What will you do in this situation?

@andy555 (216)
China
November 1, 2009 3:16am CST
You have been working for a boss, who is kind to you and but cannot give you more salary. You consider this boss a friend but only get $600 a month. Another compnay would like to offer $1000 to employ you. You are young, you have to prepare some money to buy a house, get married, and maybe support your parents who are old and have no income. Just share your choice if in this situation: stay in the old one or leave for a higher income?
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65 responses
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
I think the wise decision is that if the company surely hired you and give you more than your current jobs. Be a practical enough and accept the offer but let your friend boss to know about it and said how much they offer and you more because you have plan in the future...so that if he knows about your future plan give the same salary. You stick for your friend but not go to a good offer that you know will help you a lot in the future...I hope my suggestion and views will help a little to make a wise decision in this situation...have a nice day!
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks! After i chat with my freind, he told me just think obout the offer because it is to good to be ttrue. He knows my ability and he told me that i am not worth that money now. If I leave now i will probably be cheated. ASnd in fact i know little about that company, so i will take his advice and stay with him for a long time to sharp myself to prepare for a better rise in the future. Thans again!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
You did the right thing, my friend. As I said before just first to your friend boss to let it know your plan. So I guess he is increasing your salary now?
@andy555 (216)
• China
12 Nov 09
LOL. he hasn't, but has promised with the recovery of the business.
@RawBill1 (8542)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Nov 09
I would go for the extra money myself. If the current boss is a friend then they will surely understand the need for the extra income! They will hopefully leave the door open for you to return if it does not work out too!
• United States
2 Nov 09
A boss would be foolish to leave the door open for an employee to come back. He needs the work done and is not a charity for misplaced employees. If he can afford it, he should and will replace the employee asap.
@RawBill1 (8542)
• Gold Coast, Australia
3 Nov 09
Sorry, I did not mean that the company should struggle without a worker just to keep the door open. It depends on the size of the company of course, but some businesses have fluctuating numbers of workers all the time. When I left my last job I was told that I could return at any time if I ever needed to. This has now been more than 3 years and I could still walk back in there now and start work again if I wanted to because I had a very good relationship with the boss and the other staff.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
How i wish you were my boss!
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Nov 09
My husband and I aren't in this situation right yet. We don't have bills to pay so don't need to worry about our income except for when it comes to our wants, savings and bit of practice budgeting that my husband's mother is helping us with. However, if this situation was to arise when we did have major bills to pay I would most likely try to seek another side job a long with the job that I've made a friend out of the boss. I would maybe work on mylot more, or sale some things, maybe brush up on html and sale websites etc. I wouldn't want to jepordize the friendship. Right now my husband and I are secure with what we have, we will be in the future as we plan to implement many ideas we have, though I know even with the most amount of money bumps in the road can occur and unexpected bills can show up such as for a broken down car. My husband is the only child of my husband's parents, though his father has another child with another woman. The other child won't be getting the house most likely so we would have to deal with that, and possibly my mother's if my sister doesn't take it over... Neither of us want our parents to go to a nursing home so we would do our darndest to make sure that our parents are comfortable in their own home. Since we will be living behind my husband's parents this task will be easier with his parents then with mine.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks a lot! I am very happy to hear that you don't have tyo worry about the income now and for ever not because you are so rich but becxuase you are contend with your present and happy life! I admire you so much! And i believe that you will live a happier and fruitful life in the future!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Planning is really key, I believe that's all their is to it. Of course we can't plan everything as we don't know of all the bumps in the road but being prepared for possible bumps in the road, to me, is just the same as knowing they would occur in the first place! Thanks so much for commenting back to me, I enjoy our little chat!
@andy555 (216)
• China
12 Nov 09
Me too! Nice to meet you here ! Happy every day!
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
Honestly andy555, I will accept the $1000 a month job offer. I am sure that your present boss whom you also considered your friend will be matured enough to understand your reasons and situation. We all work for livelihood. That is our main purpose why we are working. Just do your work well with your present job and don't leave them hanging. Turn over your work properly to the person who will replace you. Have everything written as well. Advice your present job about your plans 1 month ahead to give them enough time to look for your replacement. Assure them that incase there will be questions or confusions on the work you left they can always contact you for clarifications. I think that is fair enough andy555. Best luck! PS: Opportunity knocks only once... so better grab it. Don't waste your chance.
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
I agree with ripstack. That cameraderie is good, but you cannot use that as payment for your housing loan amortization, food, and all... Friendship can be shown in many ways. You can still be good friends without that employee-employer relationship. GO! Go! Go! andy555
@andy555 (216)
• China
3 Nov 09
Thank you so much for your good advice and precious time! You are such a considerate man. You know hjow to deal with a tough question! I hope to learn more from you.
