Trick or treating, do you agree with it?

October 31, 2009 8:39am CST
When I was growing up my parents totally disagreed with trick or treating and they would be horrified to know I take my kids now. They felt it was begging at peoples doorsteps, plus older people got frightened by knocks on the door in the dark. I have to agree they have very valid points. Especially when you get the teenages throwing eggs at peoples doorsteps it can ruin the fun. But I see halloween as a time to have fun, it is a great excuse to party and my kids thoroughly enjoy dressing up. When I take them trick or treating we only knock on doors of those we know and I always go with them to make sure they are safe and that no one gets scared or hurt. To me it is a bit of fun and so is it to every house on my street that has a family. I just wondered what everyones view on this was and if there are still people now that totally disagree with it and why?
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I've always enjoyed halloween both as a kid and as a mom. The eggs and toilet paper and pumpkin smashing are destructive, yes but you know that is what some will do and you kind of prepare for it. People really don't get frightened by the door knocking because they do know that it's Halloween and that's what happens....the ones that don't knock are probably the ones armed with eggs and toilet paper. It is fun and it's family time. I really don't understand those that are so against it. I know some have valid religious views but others I think are just being silly.
1 Nov 09
I think its ok except when kids do this to older people. They find it very intimidating.
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Knocking on the door? That is what they do on Halloween and these older people once did that also. I'm going by your original post still. I am guessing that you mean the toilet paper and eggs etc. I agree...it is wrong when they do it to older people or anyone for that matter. In the town where I work at a store, we were instructed for the week before Halloween to NOT sell any eggs, shaving cream or anyone more than one roll of toilet paper that looked to be under 18. It works....I had a couple of kids come in trying to by eggs and I told them....sorry. This morning there was not one incident of any of the above in town.
2 Nov 09
Thats a great idea and I think all retailers should adopt this approach in the week leading up to halloween. It wouldn't stop it all but I am sure it would reduce it by a huge amount. I think its the same with any event there are always a few that want to spoil the fun for the rest, I guess we just don't let them.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
31 Oct 09
I agreed on this point your parents mentioned about begging other peopple to grant you candies part. I don't have children yet, and I rarely go with my nephews to trick or treat, so I don't feel much pressure on it. But what I saw from my nephews face, he seems pretty exciting about this day, because he could dress up and go along with the neighbor kids to fool around.
31 Oct 09
We sort of have a rule in our neighbourhood. The kids only knock on the doors of those that have pumpkins out. I suppose in a way it could be seen as begging but I love to see the kids dressed up. I really don't mind them knocking on my door for candy. To me it is a bit of fun, an exciting night out for the kids
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I don't see it as begging either. I love to see the kids all dressed up. I really do enjoy seeing them all excited and knocking on the doors. They really don't care what you give them...most of them it's about the cool costumes and the thrill of just going around knocking on doors etc. It's just fun. Around here, we have a rule ...if you don't have candy...turn your outside light off and don't light pumpkins. If there is a pumpkin lit or an outside light on...should be safe to knock.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Personally, I never enjoyed Halloween, even as a child. As an adult, I feel Halloween is much like Christmas, as it's for the children to enjoy & have fun!!! I don't see it as children begging. I see it as adults giving fun to the children. Plus, it gives me a GOOD excuse to buy a bag of chocolate candy. If the children don't show up, it's my duty to make sure it doesn't go to waste!!!
31 Oct 09
My kids have come home with so much candy today I am going to have to help them eat it to stop them from being poorly!! We took my niece as well and they had such a laugh. Several houses near me are having halloween parties, we went to one ourselves last night as it is my nephews birthday as well. At least it sorts the sweets until Christmas. lol
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@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
31 Oct 09
I've got about 2 more hours before the kids even start to come. There aren't any kids on my street & most parents around here take their children to a church party or to the local hospital. They have an outdoor walkway set up with workers from the hospital dressed up & giving out candy. It's safer than having strangers give out candy to the kids!!! I don't get many trick or treaters.
