How often do you get together with your siblings?

siblings - They look cute together now but will they be like this once they have their own family? There is a tendency to drift when one has their own family.
@allknowing (65010)
India
October 30, 2009 9:10am CST
One married there is a tendency to drift and one gets involve only with their nucleus family.How often do you interact with your siblings if all of you are married and have your own family. We hardly meet nor are we concerned about the welfare of the other although I could be an exception but when I feel others are not interestede I also tend to drift.
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@asweetie (1188)
• India
31 Oct 09
hi all knowing, I am not yet married so i donot know and i am sure it is not drifiting apart but then they have their own families and donot stay in same house , since having own families takes a lot of time and making house home and then the other siblings also get married and have their own families .. so it is usually they have to take time out to meet each other and so usually they dont get enough time but love still remains same.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
It is different when all are married. We are experiencing it. Each one is busy with their own little world compared what it used to be when we were single. There were so many gettogethers, parties, picnics and all that is history now. Even phone calls/emails are few and far between. Sad but true.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
There is a big difference when all are married. But there are some who still keep in touch. The other day my sis-in-law and her siblings (all married) got together without their respective families - just them!! I envy her.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
When I was 18 and next to me was 14 followed by 10 then 8 then 6....we lost our parents. After that we were taken one by one by our relatives, me and my siblings live separately. The youngest is now 21 and we are still apart in different islands of our country. We seldom see each other but with cellphone and internet as means of communication we exchange our thoughts.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
This response indeed is one of a kind and very touchy indeed. It would be nice if you collected your siblings'experiences and put them together in the form of a story. My good wishes are with you. Your situation as I see was not prompted by marriage but because of a different reason and yet you keep in touch. Commendable!
@Sreekala (22880)
• India
31 Oct 09
Hi We had a reunion in the year 2006 after that I never met my elder sister. We all are staying in different places and our vacation depends on our kids and the closure of their schools. I really don’t have any idea now when we can meet all together. We are keep talking on phone and exchanging photos that are the only option now. I really miss all of them.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
This is the way of life nowadays. Sad but true.
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
31 Oct 09
My siblings and I actually get together at least once a week now. We typically go and hang out at the bowling alley every Sunday. This is just something that we started to do again. Before, we hardly ever hung out with each other because my brothers were too busy with their relationships and jobs, my younger sister lived too far away, and I was also busy too. But we now all live in the same city and we've manage to fit this one activity into our schedule.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
You must have all planned to stay in the same city so that you could meet. Not many do it. I hope this will continue as this type of bonding is very rare
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I am the eldest of four children. My sister is the youngest. My sister and I are the only married siblings and we both have two children. We see each other and spend time together at least once a week, sometimes more. We also talk on the phone several times a week. My two brothers are a different story. I'm lucky if I see them once a month or at family gatherings.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
Something is better than nothing as is happening with most of us.
@dlr297 (5387)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I have 4 brothers and one sister, and we try to get together at least one time during the year. We are all married and all have grown children, and some still have younger children. We do not live close enough to each other to visit more. We speak on the phone all the time to keep up with each other.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
Hats off to you. This is rare specially when you have adult children who normally do not allow their parents to spend time with other than themselves.
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I'm married and have my own family with a kid. My sister is married too. But still we meet atleast once in a week. Her family comes to my home or we go to her place. we really have great fun and enjoy the day. I think I'm really lucky to have enough time to spend with my sister even after our marriage.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
I hope this continues but wonder what will happen when your kids become adults as they will not want to part with you as is happening in our family.
@JIMBOH (62)
30 Oct 09
Not very often. When I first moved out of my parents house I would often go back and visit with everyone. My brother and sister would do the same. Now it has been about 10 years since I have moved out I have my own family now and the visits are fewer and farther in between. My brother bought his first house about a year ago and I haven't even seen it yet. With a family of my own it is harder to find time besides holidays to go on road trips to other family members homes.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
Remembering good old days would be such a wonderful thing but I notice that is not given any value these days.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Now that I am already married I am more focus on my nuclear family. But most of the time my sibling will come to visit since all of them are all still single. I am the eldest among us then it was just me who is yet married. We still go girl bonding but ofcourse with my daughter.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
Come again once all you guys are married when you will have a different story to tell!!!
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I dont get together with my siblings or my mother for that matter...Ive not talked to my sister in about 10 yrs and my brother for about 3 or 4 yrs..Mother I only talk to by way of email very briefly 4 times a yr... BUT my dearest friends are more my family than my actual family and I get together with THEM as often as possible!
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
There is something similar in our family too. Sad but true.
@sandymay16 (1619)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
I have two younger brothers and one is already married and have a child. The two work and live away from home. My married brother comes home every weekend or holidays because his son is at home with me and my dad. My other brother comes home during special occasions like birthdays or his birthday and Christmas. Sometimes we go to their place of work for vacation or weekend bonding. My brothers live together in a rented apartment. As much as possible we find time, we even find time to meet with other relatives like in reunions.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
Once all are married there is bound to be a drift unless you guys are special and I hope you will be.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Since my brother is newly married but stays near the house, and most of my other siblings (and me too) aren't married, then I could say we eat together almost all the meals - due to the fact that my brother doesn't eat breakfast. Apart from his preferences, I could say we eat meals together with our parents every meal. I know sooner or later when we're all settled to our own families, we wouldn't have the same setup as we have now. But till then I am enjoying the feeling of having meals and luxury time together. And besides, I usually cook dinner and they always look forward to my new dishes, which is why we always eat dinner together.
@allknowing (65010)
• India
31 Oct 09
You can answer this question once again after all of you get married (lol) as there is a big difference laydee!!
@funkeyguhl (1743)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
When we were still all in our country, we do get to meet up a lot because we live in the same house. Even so, when my brother and I had relationships, there was a bit of gap there though I do try to make it up by waiting for him to come home and then we'd go for our small trips. Now, it's a bit complicated to do so because not everybody is in the same country anymore. However we try to see each other from time to time.
@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
It is really nice to be getting in touch with your siblings often, however, since they also have families of their own it is but practical to allow them to learn realities of life in their own practical ways.. in that manner they will manage to cope with the intricacies of life.