I Still Love Her....

India
October 29, 2009 12:55pm CST
I still lover her....Before 2-3 months she was also loving me...2yrs had passed for tht relatns,she also loved me...she had made many mistakes,mistakes like tht u cant forgive..but i forgiven her for each and evry mistkae and just stay beside her and i m still beside her.....She doesnt live in my city so we didnt talk much as she was at home..so i control my mind to stop thinking of her...and she studies in my city...so for internship she came before 2 days...when she came she messaged me and inform me..Today she and her room-mates called me for the party they arranged and went and we enjoyed....But i saw aftr so many days and i still love her....I dont want to tell her....i feel like crying.....It is very difficult for me...i jsut wish tht she comes with me....i really lover her so much....sheah!!I cant control my emotions..
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15 responses
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I believe that each one of us experience the same experience once in our lives. So don't worry, we feel you. If you still love the girl, and as you said, the feelings is mutual, why not give your relationship another chance? If you are convinced that something good will happen if you date each other again, why not take the chance? Forget the past! Live by the now!
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• India
31 Oct 09
Sometimes my mind will overcome wth this thought also...as just i replyed above the reason why i cant express my feelings and sometimes i thnk tht why i m hiding it...i m very confused,its like dilemma...
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@piya84 (2591)
• India
30 Oct 09
Hello there Been there once and best way to forgot your ex is to cut all contact with him her.It took me two years to overcome break up and forget my ex.From my experience i can say time is the only remedy on these things.And dont express your feelings to your ex.Peron should stay with you because they love and enjoy your company not because they feel pitty about you.Dont try to force her to come back by telling your emotions.Its just not going to work.You will get hurt more and more in the process.
• India
31 Oct 09
I think ur right...and tht`s y i m not expressing my feeling to her coz it may hurt me and also for her and it will become more difficult for us...
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• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Hello Drsunny21! If you love her still, tell her. I don't see anything wrong, you said you have forgiven her already. If the feeling is mutual then that is good. I guess she is not yet commited to anybody too, nothing is blocking your way. Go on and tell her. I think you are both mature now... I don't think she will do the same mistakes that she did before. If you don't act now... maybe tommorrow will be too late for you. Good luck!
• India
31 Oct 09
Thank you..you raise myheart-beat..:-)...I m afraid..
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• Philippines
31 Oct 09
There is nothing to be afraid of, Drsunny21! If you don't act now, nothing will happened. She was your girlfriend before so don't be shy anymore. Remember girls will never make a first move. You have to move boy!
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• Philippines
31 Oct 09
me and my wife we're separated for 4 years. because of some problems. but seeing our daughter grow and knowing that my daughter needs her mother. we talk as friends. but i realized that is still love her. i felt bad that there are things that happen to her while we we're separated. i felt very sorry for her and realized that if we we're together i can protect her.. i still love her very much.... that why when we we're getting out and talking. we still have the spark.. i dont know if i will still ask her come back or if we will just stay this way as friend.... sometimes we still do the thing we use to do when we we're together...
• India
31 Oct 09
Whtevr happen in the past never thnk abt it,jst go on wth ur future....I think not you but ur wife also still loves you and if you can sort everythng u both will be togehtr again and live happily...Good Luck
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@vincyk (198)
• China
30 Oct 09
It's really a dangerous when u love in sb so much.But if we fallen in love we have no choice,right?I think now you can consider your relationship between you and your girl rational and to confirm she really love you or not.If she often made mistakes which you can't bear then you'd better let your emotions cool down because in the world of love,we can't strained ourselve,and it's suffering.You choose to forget her now maybe can avoid the further hurts she will give to you.So considering it and then make your decision.Sometimes time can do anything for yor.Come on, man!
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• India
30 Oct 09
Yes Time Heals Everything....
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Sounds like you're madly in love with this girl brother, be careful though, as a man madly in love is easy to forgive and easily manipulated, i know i have been there, love blinded us, weaken us, rob us of our thoughts, just watch the pace brother otherwise you'll wind up earning heartache after heartache.
• India
30 Oct 09
Ya bro.i hve earned many heartaches and think there is still coming....so cant help it...I m prepared coz i cant cut off wth her...Thanks brother
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
My ex and I broke up barely four months ago because he did something that was really hard to forgive. He got another woman pregnant. When I decided that I was going to live my life without him, it was so hard. I felt like crying every single day. But then I got to thinking that I could never change what he did. I cannot control whatever it is that had already happened, I could only control wha I am going to do to make things better for myself. At the end of the day, happiness and moving on is a decision we make. We can be as happy and as miserable as we want so why choose to be sad because of something that wasn't even your fault in the first place. I know it's hard and I wish I could tell you that it will get better soon but that is not how the heart works. It heals really slow and even if it does heal over time, there will always be times that you can't help but feel the pain like it was just yesterday. But you have to understand that there is a good reason why you are not together. If somewhere down the road, you find each other and better suited for each other then be thankful. But if not, it is not a reason to stop living and being happy. A friend once told me that sometimes it is better to let go and let God. It's true. Let it go and put faith in God that He has a better plan for you. He always does... God bless...
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• India
30 Oct 09
Thanks and ur are very rght....And i had also left everythng on God....God always has a better plan than we think...May God decide tht he wants us together or not...I ll be happy in any decision....