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
No problem andy555! Sure, it will be my pleasure to participate in your other discussions. It is nice to help and be appreciated.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
4 Nov 09
At first glance I say, go for the money. Friendship and business are different. If he is your friend, he will still be your friend. Business is what you live on, and you cannot afford to do otherwise. Be sure you check everything though. For example, if your friend only pays 600 but also provides insurance, wehre the higher paying job does not, then you may want to stay. Also, if the new job looks fly-by-night, you might want to stay with the job that is more secure. 1000 a month is no good if you are looking for work a month from now. If you decide to move, make sure you give your boos plenty of notice. Insist on giving a two week notice before changing. This is only fair to the one you are leaving, so he can replace you and have your help training a new person if needed. The new job should accept that as fair. If they don't, then maybe you don't want to work for them after all. You will be giving them the same courtesy if you ever move from them to a new job, so fair is fair.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks a lot for your perfect suggestion and your precious time! I have made the choice. I talked it with my boss and he suggested that i should know more about the company before i made the decision. The company offered so high whihc is beyong my capability, it is certainly a trap. So i take his advice.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I'm glad it worked out for you! I have been approached by companies who praise me highly and offer me the moon if I will just "come right now". It always makes me suspicious of them. If they have scruples, they would not be trying to lure people away like that. It's almost like somebody going after your husband, you know? some things should be off limits.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
3 Nov 09
I would say family first job is second. You can explain the situation to your persent employer. Im sure he will see whats up. If you have developed friendships at that job you can still maintain them.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks. I have made the choice about this problem and i chose to stay here.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Im glad you came up with a solution for your problems. Blessings to you!!!
@indybaty (373)
• Panama
3 Nov 09
It depends on the kind of person you may be. Some people feel compaled to be faithful to the boss who cant raise your salary just because the boss is kind and because you probably have been working for a while.. while the others would pick a higher income job. So, its really what you know, vs with what is new. I actually know some people who left jobs that they liked for bigger income jobs that they ended up hating. Only stayed there for 5 or 6 months and returned to their prior job. It never happened like that to me. Once I left my prior job I went with another one, and since they keep raising the salaries to avoid situations like that, I´ve never had that problem.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Yes, maybe only i can made the last choice and i have done it now. I will stay here! Thanks! I am, very happy to hear that you will not get caught in this kind of situation. You must be a capable person. Wish you happy!
@indybaty (373)
• Panama
9 Nov 09
Thank you very much!. You welcome!, I hope that everything turns out for the best!
@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
2 Nov 09
This is just me but I would stay where I'm at. I tend to be overly loyal and I'd be wondering what if it doesn't work out...and you can't go back to your old job? I mean it sounds like you're happy where you're at-if you ask me..that's all that counts. Money isn't everything-it pays the bills true...but it sure isn't the same if you hate your job.
• United States
2 Nov 09
I was always super loyal, too, but after two years of me doing the jobs of office administrator, and standing in for the boss when he was on vacation, or helping maintenance or housekeeping or the rental department because I believe each employee is responsible for the whole business not just one job, my boss asked me to resign when my husband got ill. He had often said he was my friend, but although I took only half a day off when my husband had FIVE heart bypasses, he decided I MIGHT be out too much. Bosses cannot afford to be friends and anyone who thinks they have a friend in their boss is wrong. He may be friendly, but not a friend...he cannot afford to.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
How terrible to hear thay ypur friend, regarded by you as one, could do this to reward your loyality! And at the ssame time i know just as RachelleNH said, money is not everything, there is much, for example, happiness in job to be taken into consideration while changing a job. It really hard to decide and time is up.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
2 Nov 09
Hi andy555, Do you even have to think about this one, its a no brainer. Leave for the higher income. If he is a friend he will understand and wish you well and still be a friend. I am sure he would leave for a higher income if the chance arose. Go for it and good luck
@andy555 (216)
• China
5 Nov 09
Yes, maybe a good freind often thinks about others and will support his/her right choice.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
7 Nov 09
Yes a good friend will always support you no matter what.
• India
12 Nov 09
Boss Angry to his employee Asking for a raise - Hello Everyone 
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who has asked for some raise in his small paycheck
The boss becomes irritated and reacts badly by insulting the employee.
Hello andy555 I think you should stay at the current job because your boss is your friend and he needs people like you. It can be very hard to find a friend in your boss.If his company is not big you should use your valuable skills and try to make the company big if you trust yourself . You should do something to help your boss/friend pay you more. Be satisfied in what you already have with you. Good luck. Happy mylotting.
