Suggestions needed, please!

United States
November 2, 2009 8:03am CST
Friends, I've arrived at a total dilemma! My closest friend has a birthday coming in a couple of weeks, and I can't think of a thing to show her that I llove and cherish our friendship. She lives a little over 1,000 miles from me, and I can't afford a trip to visit. Can anyone suggest something absolutely fabulous, but affordable? She's worth the world, but I can't afford all that muc! Thanks in advance! Joanne
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@1anurag1 (3581)
• India
2 Nov 09
I can have one immagination here. do one thing. make a video of yours saying him something good for her and may be sing for her if you can. wrap that cd along with a beautiful card , a small sculpture and those must be sent to her with some beautiful flowers..
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• United States
2 Nov 09
Wow! You thought of some wonderful things. However, I like her too much to make her try to tolerate my singing!
@1anurag1 (3581)
• India
3 Nov 09
haha... you are like me i think any way there must be some improvement. you dont need to sing. what you can do here you can play a number for her in background which just tells your emmotions. i think that can be a gift for her forever. when ever she want to remember you she can see that. goodluck
• Canada
2 Nov 09
Send a birthday card and maybe a gift certificate for her favorite store or resturant I think she would really like that it really shows her that you are thinking of her.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Great suggestion!
• United States
2 Nov 09
Well this is what comes to my mind. Make her a card and buy a gift card for whereever she currently lives and put that in your homemade card. Really I feel that most people cherish something homemade more than an item you buy from the store. Also without knowing her likes and dislikes it is hard to say product wise what she would enjoy. However if she likes to bake a pan or something of that sort would be a great idea as well. Hope this helps and happy mylotting to you. Please let us know what you pick as well :)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Thanks! Good suggestion!
• United States
2 Nov 09
Sending a card sometimes means the world sometimes to people. Sometimes just sending a gift card to her favorite retail store or to a restaurant makes a wonderful and affordable gift. Something little can mean a whole lot to someone. Sending anything is wonderful because they know you are thinking about them and sending something means you care for them. You don't have to send something expensive or even something nice but just sending one little thing can make a friendship grow and be stronger.
• United States
2 Nov 09
Thanks for a very wise response!
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
2 Nov 09
Hi Jo, There is always some type of Silver jewelry like a necklace or bracelet that she can wear and think of you everyday. But my very Best Friend in Ca. means everything to me. When She moved away, I found this little book that expressed in words and pictures what we were and so many of the things we did and shared. She treasures it and it reminds here of me and the years we knew and shared with each other. I'm afraid that is all I can think of at this time. Big Hugss!! Leenie
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• United States
2 Nov 09
Wonderful! XOXO
• China
12 Nov 09
Hey, Joanna, haven't come over her for long, how u doing? when do americans start to use XOXO frequently...? Since the show Gossip Gilr?
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Hi bill, Welcome to mylot. You asked about our use of xoxo. The fact is, it has been part of our cultural abbreviations for as long as I can remember and I'm soon to be 60 yrs. old. Why do you ask?
@chertsy (3817)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Only thing I can say is find out what she likes to collect, or uses a lot and go from there. If she likes to bake, you can easily make cookie mix in a jar, then put a cute ribbon around it. You can make a gift basket of the things she likes. Just look around for a basket, doesn't matter what size. Then just fill it up with small things like nail polish, lip gloss, etc, put a ribbon on it and mail it to her. If she likes music, you can make a cd of her favorite songs.
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• United States
25 Nov 09
Thanks!
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@chertsy (3817)
• United States
25 Nov 09
Your welcome.
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Does she have a collection of any kind or a favorite animal, flower, entertainer? My family and friends know I love butterfly's and Elvis. They can get me something small of either and I get so excited. A music cd isn't real expensive so that's another thought. What always works for me is to give gift cards. Maybe she has a favorite restaurant where you can buy a gift card for her.
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• United States
5 Nov 09
Thanks, Carolbee! I'm making her a sterling charm bracelet...
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
5 Nov 09
A bracelet sounds like a great idea.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
Don't take this as a dilemma, my friend. Because your problem is so simple. If that friend is really friends to you. He needs to understand that you cannot be there because of your conditions...Just send a cards that show how much you love him so much as friend. Explain to him you situation so that he can understand. That you cannot be there for his birthday and tried another birthday if you save some money to reach him...that what a simple you must do...have a nice day!
