she asks about what we were discussing we either say "nothing important" or make up something quickly. I don't know how else to deal with it. She's been with the company for much longer than I have. How she has lasted so long, I will never know.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
:) I can't believe there's so many of them...and as if they can't feel that they are not welcome to the conversation so they just keeps on talking stuff. There's also this one particular person i know that keeps on making corny jokes that nobody laugh at just plainly annoys me!
@usemyname (640)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
It is indeed quite rude to eavesdrop on the conversation of other people and then butting in to their chitchat is even worse. In situations like these, I just ignore the person, let him know that his unwanted.
• India
29 Oct 09
Yes, I know the garrulous and gossipy types who are always interested in a good bit of gossip. Mind you, they are seldom there to give you any serious advise…they butt in only to satisfy their own dirty curiosity. What I usually do is mumble something like ‘oh we were discussing something personal’ and change the topic and if that person is still standing, we get up and change places.
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
M.Y.O.B. I hate this words..
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
That situation is annoying sometimes who will just directly intrude to your conversation that you never invited. I agree with you that you should tell him/her like that because it seems that person does not respect you.
@buping (954)
• China
29 Oct 09
hi oasis, i comepletely undderstand what you are saying. i really hate those people to join in my conversation without inviting. i have a roommate always intending to join my conversation with my friend. one tip for you, when you are chatting with your friend, the man uninvited join in your conversation, you keep quiet immediatly, so he knows that he is not welcome.:)