@Wizzywig (7859)
31 Oct 09
I think it very much depends on the spirit in which its done. I dont think it holds the same image of good-natured fun over here as it does in USA. I do object to sullen teenagers banging on my door and looking down their noses as they're given sweets and lollipops rather than cash! Hey, if you're gonna do something that's intended as fun for kids, you accept kiddie treats! I dont like to see little kids wandering round the streets unsupervised either. However, when people have made an effort with their costumes and are polite I dont have a problem. I know people who object on religious grounds and they prefer to celebrate All Saints day instead & others who see it as just an American event. I do hate being pestered outside every supermarket by kids wanting a penny for the guy though...
31 Oct 09
I have got to agree with you, but for us it is a bit of fun for the kids. They are always supervised. And we only go to the neighbours we know enjoy the spirit of the evening as well.
@Wizzywig (7859)
31 Oct 09
Last year, my neighbour had her grandchildren staying and asked me in advance if I would mind them coming round. She stood at the gate and only let them go to houses of people that she knew. They were obviously having fun but were safe
@solared (1210)
• United States
1 Nov 09
It's only fun for those involved, all the others who don't celebrate are ridiculed and get egged and toilet papered and thats not right. If people don't want to give out candy then let them be, if I didn't have my gate closed and some teenage brats come up here and were about to egg me cause I wouldn't give out candy, then I'd egg the lil bas***** back believe it.
1 Nov 09
Thankfully the egg and toilet roll hasn't happened around my road yet, but that could be because everyone has treats.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
1 Nov 09
I think the little kids in the costumes trick-or-treating are cute. I just am not as big on the teenagers throwing fireworks/playing pranks. I'd be happy if they wore costumes and trick-or-treated as well.
1 Nov 09
We had some teenagers letting off fireworks at 2am in the morning last night. It work both me and my hubby up =(
@rodsdman (145)
• United States
31 Oct 09
It is a tradition as old as the hills. Granted it has been somewhat converted from its origional intent, but it give the kids and the adults something to look forward to this time of year, before we get into all the family holidays. It is a shame that throwing of eggs and Tping has also become a tradition, but the cops keep that to a minimum. I hope the tradition never goes away. If in this economy people dont want to supply candy to the whole neighborhood, then they can leave their light off.
31 Oct 09
I think sometimes older teenagers do spoil it for the younger ones sometimes. A couple of years a go there was a group of young children (9-11yr olds) that were trick or treating without supervision from their parents, as they were only going around their road, but some older kids came along and stole all their candy off them. Then you have the older ones throwing eggs. But my kids will always be with me so I hope they never have anything like that happen to them.
• United States
31 Oct 09
I do not see it as begging. I see it more like a giant celebration for the kids. And it does help some children that suffers from anxiety issues and meeting new people. They can be around unfamiliar people which does help those with phobias and since they are hiding behind costumes they can feel more at ease. And yes I do know that that does sound a little far-fetched but I do know this to be true. I don't really buy into the religious arguments of it as in today's world it is not a celebration of the unholy or wicked or any other dogma associated with it. Nowadays it is a celebratory event for children, much like Christmas has become. If there is a reason to dislike it, I feel that it is the exploitation of children, much like what Christmas has become. And really, upon thinking about it more, I do not believe the words trick or treat is anything like the words please give me something. If a person felt that it was just for begging kids then they do have a choice on whether they participate in Halloween or not.
31 Oct 09
I completely agree with you on all points. I celebrate it for the children. They love all of it, from baking spooky biscuits/cakes, carving the pumpkin and going trick or treating. My kids do not see it as evil or unholy at all. To be honest they wouldn't even associate halloween with religion. I think the fact my parents were very strict Catholics probably has a strong reasoning behind their dislike to the whole halloween event.
• Boston, Massachusetts
1 Nov 09
I never thought of asking myself if i believe or not that Halloween's trick or treat thing? let me think now... i don't believe this but since this is being commercially observed or practiced i just let the event flow and enjoy it with my kids.
• Indonesia
1 Nov 09
The good thing is, you got the candies. :)
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
1 Nov 09
I think it is all about having fun and having a great time. it is good that you keep your kids save
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
1 Nov 09
Halloween these days it nothing more than a bit of fun for the kids. Trick or treating, dressing up maybe staying up a bit later than usual.