• United States
4 Nov 09
She certainly does understand! My birthday's the day after hers! I just enjoy letting her know how much I cherish our friendship!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
That's what a friends are for, my friend. I think he don't mind if you can't be there because of some problem, right?
@SouravRC (248)
• India
2 Nov 09
Give her something that she like most. But remember money doesn't matter just make her happy!
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• United States
2 Nov 09
She's a real music lover, and a movie lover. Maybe I can find a couple of DVDs of musicals! Thanks for a great suggestion!
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
I totally agree with SouravRC. You may send her something that she like most, even not the expensive kind. It's still the thought that counts. Or you may send her flowers, it can be ordered online nowadays. Apart from that, you may also do one of the suggestions here, do a video of him/her paying him/her a tribute, or a video of the two of you together or create a video showcasing your piles of pictures together, your moments together. That would be touchy I think. And you can give him/her a few minutes long distance call and greet him/her personally over the phone, confirm if he/she received the flowers and catch up on each other's activities. You may always keep in touch, there are too many social networking sites. Add him/her in facebook if he/she has one.
• United States
18 Jan 10
Send a care package with all of her favorite things.
• United States
18 Jan 10
Saving that idea for next year! Thanks!
@urbandekay (18314)
25 Nov 09
How about writing her a poem? all the best urban
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• United States
25 Nov 09
Good idea, Urb! I did just that in the card that accompanied the brzcelet I made for her!
• United States
4 Nov 09
Does she collect things like critter figurines (salt sets, dust collecters, miniatures..)? What is her favorite music?..favorite color?..Can you compose her a poem?..or a long personal day letter?..How about a live online (chat) birthday party
• United States
5 Nov 09
Great! I definitely think there will be a lot of calls -- my birthday is the next day!
• United States
4 Nov 09
Do you have pictures of her and you together? Maybe you can make a collage. One year for Christmas I had bought a jounal and had made a memory book for my then fiance (he is now my husband). It is important to show someone you care. Money should never be a factor when getting someone a gift. It is the thought that counts, not the amount you spend.
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• United States
5 Nov 09
Very thoughtful! Thank you.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
3 Nov 09
You've had some great suggestions already. I would add a couple more: The best card I ever got was one that a friend made for me using free software. In the card she told what was special about me, and about our friendship. It touched me deeply. I can't remember the gift that came with it, but I remember the card clearly. Another idea is, have you been friends a long time? do you have memorabilia from the time when you were often together? If you went to school together, or something like that? Sending a little bit of a memory would be really special.
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• United States
4 Nov 09
Your ideas are wonderful! Thank you for the response!
@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 09
Pralines from Savannah candy kitchen? idk not a clue.... But my mom sure did like their pralines...
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• United States
3 Nov 09
They're the best!!! I think the charm bracelet is the best idea, though. I'll keep those luscious southern gems in mind as stocking stuffers! Thanks!
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@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
3 Nov 09
Do you have pictures of you and yours? How about pictures of you and your friend? Make a DVD of you, yours, and your friend, out of the pictures you have. Set it to your favorite music and walla! you have a birthday present.
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• United States
3 Nov 09
Good idea, but I think I'm going to go with a charm bracelet, to which I can add for every holiday and birthday!
• Malaysia
3 Nov 09
Oh, by reading one of the responses above, I guess you have probably decided what to do, but in addition to that I would love to suggest something. If you can get any radio station to call her and dedicate something to her that would be touching, I think! Or maybe you can forward the link of this discussion to her during her birthday. She would know that how much you have thought something special just for her. Well, in case she will be reading this, 'Happy Birthday to Joanne's friend'!!
• United States
3 Nov 09
Another very good idea! Thanks!
@wmraul (2557)
• Bucharest, Romania
3 Nov 09
An old proverb say: "Little gifts support friendships. Big gifts shows love" Now, just don't think "little" and "big" as dimensions (sizes) ..
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• United States
3 Nov 09
Of course, you are on the same wave length as I!
@fifileigh (3621)
• United States
3 Nov 09
how about create a basket or gift bag with all her favorite interests in it, such as favorite cd of her favorite singer, dvd of her favorite movie, picture, book, candy, flower, etc. it can be bunch of little things that she loves, compiled together in one box, basket or gift bag to make up a big gift.
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• United States
3 Nov 09
Wonderful idea, but I've decided to go the way of the charm bracelet!
• United States
3 Nov 09
what I'd love from a friend... a card they know I'd find hilarious cause they know me that well. gift card to my favorite restaurant or coffee place.
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• United States
3 Nov 09
Great response, thank you!