@andy555 (216)
• China
12 Nov 09
Thanks!I have decided to stay here after having a discussion with my boss about the situation. He helped me analyzed the situation and i believed what he said is true so i determined to stay here with him to work hard to make our career boost.Thank you again for your suggestion! Wish you happy!
@jemaries (322)
• Saudi Arabia
11 Nov 09
well! for me think practical what you are looking for is to have high salary not his kindness,everyone is looking to have salary specially this days, if he cannot give big salary find another jobs, the best thing you can there are lot of big companies hiring.
@andy555 (216)
• China
12 Nov 09
Thanks, but i often hear that we are often thinking of the things we don't have or we want but meanwhile we miss or neglect the beautiful things we have and will regret when we lose them. Don't you think so?
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
400 hundred dollars is a big difference, if you resign I'm sure your boss will understand. I don't think resigning would ruin your friendship either since you're just being practical and realistic. Cheers!
@andy555 (216)
• China
12 Nov 09
Thanks for encouring me! I have made the last choice! Thanks again!
• United States
3 Nov 09
I think I'd do some research before making a decision I might later regret. What is the history and reputation of both companies? Is the new company a flash in the pan or does it appear it's a company that's going somewhere? Has the old company out lived its usefulness? Do you like the job you're doing now? Are you sure you'll like the job you'll be doing at the other company? Can you work comfortably with either company's employees? Don't make a decision based on salary only. Enjoying your job is so much more important.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
You arew definitely ritht. I had a chat with my boss about it, and my boss told me that if someone who is a strange offers you a positon or income that is beyond your capability, you should conside it better becuse it may be a trap. I take his advice because i know little about this company except the salary.
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
3 Nov 09
I would leave for the higher income. Be gracious to your current boss as to not burn the bridge, but you need to do what's best for yourself. If the boss is truly a friend, they will understand. Sometimes it doesn't matter how much you like a person, it's just time to embark on separate paths. Good luck to you!
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks for your suggewstion! I havew made the choice after haivng a chat with my boss, i chose to stay here to work together. Have a nice day!
• China
3 Nov 09
i just think u stay in a place, or for a job, there must be a most important reason for it. such as for the money, or for the environment, or for the boss' kindness, or for the future there, etc. after careful thinking, i believe then u can decide how to choose it.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks! I have know how to do! I choose to stay with my friend.
@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
It all depends. It seems youre still young, I suggest that you stay at least two years in a company and look for another. It is not good for someone to change work every other month or even every six months. It is not always the pay that you have to look for when looking for a job. The environment is one, the people you work with, human relationship is one thing you must always consider.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Good suggestion! I have solved this problem. I will stay with my friend and learn more to promote my skills to be confident enough to get a better job. And i will try best to help my friend to boost his business to make more profit. In that case, i thinkj my friend will give me a rise in salary and position. Thanks and have a nice day!
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
3 Nov 09
I would take the job with the company that if offering $1000. I am young and the extra money will come in handy for the future and helping out my parents. I would hate to quit my old job as my boss is a friend but I would have to think of myself and family first.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks for your suggestion! I have now known how to do. I have had a talk with my boss and he told me how to make a choice, just making sure that everything is certain and not be a victim. I take his advice. Thanks for your suggestion!
@haiershen (1084)
• China
3 Nov 09
if i were you, i would like to considered more, and only the salaries. i would like to have a talk with my boss who is very kindly person,so if this chance which was gave by his real friends, the boss will be think clearly in your side and give you a good suggestion.such as if this is a good chance for you,he will give you support,and told you to go ahead,if not,considered you situation, he will give you help or others.i think communication is a good way to solve those problem,it is better than jump job behind you boss to his friend's company.good luck and have a nice day!
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
In fact, he told me i should consider more except salary. It is difficult to get a job so when someone, who is a strange, promose to offer you somethng that is beyong your ability, just thijnk it over. Maybe i will take his advice.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
3 Nov 09
Whatever the friendship, I think I would think of the future and go to the other company, if friendship is strong enough then he will surely understand, infact he must also recommend that advise....
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Thanks for you advice. I wish i would be as dertimined as you.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
just the fact that you're doubting in staying in your job means that your relationship with your good boss is in jeopardy and it would only take time for the relationship to be affected due to monetary reasons. proof to that is you're asking whether you should stay or you should go. true frienships withstand the test of time so they say. so much so that true kindness doesn't go away.
@andy555 (216)
• China
9 Nov 09
Sometimes you know that conscience will be lost in a hard situation.