@gongdong (24)
• China
30 Oct 09
I sorry to hear that.You must be very sad.From what you said,i know you love her in heart,but she does not ,it is a pity.I have been together with my girlfriend for about six years.You can feel what i have experenced.Love is a mystery thing,sometimes it make you feel happy,sometimes sad.My girlfriend love me deeply than i love her,and she always cry about what i have done.So now ,i am changing.I try my best to make her feel happy.As it to you,if you still love her,let her do some changes.
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• India
30 Oct 09
I just believe in one thing never hurt the person who loves you....and yes i hve let her wht ever she wants do...
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@sheng143 (55)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
That badly hurts. Loving someone that you thought she felt the same way. We are in the same situation. Before i was playing with my boyfriend for our first month relationship until time came that i love him back, but at that moment he felt the same way. Then after 6 months and 1 week his love for me was fading and now he's gone and left me behind. I was hanging and i thought i can't move on.
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• India
30 Oct 09
Yep tht`s hurts very badly....Jst be strong in any situatn and move on wth ur life happily if he/she is wth u or not....Coz of one person we cant be stop our life...
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• Australia
30 Oct 09
maybe you love her more than she like u, and in fact she is waiting for somone better than u, that is the truth. women usually give u minor excuses u cannot marry but her attitude is to refuse you and not marry u, it is awfully clear and obvious. u better retreat to the noral relationship otherwise the most heated is u.
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• India
30 Oct 09
It may be the reason...I m burnt now..:-)...
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@rsa101 (16193)
• Quezon City, Philippines
30 Oct 09
Does she know how you are feeling? I think you need to know if she still feels the same with you. If she is and you are willing to forgive and forget what has happened before then there is no stopping you from expressing your feelings for her. I think the only thing that stops you is yourself from expressing her. But you should weigh too that if you decide to reconcile with her there is a possibility that she may do it again with you since she knows you have a soft spot for her. So weigh things which is important with your life right now. Else you better move on with your life and find a new love for yourself.
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• India
30 Oct 09
I had expressed my feelings many times before also and now i dont want to do tht anymore if she understand my feeling and understand me thn she will realize....and how much i ll do???Thanks
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
30 Oct 09
I'm sorry that you feel so sad now.I believe you're madly in love.What you need to know is:does she feel the same or she's just treating you as a good friend?Religion might be a problem, but I believe that loving woman would accept your religion, you know.You said that at first she agreed to marry you.Why did she changed her mind?I don't want to seem rude, but don't let her manipulate you just because you're in love with her.True love doesn't end in two years.If she's not honest with you, then you would suffer even more being with her.
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• India
30 Oct 09
I told tht many time i hve forgiven her and tht was the reason tht she has lied me many times and she was not honest wth me....Still i forgive her....and yes ur rght i m suffering wth her but i love her...as i think of i would cut wth her...and just 2nd thought will come in my mind if i will be not there and if she needs me where she will go...
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@kykidd (6819)
• United States
29 Oct 09
It is really difficult when you lose someone that you love. And if it has been that long, and you are still staying in contact with each other, it makes me wonder if she doesn't still care about you as well. The fact that she text messaged you and told you about the party means that she does still care about you in some way or another. I wonder if in the long run you won't end up together. I think that if you care about someone when you are young and that even if you are apart in the beginning that maybe in the long run that you might end up being together. I know my sister and her husband were together when they were in high school. But he was a year older. He graduated and then joined the Air Force. They didn't see each other for the longest time. Probably about a year or so. Then when she graduated high school, a few months past and they got in contact again. They courted for a while, and then ended up getting married. They have been married for 28 years this December. So don't give up. You may end up together in the long run. Good luck to you!
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• India
29 Oct 09
Aftr passing 8-10 months we fall in love wth each other...and in the begining i asked her will she marrry me,and she told tht yes i want to marry you...but before few months ago she told me tht she cant marry me coz due to her parents,coz our religion are different.I told her let me talk one time to ur parents i will convince them,first she was saying yes and aftr tht she told no tht she cant..At tht time i didnt force her..I said ur free to take ur decision....and aftr tht she went her home and it was jst like over,i msg her and she also msg me but not like tht....I dont knw wht is going on but i love her so much...
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@Hatley (164469)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Oct 09
Drsunny21 I am wondering just how awful were her manny mistakes and if you really have forgiven her,or if she senses maybe you still have some mixed emotions. After two years it seem to me that the romance on her side seems a bit cooler now.Yet you still feel the same way towards. This is sad and I think she maybe just wants to be no more than a friend. I know you have much deeper feelings but I sort of sense you are going to get hurt more if you do not make a clean break, and just keep her as a friend. You deserve a woman who will love only you and not make a lot of mistakes.As the saying goes, she's just not into you. Maybe she is a coward and cannot bring herself to say she is no longer in love with you and just wants to be a friend. I wish you lots of luck as I know you are hurting but she just may not be the girl for you.
• India
1 Nov 09
May be ur rght....Thank u so much...I thnk ur few points are very true.
@manunulat (605)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
You should compose yourself and weigh things out. Love that had passed is no longer the same as it was. Given the situation. You sound like you are unable to move on from the past and she appears to have moved on. Yet, the situation that you have been invited by your her room-mates for the party and you have enjoyed may just be a compulsion. You seem to be a very emotional person, tied with the past because you were not focused on other relationships. If you love her, do not control yourself. Be focused on how you are going to communicate with her and determine if there is still some chance to work on a better relationship. You not acting will generate nothing. Do not control yourself to do nothing, you may regret it for the rest of your life...
• India
31 Oct 09
Ya i m very emotional person and i tried to get away from my past but as i saw her,evry moment flashed in my mind again....Thanks